atiga aashapade atta.....venting out kodalu...

October 12, 2018

I have hi-bye relationship with my inlaws.
They never helped me or respected me as a dil in entire 7 years.
Neber ever showed some affection/ love towards my DD who happens to be thier first grandchild and only grandchild till date.
We make FaceTime every week, where they would want to see my DD just to tell neighbors and relatives that we talk.

Since we live in US, whatever work we have back home(bank, loan other paper work) they don't think a a second, straight away call my parents and dump on them without our knowledge.
SIL ( my husband's sister) is married and lives in the same house with PIL. They completely take care from food to housing.
She doesn't cook, clean only works and come back home to enjoy tv and go out on weekends.

If we go out, or my DH send pic of our outting. She immediately tells " why spending money" we can visit places when we visit you. Makes sure we visit the same place when they are here. 2 times she visited us here, made me go thru hell.
I stopped interacting much after she came and caused a choas.
Now, the main reason of the post is she always wants money.
She thinks it's luxury life we are leading here. She herself saw how we struggle here with single income and with H4 I can't work.

My DD used to go to private school, we had to shift to a 2bhk house.
Every one in Bay area knows how much rents we have to shell.
Yesterday after the FaceTime, she is asking more money because whatever my husband sent is not enough.
Every month they want 500$ !!!
Already for a decade my DH is paying the following
1) my DH pay thier internet bill, phone, electricity bills.
2) pays insurance
3) all thier medical bills and medicine
4) gifts for cousins, relatives on thier function and weddings in the name of inlaws (not ours)
5) gave 25 laks for building PIL house
6) gave 5-6 laks for sister wedding
7) gave them 4 laks in hand when we visited them last
All these aren't enough for them

Now we have left with no savings , forget investments. I'm terrified about our future and kid's.
I don't know how to tell my DH that his parents are greedy.
Why they can't ask rent from thier daughter who lives in thier house in separate portion? Or cast her out rent someone else if they can't take money from daughter.

They haven't bought a single dress for my DD in all these years.
People who have interacted with my DD for only few times like her. My mil never lifted DD saying back pain when DD was 3 days old. How much 3 day old child, first grandchild can weigh??
But she is ready to come in 23 hrs non stop flight , shops floors of malls.. then back pain vanishes.

Just vent. Tell me how to cut her from asking more money. I'm tired of fighting with my DH .