Aunty woes... Aunty Aunty Aunty......y calling Aunty

[Spartan]

@Amy99  @Diana @MagaMaharaju

Lots of threads with aunty woes..hence the title

I am a 38 year old and yeah I am in that aunty age.Why is the aunty word so dreadful?Coz honestly our minds are wired that "aunty" means aged looking and someone not taking care of themselves.Aunty means elderly lady according to the world.let's be honest.

Anyways..some over do it.

for eg..I remember a 28 year old (I was 35 at that time) who is taller and well built than me calling me aunty for every sentence.Honestly..I felt like punching her face big time.(I had to vent ha ha).worst was,she introduced me to her 33 year old husband by adding aunty to my name.Quickly,my friend came to my rescue and said that she can address me by my name and it is not like she is way younger bluntly..

funniest thing was last time in an India trip,my own mom's friend (she is a sweetheart though) played a villi..
I went to her home and her son who was 29 was newly married.He was huge and 6.1 in height.My mom's friend said "please fall at her (me)feet and seek her blessings."

my heart burst to 10000 pieces...the newly married couple fell at my feet and I put akshadai on them.He told me "thank you aunty"..

I looked at my mom and she was trying to control her laughter..
 

[Spartan]

Aunt or aunty as we Indians say, is indeed a dreaded and plain insulting word depending on who uses it and against whom. Aunty can be anyone older than us by a couple of decades. Generally, we teach kids to call someone older than 30 as aunty or uncle and all under that age group are didis and bhais. This is simply to teach them to respect elders. But once in the workforce or family life, the age gaps begin to blur and it is perfect to address someone by name or surname and when the affection and closeness is more, it may be even okay to prefix it with akka, didi, Anna, bhai, ma, ji etc. provided the other person is okay with it.

The issue arises when the word aunty is used to push someone into an 'elderly' bracket or a brand. This puts unspoken gaps in communication especially in online communications where everyone is a virtual contact. I think it is better to avoid these divisive forms of address online unless a relationship matures to that special level. Offline of course, in an instant we connect and addressing someone older as aunty or uncle out of 'real' respect should be quite okay. And if someone is uncomfortable with this form of address, one should also be mature enough to honour it.

On the day of my marriage, my husband introduced me to a bunch of relatives who were all older than me but were my grandchildren through relationship! I used to wear crisp cotton sarees in my twenties and because of that many, including older women, would address me as aunty! This was derogatory and plain stupidity on their part. Now women in salwars or any other Indian costumes get this tag!! Do they mean wearing Indian costumes is regressive or archaic? Many less educated women/men address others, even in their age group, as aunty or uncle. Though this reflects their low awareness, it definitely brands the other person if they don't object and if they object, it is a point of a ridiculous discussion! Mostly women play this stupid game. Their curiosity and detective strategies to find out someone's age and brand them as 'aunty' somehow gives them a cheap thrill!

A neighbour used to claim that she became a post-graduate by the age of 15! Another lady hid her age by claiming that she graduated after kids were born and thus they weren't aunties while all others around them were! And a few years ago when I met her, she had aged overnight by 15 years & was eligible for Railway senior citizen 's discount! I still don't understand why someone had to hide their age so much...was it have the vicarious pleasure of calling other women in their age group as aunties? I think it's time women, at least the educated, got out of this trap.

[dasara_bullodu]

Aunty is not age aunty is size ani cheppandi aunty ki

[rapchik]

4 minutes ago, Spartan said:

@Amy99  @Diana @MagaMaharaju

Lots of threads with aunty woes..hence the title

I am a 38 year old and yeah I am in that aunty age.Why is the aunty word so dreadful?Coz honestly our minds are wired that "aunty" means aged looking and someone not taking care of themselves.Aunty means elderly lady according to the world.let's be honest.

Anyways..some over do it.

for eg..I remember a 28 year old (I was 35 at that time) who is taller and well built than me calling me aunty for every sentence.Honestly..I felt like punching her face big time.(I had to vent ha ha).worst was,she introduced me to her 33 year old husband by adding aunty to my name.Quickly,my friend came to my rescue and said that she can address me by my name and it is not like she is way younger bluntly..

funniest thing was last time in an India trip,my own mom's friend (she is a sweetheart though) played a villi..
I went to her home and her son who was 29 was newly married.He was huge and 6.1 in height.My mom's friend said "please fall at her (me)feet and seek her blessings."

my heart burst to 10000 pieces...the newly married couple fell at my feet and I put akshadai on them.He told me "thank you aunty"..

I looked at my mom and she was trying to control her laughter..
 

[rapchik]

3 minutes ago, dasara_bullodu said:

Aunty is not age aunty is size ani cheppandi aunty ki

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