3 years marriage..no first night yet... planning today...tips please..

[Spartan]

I am not a newly wed .I am not sure if I can post this here. Please let me know if this is not allowed. Been married for almost three years now. We never consummated (main thing) due to several reasons (religious, distance living, studies and job). We had some serious relationship issues, and even thought of divorce at a time.

Planning to do it in the coming months as we have started getting pressure for a baby now. We satisfied eachother through other means last three years . I would like to get some ideas to make it special the first time. Though its been 3 years, I feel first time should be special. Help me out ladies. Share your thoughts?

Want to make it as memorable as possible. Can you share some ideas.
I have few ideas in mind.since we are not newly weds we are comfortable with eachother though a bit scared of the pain.
A second honeymoon would be good.
I am a bit sentimental type, How did you guys have your first. One of my friends said they did it on one of their birthdays which was 4 months after the wedding. They also did it at their new home .(which my friend was adamant about). She says whenever she goes back to their home in India it reminds them of it and its nostalgic.

Another friend had it in husbands house and said she doesnt want to think about it again. Dont know what happened. I am thinking of going for vacation for two weeks to switzerland or the like just to enjoy ourselves. Will two weeks be good enough ? Will it be boring since we are not newly weds. Will we be physically in good condition to explore in case we get bored?


My second friend said she felt sad and depressed for weeks after the D day. She felt like she lost something that she would never get. Do girls normally feel sad about their first? While googling I read about girls keeping the bedsheets and stuff. One of my cousin had her first time before marriage and she said they took a weeks vacation and went abroad for it.

[Spartan]

Star, I should confess I find your threads refreshing, as if they were from a different (fantasy) world that I do not know. Holding off on the first time for three YEARS, planning for it months in advance even after that three years wait, pressure for a baby also coming after three years, all these are unheard of. In my world, it just happens, any place, any time, any surface and if a nudge is needed anything could do, simple rain, jasmines, white wine would be better and some chocolate would make it even better but all of them could be there (in our minds) even if they are not there (actually) so I am having a hard time coming up with some ideas.
Baby questions would have started a few months or within the first year at most and we would be planning a vacation in some infant friendly place with our at least one year old, with FIL, MIL,SIL, BIL and anyone else who wants to tag along so question of second honeymoon will not arise

I feel you are more lucky than your friend who's DH earns 9 lacs pm as your DH is ready to take you on honeymoon after 3 years of marriage. You can go to some place you always wanted to but haven't yet, stay in a nice resort or hotel, forget about everything else and once you get started you will not get bored so you can plan for four weeks as well if that's an option. I will be looking for your post-honeymoon thread

[panipoori]

Ikkada Uth ready ga vndi ani ping cheyi.....

[nearachakam]

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[AlaElaAlaEla]

17 minutes ago, panipoori said:

Ikkada Uth ready ga vndi ani ping cheyi.....

[Raazu]

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[panipoori]

1 minute ago, Raazu said:

U have so much time to type fake stories

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[AlaElaAlaEla]

1 minute ago, panipoori said:

lol avi IL discussions nunchi techina stories

[panipoori]

5 minutes ago, AlaElaAlaEla said:

[nearachakam]

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[MiryalgudaMaruthiRao]

@k2s taatha help please 

[watt_a_fruit]

51 minutes ago, Spartan said:

I am not a newly wed .I am not sure if I can post this here. Please let me know if this is not allowed. Been married for almost three years now. We never consummated (main thing) due to several reasons (religious, distance living, studies and job). We had some serious relationship issues, and even thought of divorce at a time.

Planning to do it in the coming months as we have started getting pressure for a baby now. We satisfied eachother through other means last three years . I would like to get some ideas to make it special the first time. Though its been 3 years, I feel first time should be special. Help me out ladies. Share your thoughts?

Want to make it as memorable as possible. Can you share some ideas.
I have few ideas in mind.since we are not newly weds we are comfortable with eachother though a bit scared of the pain.
A second honeymoon would be good.
I am a bit sentimental type, How did you guys have your first. One of my friends said they did it on one of their birthdays which was 4 months after the wedding. They also did it at their new home .(which my friend was adamant about). She says whenever she goes back to their home in India it reminds them of it and its nostalgic.

Another friend had it in husbands house and said she doesnt want to think about it again. Dont know what happened. I am thinking of going for vacation for two weeks to switzerland or the like just to enjoy ourselves. Will two weeks be good enough ? Will it be boring since we are not newly weds. Will we be physically in good condition to explore in case we get bored?


My second friend said she felt sad and depressed for weeks after the D day. She felt like she lost something that she would never get. Do girls normally feel sad about their first? While googling I read about girls keeping the bedsheets and stuff. One of my cousin had her first time before marriage and she said they took a weeks vacation and went abroad for it.

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[panipoori]

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20 minutes ago, MiryalgudaMaruthiRao said:

@k2s taatha help please 

calling @NTR to help with this topic as it deals about Viagra...

[MiryalgudaMaruthiRao]

5 minutes ago, 294thID said:

calling @NTR to help with this topic as it deals about Viagra...

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