Marriage piece should be beautiful or samsarapaksham?

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Me exp or me friends experience chepandaya,

for marriage amayi kathilaga vunte better or samsara pakshanga vunte better?

 

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depends on viewers perspective ani na bidda septunnadu 

 

randi meeku muddulu ruddesthadu 

[Paidithalli]

Katthi la unna ... sampradhaya baddhamga unna sava10gudu mathram unavoidable thing in any relation . So kocnhem andham ga unna ammai vosthe atleast neeku compromise ayipodham le anipisthundhi. 

Average ga unde ammailu.. paddhathiga kanipinche papalu mana mata vintarani ankodam chala wrong babai.. pelli anedhi padipothe malli paiki raleni gothi...

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1 minute ago, Paidithalli said:

Katthi la unna ... sampradhaya baddhamga unna sava10gudu mathram unavoidable. So kocnhem andham ga unna ammai vosthe atleast neeku compromise ayipodham le anipisthundhi. 

Average ga unde ammailu.. paddhathiga kanipinche papalu mana mata vintarani ankodam chala wrong babai.. pelli anedhi padipothe malli paiki raleni gothi...

lol

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Mundhu piece dorikay ante apudu options gurinchi think chey uncle  

[GucciGang]

kathi la untey thegudhi 

[GucciGang]

3 minutes ago, Paidithalli said:

Katthi la unna ... sampradhaya baddhamga unna sava10gudu mathram unavoidable thing in any relation . So kocnhem andham ga unna ammai vosthe atleast neeku compromise ayipodham le anipisthundhi. 

Average ga unde ammailu.. paddhathiga kanipinche papalu mana mata vintarani ankodam chala wrong babai.. pelli anedhi padipothe malli paiki raleni gothi...

they should refine pelli thammi  2019 bhi old age rules kakunda   easy to get out unto better  not spoiling ones life

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I will go anonymous on this one.

I am 40 years old male from India, alpha male dominant type personality, graduated from the top business school (yes you know my school) and earning top dollar. Having worked in top multinationals in Europe and India so having good travelling / exposure. I become very uncomfortable and embarrassed to say this even while I am anonymous but I am a good looking and tall guy with strong built. (just wrote as its relevant to the answer)

I was an extremely beauty conscious person for as long as I can remember. when I grew up I had a documented list of how my future wife should look like. it listed exactly how she would look like from her hair, eyes, complexion, hands, height, figure down to her toe nails. I was obsessive about it. in addition to that I also desired a girl who would adjust with my family.

After these 2 broken engagements and a frantic unsuccessful dry search of 6 years coming across very unreasonable people, I lost all hope of finding any pretty and suitable girl. as they say when hope is lost everything is lost. after long thinking I came to the conclusion that I have two choices either I can continue to try, or give up. I was 30 at that time and really wanted to get settle down, and I was tired of it. so I made a big decision and gave it up as a bad job. As it happens, in my family circle there was a girl of marriageable age, and I said “I DO” to an arranged marriage to a girl who was a nice girl but wasn’t good looking at all, and hence she became my current wife of 10 years.

Let me tell you, I respect my wife and take care of her. I am kind with her we have kids together and I provide for her and my kids every need. But I DO NOT love her AT ALL. I have been unable to bring myself to love her. I have not been able to find her attractive. I have tried to tell her what i like in makeup / dressing / self grooming but she hasn't been able to pick that up or is lazy to apply it on her or be better groomed. Every girl will eventually go back to be dressed or groomed like she used to be before marriage and all her previous life she was not fashionable or into make up / grooming.

Every time I see a guy with a pretty / well groomed wife in reality or in fb pics, I get extremely depressed and miserable. for the last 10 years of our marriage I am the most unhappiest person for not getting what I most desired in my life to have. it was all that I ever worked for during my student days and my professional career. everything is hollow cuz I do not have what mattered to me so much. Heart is a wild thing and u cannot ignore or suppress what you feel. I cannot talk myself out of it. At 40 years of age there hasn't been a single time that I saw somebody with a pretty wife and it did not spoil my day. I still remain nice and loyal to my wife but this has put a huge Tax on my own well being. sometimes I feel I am in a state of depression. I find myself googling about pretty women on internet and facebook. I fantasize about having a trophy wife. I do not see that going away anytime soon.

I often think about getting on the road again for search of a pretty wife but stop because of my wife and kids. i think if I could not find it in 6 years being a bachelor and young what es are that I can find one now. I came back to India to take care of my sick father and be with him and I need better from life to be able to do it as best as I can. I feel exhausted most of the times. this has become a chronic cancerous psychological issue for me. I have stopped caring about my health as i used to and do not feel like exercising any more.

I control my emotions so I have not let any of this effect my career which is still great, but I know I can never come out of this depression that I am in for the last 1o years. I consider myself a failure. I become even more sad on my anniversary day, I secretly call it “surrender day” as that was the day I gave up. if we remain married for the next 50 years I will get depressed every single time I see another guy with a pretty wife.

Do yourself a favor, if beauty is what you want, and you are an alpha male type of a person, do not listen to anyone, do not be apologetic and do not compromise. do not think you will get over it with time. do not think nature and good heart will make up for looks. do not talk yourself into thinking that looks will fade. Marry someone who you find physically attractive, who is presentable / groomed to YOUR own standards. Live your best Life dude !

 

 

 

[Dubasi]

Neeku nee mindset ki set ayye ammai ni chesuko braah...physical appearance dhi emundhi...

ninnu ardham chesukovaali, family tho set avaali....samsaara paksham antey endhi...nanga boku laaga undi backdoor lo chootiya panulu cheyytam. pullalu pettadam aaaa....kathi laaga untey only problem ...bayatiki vellina appudu andaru aa amai ney choosthaaru...pelli ayina flirt chesthaaru open gaa...even so called samsaara paksham types ni kooda andaru gokathaaru....

it all depends on the girl mindset and her value to marriage irrespective of looks...but tamaru kooda vaarini ardham chesukovaalla....kattubanisa ni chedhaam ani choosthey katappa laaga undi grudha lo podusthaaru...enjoy man

 

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1 minute ago, Dubasi said:

Neeku nee minset ki set ayye ammai ni chesuko braah...physical appearance dhi emundhi...

ninnu ardham chesukovaali, family tho set avaali....samsaara paksham antey endhi...nanga boku laaga undi backdoor lo chootiya panulu cheyytam. pullalu pettadam aaaa....kathi laaga untey only problem ...bayatiki vellina appudu andaru aa amai ney choosthaaru...pelli ayina flirt chesthaaru open gaa...even so called samsaara paksham types ni kooda andaru gokathaaru....

it all depends on the girl mindset and her value to marriage irrespective of looks...but tamaru kooda vaarini ardham chesukovaalla....kattubanisa ni chedhaam ani choosthey katappa laaga undi grudha lo podusthaaru...enjoy man

  

Exactly na point adhe bro!! 

If girl is beautiful high chances of goking, average aythy light for example, 

Heroine chellali character chesevallani gokaru, heroine andaru gokataniki try cheshtharu. Example 

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20 minutes ago, whatsapp said:

copied from quora

 

 

 

 

I will go anonymous on this one.

I am 40 years old male from India, alpha male dominant type personality, graduated from the top business school (yes you know my school) and earning top dollar. Having worked in top multinationals in Europe and India so having good travelling / exposure. I become very uncomfortable and embarrassed to say this even while I am anonymous but I am a good looking and tall guy with strong built. (just wrote as its relevant to the answer)

I was an extremely beauty conscious person for as long as I can remember. when I grew up I had a documented list of how my future wife should look like. it listed exactly how she would look like from her hair, eyes, complexion, hands, height, figure down to her toe nails. I was obsessive about it. in addition to that I also desired a girl who would adjust with my family.

After these 2 broken engagements and a frantic unsuccessful dry search of 6 years coming across very unreasonable people, I lost all hope of finding any pretty and suitable girl. as they say when hope is lost everything is lost. after long thinking I came to the conclusion that I have two choices either I can continue to try, or give up. I was 30 at that time and really wanted to get settle down, and I was tired of it. so I made a big decision and gave it up as a bad job. As it happens, in my family circle there was a girl of marriageable age, and I said “I DO” to an arranged marriage to a girl who was a nice girl but wasn’t good looking at all, and hence she became my current wife of 10 years.

Let me tell you, I respect my wife and take care of her. I am kind with her we have kids together and I provide for her and my kids every need. But I DO NOT love her AT ALL. I have been unable to bring myself to love her. I have not been able to find her attractive. I have tried to tell her what i like in makeup / dressing / self grooming but she hasn't been able to pick that up or is lazy to apply it on her or be better groomed. Every girl will eventually go back to be dressed or groomed like she used to be before marriage and all her previous life she was not fashionable or into make up / grooming.

Every time I see a guy with a pretty / well groomed wife in reality or in fb pics, I get extremely depressed and miserable. for the last 10 years of our marriage I am the most unhappiest person for not getting what I most desired in my life to have. it was all that I ever worked for during my student days and my professional career. everything is hollow cuz I do not have what mattered to me so much. Heart is a wild thing and u cannot ignore or suppress what you feel. I cannot talk myself out of it. At 40 years of age there hasn't been a single time that I saw somebody with a pretty wife and it did not spoil my day. I still remain nice and loyal to my wife but this has put a huge Tax on my own well being. sometimes I feel I am in a state of depression. I find myself googling about pretty women on internet and facebook. I fantasize about having a trophy wife. I do not see that going away anytime soon.

I often think about getting on the road again for search of a pretty wife but stop because of my wife and kids. i think if I could not find it in 6 years being a bachelor and young what es are that I can find one now. I came back to India to take care of my sick father and be with him and I need better from life to be able to do it as best as I can. I feel exhausted most of the times. this has become a chronic cancerous psychological issue for me. I have stopped caring about my health as i used to and do not feel like exercising any more.

I control my emotions so I have not let any of this effect my career which is still great, but I know I can never come out of this depression that I am in for the last 1o years. I consider myself a failure. I become even more sad on my anniversary day, I secretly call it “surrender day” as that was the day I gave up. if we remain married for the next 50 years I will get depressed every single time I see another guy with a pretty wife.

Do yourself a favor, if beauty is what you want, and you are an alpha male type of a person, do not listen to anyone, do not be apologetic and do not compromise. do not think you will get over it with time. do not think nature and good heart will make up for looks. do not talk yourself into thinking that looks will fade. Marry someone who you find physically attractive, who is presentable / groomed to YOUR own standards. Live your best Life dude !

 

 

 

wtf man  he is suffering from past 10 years    should get over it  or divorce and get a pretty b*tch   no point in suffering 

[Dubasi]

7 minutes ago, whatsapp said:

Exactly na point adhe bro!! 

If girl is beautiful high chances of goking, average aythy light for example, 

Heroine chellali character chesevallani gokaru, heroine andaru gokataniki try cheshtharu. Example 

paina cheppagaa...present trend lo normal ga unna vallani kooda vadhili pettatledhu...so it all depends on the girl itself..hoe she overcome such scenarios..

for egaample...Amiya average look..kaani bayakaramaina physical feelings unai but evadu dekhadu...ee case ok na neeku....it shouldnt be ideally...

dont fix your brain,,,fix on the mindset and try your luck....inga db pedhamundalu comments chesthaaru ley...enjoy..

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Nethi pagala kottukodaaniki a raayi aithe endi....but beautiful girl oste chex lo kaneesam enjoyment anna untadi

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@kiladi bullodu can answer this better

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2 hours ago, Dubasi said:

Neeku nee mindset ki set ayye ammai ni chesuko braah...physical appearance dhi emundhi...

ninnu ardham chesukovaali, family tho set avaali....samsaara paksham antey endhi...nanga boku laaga undi backdoor lo chootiya panulu cheyytam. pullalu pettadam aaaa....kathi laaga untey only problem ...bayatiki vellina appudu andaru aa amai ney choosthaaru...pelli ayina flirt chesthaaru open gaa...even so called samsaara paksham types ni kooda andaru gokathaaru....

it all depends on the girl mindset and her value to marriage irrespective of looks...but tamaru kooda vaarini ardham chesukovaalla....kattubanisa ni chedhaam ani choosthey katappa laaga undi grudha lo podusthaaru...enjoy man

 

Ivanni bekaar maatalu....pilla dorkaka kunti saakulu cheppe suggestions ivi, aina pelli neekosam cheskuntaava leda nee pellam ni evado soostadu ani vaala kosam bakwaas daani cheskuntava?....pilla baagunte evadaina soostadu avi anni pattinchukovadu unless pilla crosses the line moreover US lo evadiki pilla ni tease chese dairyam undadu.....don't compromise on what you want....tarvaata aa story lo laaga edustaa koosovaale life long