He wanted to sleep with me before deciding to marry me!

[Paidithalli]

Physical compatibility and marriage

We are no strangers to having a physical relationship with a person we are in love with and I am no different. But can a physical relationship be the only criteria to judge if the person is eligible to be your life partner or not? When I was in my late twenties, my parents found a match for me, an educated and well-settled Indian boy in the US. But how things unfolded left me quite surprised, if not shocked.

02/8When my parents looked for a match on a matrimonial site

It seems parents are now opening up to the idea of finding a match through matrimonial sites and some parents like mine even open accounts of their children on their own accord. When my parents came across a good match they told me about him and with my consent, we made contact with the man who was working in a software company in Chicago. 

03/8Everything seemed perfect

After getting acquainted on the matrimonial site, we exchanged numbers and slowly started chatting and talking over the phone. Everything seemed to have fallen into place and I had this feeling that we shared a good rapport and compatibility. One day, he also said that he shared the same feeling. 

 

04/8And our parents got involved

After talking with him for more than a month, I informed my parents that we liked each other and they can take the matter forward. My parents then got in touch with his folks and they too sounded eager. His parents suggested that they were planning to visit India during Christmas and the New Year holidays and then both the families can meet.

05/8As the days of his visit neared

As the days of his visit neared, our frequency of phone calls also increased. Hardly a day went by without talking with him for hours. I felt like I knew him for years and we talked about our likes, dislikes and how we will plan our marriage. Although we hadn’t met each other yet, it didn’t bother us at all.

Then the strange thing happened

A week before his visit to India, he messaged me saying he wants to discuss something important. I picked up his call with great anticipation. During our conversation, he offered a strange proposal. “Before meeting our parents, don’t you think we should try spending some time with each other? How about staying at a hotel and knowing each other better?” I was a little baffled hearing this and when I said I didn’t understand what he meant, he almost laughed and said, “Oh! Come on, don’t be naive. Don’t you think physical compatibility is important? If we don’t know how good we are in bed, how will the marriage work?”

07/8I stepped back

I have had physical relationship in the past but never thought that physical compatibility can be the only criteria to judge a person for marriage. I disconnected the call giving some excuse because my brain was still processing what he said. He must have sensed my apprehension and tried to pacify me by messaging his explanations. One of his messages read, “I don’t know why you are so surprised. Most people do that. I too have met girls before and parted ways when we realised we were not physically compatible.” It took me a while to gain my composure but once I did, I asked him politely that things would not work between us. Thankfully, he too understood and we never met.

08/8What I realised

I am not judging him, maybe, for some people physical compatibility matters the most before deciding whether to marry someone or not. More than being shocked, I took it as a learning experience. We both had different ideas about marriage and I was grateful that I could realise this  it was too late

[Paidithalli]

“Before meeting our parents, don’t you think we should try spending some time with each other? How about staying at a hotel and knowing each other better?” I was a little baffled hearing this and when I said I didn’t understand what he meant, he almost laughed and said, “Oh! Come on, don’t be naive. Don’t you think physical compatibility is important? If we don’t know how good we are in bed, how will the marriage work?” 

[Paidithalli]

@kevinUsa @samaja_varagamana  

[GucciGang]

arranged marriages kanna  kontha kalam  dating chesi  pelli chesukovadam  best va      physical ga ani correct ga unnaya  pani chesthundha check chesukovachu  its a opportunity for both specially for girls     pelli ayinaka discover chesthe  divorce iyyaneke nnot everybody will be ready

[Paidithalli]

 test drive lekunda bandi etla konali antunna @raaajaaa

[Paidithalli]

ila driving nerchukodaniki okadu.... test drive antu inkokadu... ammailani exploit chesthe.... brand new car lu kuda shed lone untayantunna @karthikan

[panipoori]

Test drive cheyakunda vehicle kontaav entra you idiot

[Paidithalli]

3 minutes ago, GucciGang said:

arranged marriages kanna  kontha kalam  dating chesi  pelli chesukovadam  best va      physical ga ani correct ga unnaya  pani chesthundha check chesukovachu  its a opportunity for both specially for girls     pelli ayinaka discover chesthe  divorce iyyaneke nnot everybody will be ready

 @whatsapp bro.. whats your opinion on this ?

[jefferson1]

A abcd gadu dating chesi marriage cheskovochu kada, why marry some buffalo

 

 

[Sachin200]

Previously Test drive chesina car ante kontara ??

[samaja_varagamana]

15 minutes ago, Paidithalli said:

@kevinUsa @samaja_varagamana  

jai balayya motham chadavale matter endi

[Sachin200]

Chesedhi manam ayithe baguntadi ( yes antamu and we should do that anta)

Adhe mana inti car ni test drive chestaru vere vallu ante  ( siblings ) appudu it will be difficult

[kevinUsa]

ila andaru test drive cheste  

mana number enta ani ela telustundi ?

anta mandi test drive cheste unna juices annu aypotayi 

[DrBeta]

On 3/18/2019 at 10:39 AM, kevinUsa said:

ila andaru test drive cheste  

mana number enta ani ela telustundi ?

anta mandi test drive cheste unna juices annu aypotayi 

227

[afacc123]

5 minutes ago, DrBeta said:

227

Means? Yes 

 

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