Cheating

[kevinUsa]

I am married to a merchant navy captain. Have two kids 5yrs and 35 days. 
Recently I came to know that while coming back from ship after 5 months at delhi airport my husband had 9 hrs waiting... In that time he went out to hotel and slept with a call girl. 
Next day was our 11th anniversary nd didnt even want to cut the cake. Kya zaruri hai. I cinfronted him nd he accepted that. Told his family. They scolded him. Nd said next time dont do. But it was nd still very difficult to take that **** out from my mind nd my heart. I was in my 9th month pregnancy... Whole month i spent crying nd showing my anger..his father came here to stay with us for my delivery... He said ho gaya na.. .Forget it.. .Forgive him. I told him its not easy to forgive. He said because of ur anger my son is going into depression. Few days gone.. Because i was not able to control my anger.. V fought again and then his father said to his son.. Keep quite she just needs attention thats why she is doing all this. 
His all family memeber hv blocked my number because i was showing my anger and i told his father to get out of our house. 
Delivered my baby girl nd my husband was fine. Was taking care of me. But then aftet 10 days without telling anything went to some hotel and stayed there for 4 days. I told his family but no one was replying back. 
Then my sister sent a msg that if he will not come home we will file a compalint against him. Ok he came back home. My sister scolded him a lot. Nd he said i will never donit again. 
The again after a week he told me he is doing some course nd everyday he used to leave home at 6:30 in d morning nd come back at 6 in d evening. Luckiny I came to know that he went to hotel again nd sleeping with girls. Nd having viagras also. 
He used to hit me. He drinks..he smokes.. He gives me limited money when he goes for sailing. 

Now he is showing that he is changing and will not do that **** again. But I am sure he is calling or that agent is calling him. . He has saved numbers as boys name so i cant catch him. 

Today when i was drinking. I tried to stop him nd he said zada karegi toh i will go again. 

I hv two kids. Dont know what should i do??? ? My son loves him a lot

[kevinUsa]

0What do you want OP?
Will you ever be able to love, trust or have sex with him. He dont love or respect you for sure. You are just a kid making machine for him.

He can get STD/AIDS etc..ask him to do test for it if you decide to stay.

Ask him what he and his family do if you sleep with "call boys? " multiple times .. ask what explanation he can give for cheating his own family and kids Will he ever be a good role model for his kids?

You said
"He used to hit me. He drinks..he smokes.. He gives me limited money when he goes for sailing. "
Abuser, alchoholic, smoker, not a good provider.

"In that time he went out to hotel and slept with a callgirl"
"went to some hotel and stayed there for 4 days."
"Luckiny I came to know that he went to hotel again nd sleepingwithgirls"
"But I am sure he is calling or that agent is calling him."

A cheater
You dont trust him. What message you give your kids by staying with this serial cheater. Cheater is always a cheater. He proved it. How did you come to know all these. Will you ever get peace of mind.

"My sonloveshim a lot"
But he dont love kids. He loves his sexual pleasure than anything else. If he ever loved them he would not have screwed up their life like this. He can continue as their father even if you stay or leave him. What if your kids follow his footsteps ..

Seriously, ....
It's your life your decision, no one can tell you what to do...dont you have any self respect? He is treating you like ****

If you decide to stay, dont take him back immediately. Tell him you can't live with him again. Give some shock treatment. Let him suffer too. One option is to ask him to quit current job and live with you and kids. He should be with you every day. He should prove his worth to be with you again.

But if he is tempted to go, he will find ways to do it again and hide it from you...how many chances you are ready to give. You know only the above three cases. What about unknown cases.

So to hear all these...follow your gut feeling. People will have different opinion. But no one is in your shoes. So think well and take a decision that will give you peace of mind..

[Mitron]

20 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

I am married to a merchant navy captain. Have two kids 5yrs and 35 days. 
Recently I came to know that while coming back from ship after 5 months at delhi airport my husband had 9 hrs waiting... In that time he went out to hotel and slept with a call girl. 
Next day was our 11th anniversary nd didnt even want to cut the cake. Kya zaruri hai. I cinfronted him nd he accepted that. Told his family. They scolded him. Nd said next time dont do. But it was nd still very difficult to take that **** out from my mind nd my heart. I was in my 9th month pregnancy... Whole month i spent crying nd showing my anger..his father came here to stay with us for my delivery... He said ho gaya na.. .Forget it.. .Forgive him. I told him its not easy to forgive. He said because of ur anger my son is going into depression. Few days gone.. Because i was not able to control my anger.. V fought again and then his father said to his son.. Keep quite she just needs attention thats why she is doing all this. 
 His all family memeber hv blocked my number because i was showing my anger and i told his father to get out of our house. 
Delivered my baby girl nd my husband was fine. Was taking care of me. But then aftet 10 days without telling anything went to some hotel and stayed there for 4 days. I told his family but no one was replying back. 
 Then my sister sent a msg that if he will not come home we will file a compalint against him. Ok he came back home. My sister scolded him a lot. Nd he said i will never donit again. 
The again after a week he told me he is doing some course nd everyday he used to leave home at 6:30 in d morning nd come back at 6 in d evening. Luckiny I came to know that he went to hotel again nd sleeping with girls. Nd having viagras also. 
He used to hit me. He drinks..he smokes.. He gives me limited money when he goes for sailing. 

Now he is showing that he is changing and will not do that **** again. But I am sure he is calling or that agent is calling him. . He has saved numbers as boys name so i cant catch him. 

Today when i was drinking. I tried to stop him nd he said zada karegi toh i will go again. 

I hv two kids. Dont know what should i do??? ? My son loves him a lot

aa **** place lo emi rasav ba

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