andham shaswatham kadhu - Manasu, manchithanam shaswatham

[Amrita]

7 minutes ago, BDurruti said:

hmm.. but aduguthunna ani tappu anukoku. are you in a relationship? marriage cheskoka povatam veru, evariki andha kunda brathukatam anedhi not sustainable.

 

 

I am not against love or marriage  . Love is a beautiful feeling . It’s a necessity to be loved . But all I am saying is pelli is  not an ambition or a mile stone . Yes I am a seeing a guy currently . Don’t know if it will work out for sure though 

[samaja_varagamana]

1 minute ago, BDurruti said:

all marriages are for society. I married just for society. lekunte we were happy with the previous arrangement that worked for us for a long time.

yes i accept lovers do get married for society and you wont have an exit clause after that. But in that case atleast you have a known devil rather than an unknown angel.

But in case of arranged marriage its just like buying  a power ball ticket.Dont you think so ?

[samaja_varagamana]

15 minutes ago, BostonBullodu said:

manchi vyakthi ne adigavu just wait for the answer..lol

enduku is he narsi ?

[Amrita]

8 minutes ago, samaja_varagamana said:

yes i accept lovers do get married for society and you wont have an exit clause after that. But in that case atleast you have a known devil rather than an unknown angel.

But in case of arranged marriage its just like buying  a power ball ticket.Dont you think so ?

You always have exit clause . Papers can’t make two individuals live under same roof . Divorce is an exit clause . Also love marriages ayite enti peli ayyaka they might realize they are two different persons who are poles apart . Live in lone telustayi really asalu nature of perosn and if we can adjust with him . Mundu anta we just show our best behavior. Most cases lo they adjust and make it work anthe .

[Amrita]

1 minute ago, samaja_varagamana said:

enduku is he narsi ?

Inka ardham kaleda ? 

[BDurruti]

Just now, samaja_varagamana said:

yes i accept lovers do get married for society and you wont have an exit clause after that. But in that case atleast you have a known devil rather than an unknown angel. 

But in case of arranged marriage its just like buying  a power ball ticket.Dont you think so ?

lol. arranged marriages, especially in upper middle class that populate this db, are no different from love marriages kadha. lets be honest.

no one is going to show you some random person, and force you to marry them. your families look into each other's history extensively and then agree to the match.

the same thing you do when you look for love. because you are not going to go search for a girl in a slum near your area. you'll find someone mostly in your social and economic class, may be slightly lower/higher.

love/arranged all the same.

[BDurruti]

4 minutes ago, Amrita said:

I am not against love . It’s a beautiful feeling . It’s a necessity to be loved . But all I am saying is pelli is  not an ambition or a mile stone . Yes I am a seeing a guy currently . Don’t know if it will work out for sure though

yes, unless you love yourself like a narcissist, humans do want love. it doesn't have to be beautiful amazing love, but just an assurance that there's someone who has your back at all times. No, parents don't qualify. even siblings don't. hehe..

[Amrita]

1 minute ago, BDurruti said:

yes, unless you love yourself like a narcissist, humans do want love. it doesn't have to be beautiful amazing love, but just an assurance that there's someone who has your back at all times. No, parents don't qualify. even siblings don't. hehe..

Agreed

[samaja_varagamana]

2 minutes ago, BDurruti said:

some people are suited for it. some people are not.

but if you are obsessing about other people, while being married to one, I feel bad for your partner. Unless your obsession is your way of getting yourself horny to have a wonderful fcuk in the evening, then I appreciate the effort you put into it. hehe..

Lol not my personal opinion. I am just asking for your analysis.

[samaja_varagamana]

7 minutes ago, Amrita said:

Inka ardham kaleda ? 

aythe nen already chusina athadu cinema ne malli malli chusthunna anamata 

[samaja_varagamana]

5 minutes ago, BDurruti said:

yes, unless you love yourself like a narcissist, humans do want love. it doesn't have to be beautiful amazing love, but just an assurance that there's someone who has your back at all times. No, parents don't qualify. even siblings don't. hehe..

naku ardam ayindi le baa nuvvu evaro inka chalu mana disco 

[Amrita]

1 minute ago, samaja_varagamana said:

aythe nen already chusina athadu cinema ne malli malli chusthunna anamata 

Athadu-2 chestunnav . Topic  vere ga 

[BDurruti]

6 minutes ago, samaja_varagamana said:

yes i accept lovers do get married for society and you wont have an exit clause after that. But in that case atleast you have a known devil rather than an unknown angel.

But in case of arranged marriage its just like buying  a power ball ticket.Dont you think so ?

forget about arranged mrg difference with love. there's no difference. simple. its just in your mind.

its not an exit clause tht one needs, but flexibility. and for tht, you have to be open and accepting of each other.

if you approach a relationship in bad faith (eg. girls are gold diggers, girls are nagging, guys are misogynists), you'll find exactly the person you don't want to find. hehe..

that doesn't mean you can randomly find your partner in the street, ofcourse. it does involve a lot of socializing, understanding each other's needs before you commit, right?

in this wooing phase, people sometimes act like nicest people, whereas they are actually easily irritable, mostly because harmones are working overtime to make person lie about his real self. it takes multiple relations to get one right. some can get it right in the first shot though.

 

[samaja_varagamana]

10 minutes ago, Amrita said:

You always have exit clause . Papers can’t make two individuals live under same roof . Divorce is an exit clause . Also love marriages ayite enti peli ayyaka they might realize they are two different persons who are poles apart . Live in lone telustayi really asalu nature of perosn and if we can adjust with him . Mundu anta we just show our best behavior. Most cases lo they adjust and make it work anthe .

poles apart might not be true some similarity will be there. Live in lo telusthai yes if not amey tho oka two days unna chalu if they are sensible enough they will get to know.

[BDurruti]

4 minutes ago, samaja_varagamana said:

Lol not my personal opinion. I am just asking for your analysis.

its not analysis, just random opinion. and when I say 'you', it doesn't mean you. it means general 'yu'