HSBC software engineer committed suicide

[Chinna84]

4 minutes ago, MRI said:

India or US?

India lo dowry harassment cases ki jail vuntundey.. abuse chestunnaru ani teesesaru.. kani ippudu attempt to murder lu petti ddengutunnaru.. India lo charge sheet file cheyakunda outside court settlement kosam visikistaru police lu.. adi ayyaka same settlement or lancham kosam malli court lo kooda visikistaru.. eppatiki avvanivvaru.. experienced through some friends..

US .. 

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11 hours ago, Chinna84 said:

Adhi kuda waste bro - avathala vaalu advantage theesukoni saantham naakestharu, naakesina parledhu, leni ponivi cheppi media ki ekkuthunnaru - so dhaanikante idhe better ani youth thinking. 

aasthula gurinchi inquire chesey ammayila babulandariki oka prasna.. bodi munddallara.. abbayiki six figure salary lu, luxury cars, aasthulu vundali ani inquire cheseuy vallu.. jeevitham antha meeru em velagabettarra? chetakaani munddallara.. nuvvu velagabettaledu kada..

samana hakkulu ani edichey nee kooturu antha chetakaanidila ela vundi? adi sampadinchi mogudini choosuko manu..

ila adigey valla kooturlu lanjjalu.. mimmalni taarpudugaadani antaru.. kooturuni teesukupoyi pakkallo padukopettukondi.. inka ekkuva dabbulu vastayi..

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1 minute ago, Chinna84 said:

US .. 

much better situation!

[Chinna84]

2 minutes ago, psycopk said:

1 gurinchi elaborate..

if not all 3.. take money just dissapear...

Hutch dog ad..

Whereever u go, i follow annatlu - abbai meedha unnavi lenivi seppi family izzath theesthaaru.

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5 minutes ago, whatsapp said:

so as per above discussion

1) Divorce is not a option bokka manake

2) Chavu is worst option 

3) compromise is impossible option.

apart from above and no-marriage option what is the best option?

nuvvu adugutunnavu kabatti cheptunna.. go with some aunty to some other country and enjoy.. she will take care of you.. #sugar momma #srungarasamtrupti

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1 minute ago, psycopk said:

1 gurinchi elaborate..

if not all 3.. take money just dissapear...

498 A CASE Peti mingutharu,

You are working in Bangalore and court case will happen in bezawada and you need to attend every other week. 

if you dont attend you will be arrested or they can claim the maximum.

telisina amayiki nene degarundhi e tricks ani chepi baga irikincha !!  for him but yem chedam e amayi nannu dabbu peti konesindhi ideas kosam. A case lo abayi IBM Usa lo vunadu amayi bglr lo vundhi. we threaten him to issue red cornder notice and let IBM know about this case and they called him back to INDIA. now his paycheck has a big cut because of her. 

she got 40% of his salary and staying with other guy ( unofficial marriage) so she can enjoy his alumni. 

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Just now, MRI said:

nuvvu adugutunnavu kabatti cheptunna.. go with some aunty to some other country and enjoy.. she will take care of you.. #sugar momma #srungarasamtrupti

intlo gudha meda 10gutharu not only intlo chutalo society lo kastam man not possible

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6 minutes ago, psycopk said:

1 gurinchi elaborate..

if not all 3.. take money just dissapear...

ekadaki pothavu 

ne pan aadhar patukontate chalu ekaduna ikadiki vasthavu

raleda me amma nanna akka cheli bava andari meda case lu station tesukeltha ante hutch dog laga venake vasthavu.

vachaka ma bangaraniki anyam ani bamardhulutne 10gutharu atha mamma ninnu esukonataru

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Experience from someone viction of 498 A

I was a victim of this draconian law that our country is famous for. Reason I say I 'was' a victim is because I believe that through this false 498a case the trash took itself out.

Currently I am happily married to a caring and understanding woman and blessed with a beautiful daughter. Hence I believe its better for me to forgive and forget my ex-wife and move on.

Here's what happened between me and my ex-wife regarding the 498a case and what happened afterwards.

• My ex-wife described herself as a bold, confident, and empowered woman during our first meeting. I was smitten by her outgoing nature and hence decided that she was the one for me. Thats was my first mistake.
• After our marriage she decided she would keep working. I was fine with it. But she never did any household chores. All work was handled by my mother and maid-servant. I was irritated but decided to hold on.
• Few weeks into our marriage we began to have petty fights. She would hurt my mother with her taunts. This was too much for me and we had a lot of fights because of this.
• Then one day she found out she was pregnant. I was overjoyed since I always wanted to be a father. I wanted a baby girl. But she was not amused.
• Then she did the unthinkable, she aborted the baby without even telling me. I knew marriage won't last for long after that.
• One day we had a big fight and she hit me. Instead of apologizing she made me sleep in a separate room.
• Next day she went back to her parent's house and conveniently filed a DV case.
• My family was arrested but later released on bail. The police was kind. I thought they would beat us, but they didn't. Instead we were counselled by them. I guess they also had enough of false cases.
• My ex-wife wanted 25 lakhs as compensation, but we decided to fight the case. It went on for 2 years during which she deliberately missed court dates on several occasions to harrass us.
• In the end we were acquited due to lack of evidence.
• I was drained but hadn't lost hope. I decided to rebuild my life. Soon, my parents started searching for a new bride for me. I got married after 8 months. She is the most wonderful, caring and beautiful person I have ever seen. She gave birth to a beautiful girl after 1 year. She respects my parents and maintains the home masterfully. She knows the trauma we have been through and tries to be as accommodating as possible.
• As far as my ex is concerned, I am not really interested, but my mother secretly likes to keep a tab on her. It's a guilty pleasure for her. Sorry xD

[ram4a]

1 hour ago, Paidithalli said:

Chacchi em saadinchav ra....r u so timid to take Divorce and face this world,

Life lo anni smooth ga vellthe kuda prblm ye like direct ga campus placement ochi...life lo hurdles and challanges lekunda unte.

sudden ga oche surprises thatukoleru...

India lo education tho paatu, confidence and kasta dairyam kuda nerpinchaali.

[Chinna84]

3 minutes ago, MRI said:

aasthula gurinchi inquire chesey ammayila babulandariki oka prasna.. bodi munddallara.. abbayiki six figure salary lu, luxury cars, aasthulu vundali ani inquire cheseuy vallu.. jeevitham antha meeru em velagabettarra? chetakaani munddallara.. nuvvu velagabettaledu.. samana hakkulu ani edichey nee kooturu antha chetakaanidila ela vundi? adi sampadinchi mogudini choosuko manu.. ila adigey valla kooturlu lanjjalu.. mimmalni taarpudugaadani antaru.. kooturuni teesukupoyi pakkallo padukopettukondi.. inka ekkuva dabbulu vastayi..

Well, there is nothing wrong in doing inquiry abt family background/financial status when they r sending daughters to a strange family - 100% agreed. 

But ippudu elagundho oka case chepthanu: again far relatives only 

Maama ki 1 boy + 1 girl and both around d same age. Koduku job chesthunnadu, kuthuru no job. Iddhariki marg chusthunnaru - koduku ki 1c dhaaka dowry expect chesthunnadu, endhuku ante vaadu 6 digit salary annaadu. Kuthuri dhaggara vachesariki,  abbai ki 1c property choppuna 10L istha annadu ( for ex: if boy has 5cr property, he will give 50L).

 

 

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Yes, not immediately but within a week of marriage.

For background, I am Indian and have a higher class family. I am passed out of one of the the top IIMs and earn decently well to support my family.

I got through the process of typical arrange marriage in India. Parents found the girl in the same caste, we met the girl at her place, I met her next day at a coffee shop, we exchanged numbers, I talked to her daily (she was in Bangalore and I was in Mumbai), I once visited Bangalore and we spent the weekend together (not the nights), I proposed her a month before engagement, she said yes and we got married within 4 months from our first meeting.

During first night after marriage, she said no to me for sex and said that she needs time. Being Indian, I thought she might need some time to adjust with me and then we will have sex with all consent. During 2nd, 3rd…6th night she said no to sex and never allowed me to touch her. This troubled me now as I felt something fishy because she used to regularly chat on Whatsapp and be on calls with someone by the name of Neha. Now, she had already told me that Neha is her best friend and she will talk to her everyday, and i never stopped or asked her about the calls. One day, while she was not in the room, her mobile started ringing and it was a call from Neha, I picked up the call just to tell Neha that my wife is busy and will call later. But, as I picked the call, a male voice came from the other end. I cancelled the call and asked by wife about it. She confronted me by pointing that I should not ever pick her call. She then told me that it is her boyfriend and they have been in a relationship for 3 years and she cannot forget him now. She said that she will not talk to him from now on and will stay with me.

I had pre-booked the honeymoon to Maldives for 7 nights and we went there. She continuously talked to her boyfriend and started sending him images of Maldives. I was really angry at her actions but I knew the consequences of ever shouting at her or forcing her for anything. I had sensed by her actions that she will create some nuisance here if I did something that did not went her way.

My initial 7 days of marriage, and the next 7 days of honeymoon went like this - I went jogging, swimming, played basketball with other honeymooners, watched TV at night, and my wife used to talk on her phone or continuously chatted to her boyfriend. She also stopped coming out for dinner with me, I had to carry a plate of food to my room every night. I used to tell her everyday and night to please not talk to him as she is married now and should start a new life with me. I even told her that if she wants a divorce, I will help to get it easily and she can then marry her boyfriend. But, she always said that she needs time, she wants me and will love me for sure.

As we came back from Maldives, she started yelling and shouting at me in front of my parents that she wants to go to Bangalore (not her home) and I am not treating her in a good way.

The only good thing happened during this was when I shared this with my friend, he just said one thing, Dude no one will trust you when you are back, people will call you crazy and bad, until you have some proof that mentions the truth.

I started checking her Whatsapp and even took her Whatsapp via Whatsapp web to my mobile. she used to chat with her boyfriend and I used to read it on my mobile and save it. (They were extremely vulgar and she even used to send him her ** pics, they used to make fun of me and how she is pretending good with me just to run away with her boyfriend later). I did call recordings of our conversations where she has accepted that she loves her boyfriend and not me.

After 20 days of my marriage, I dropped my wife to her parents place, came back and told my parents everything. I shown them few chats and shared the recorded conversation. They were surprised to see that I had collected so much information and supported my decision to get a divorce.

In the previous few days, I had received threat calls from my wife and her father. She has even filed a police compliant, for which I had received a call from the police station. I went to the police station and my wife started shouting that I had beaten her, tortured her and strangulated her with the help of my father. She was saying this in front of me, I mean how?why?how can you lie something like this at a person’s face? her father also joined her and started telling to police that I had called them and threatened them. I mean again why?? how can a father tell lie in front of her daughter and even make her tell lie??

I have filed a case in court of annul of marriage as we never had sex and this was marriage by betrayal. She has filed a falsified case of domestic violence and dowry against me and my parents.

In all of this, everyone (society and lawyers) are suggesting that it will take infinite time for the case to get settled and therefore, we should try to negotiate and give her family the amount which fer father had spent on marriage plus some 10–15 lakhs. This will convince them to go for mutual divorce and it will happen within 6 to 8 months.

I can manage and give the money that they will ask for, it will just make my bank account completely empty. I do not have any issue with that. But, “Why?” is the real question. I had worked my ass off to earn the money and it is not my fault that my marriage is going to break. Why should i pay then?. The answer that I always get is simply this - because you are an Indian male.

In all of this, I went to complete depression and somehow managed myself and came back to life. I am having low ratings in my job because of poor performance, my parents cried, I cried but, no one gives a about it.

My suggestion to anyone who is going to get married - please marry someone because of love (there is no tool to check this, but one should find this before getting married), not because of

• caste
• social image/ money
• family pressure

[psycopk]

9 minutes ago, Chinna84 said:

Hutch dog ad..

Whereever u go, i follow annatlu - abbai meedha unnavi lenivi seppi family izzath theesthaaru.

Chavatam kante ide better...

[psycopk]

5 minutes ago, whatsapp said:

ekadaki pothavu 

ne pan aadhar patukontate chalu ekaduna ikadiki vasthavu

raleda me amma nanna akka cheli bava andari meda case lu station tesukeltha ante hutch dog laga venake vasthavu.

vachaka ma bangaraniki anyam ani bamardhulutne 10gutharu atha mamma ninnu esukonataru

Just dissapear.. 

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11 minutes ago, Chinna84 said:

Well, there is nothing wrong in doing inquiry abt family background/financial status when they r sending daughters to a strange family - 100% agreed. 

But ippudu elagundho oka case chepthanu: again far relatives only 

Maama ki 1 boy + 1 girl and both around d same age. Koduku job chesthunnadu, kuthuru no job. Iddhariki marg chusthunnaru - koduku ki 1c dhaaka dowry expect chesthunnadu, endhuku ante vaadu 6 digit salary annaadu. Kuthuri dhaggara vachesariki,  abbai ki 1c property choppuna 10L istha annadu ( for ex: if boy has 5cr property, he will give 50L).

 

 

Doing inquiry about family values and background is completely fine.. but why financial status to a greedy level? that too in this generation? innellu perigina kooturu em chestundi? innellu bratikina maama em chestunnadu? kotta jeevitham modalu pedutunna jantaki support ga ichedey dowry.. dowry ni evil chesaru.. kaani magadi financial status matram imporrtant veellaki.. abbayi elantodu ani alochinchadam aapesi.. dabbulani batti abbayila character decide chestunnaru..