Wife/husband's phone checking

[tom bhayya]

[SH_221B]

4 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Yes, part where decided to see others is post marriage. She is in her late 20's and I'm early 30's.

I do have a follow up on this. Arrangement after a few years into the marriage? Asking this out of curiosity, you may skip if not interested in answering. 

[SH_221B]

5 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Is it good or bad? ,😄

Lovers are philosophical. I don't have an answer if it's good or bad 

[aryeman]

1 minute ago, SH_221B said:

I do have a follow up on this. Arrangement after a few years into the marriage? Asking this out of curiosity, you may skip if not interested in answering. 

Yes, we stumpled upon the idea through another couple. It was not a overnight decision.

[SH_221B]

4 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Yes, we stumpled upon the idea through another couple. It was not a overnight decision.

I see. And you said you only meet unknown people, isn't it? How does that work?

Edit: Please ignore my follow up Qs above. Not relevant. 

[BostonBullodu]

1 minute ago, aryeman said:

Yes, we stumpled upon the idea through another couple. It was not a overnight decision.

May be this sounds dumb to you but both are desis right?

[aryeman]

Just now, SH_221B said:

I see. And you said you only meet unknown people, isn't it? How does that work?

I meant acquaintance, not friends or colleagues. We learned it the hard way. We prefer non desis for most part, unless we see couple we both like alot.

[aryeman]

4 minutes ago, BostonBullodu said:

May be this sounds dumb to you but both are desis right?

Yes, we both are desis.

[SH_221B]

2 minutes ago, aryeman said:

I meant acquaintance, not friends or colleagues. We learned it the hard way. We prefer non desis for most part, unless we see couple we both like alot.

But this arrangement is because you both live in different places is what you said, correct me if Im wrong. How couples then?

[aryeman]

Just now, SH_221B said:

But this arrangement is because you both live in different places is what you said, correct me if Im wrong. How couples then?

Yes, you are correct. But, we also meet couples (if we like them) when she visits me or I visit her. Not happens that often, it's a long process with online profile follow ups and date nights for other couples. Like I said if we are super into them and we try to make time out of our busy schedules. But rarely, it ever worked in single meet.

[SH_221B]

2 minutes ago, aryeman said:

Yes, you are correct. But, we also meet couples (if we like them) when she visits me or I visit her. Not happens that often, it's a long process with online profile follow ups and date nights for other couples. Like I said if we are super into them and we try to make time out of our busy schedules. But rarely, it ever worked in single meet.

Sounds like a long process

[aryeman]

4 minutes ago, SH_221B said:

Sounds like a long process

You bet, it takes months. 

[iddaritho]

Stupidity at peaks , open marriage may be fun for few years , but will end on a sore note 

biggest risk is sexually transmitted disease and other health both physical and psychological 

don’t get into the trap of some one talking you guys into it.

An anonymous guy might say 1000 things to make you believe that they are in open relationships (which in fact might be his perverse fantasy )

Be careful and don’t fall into trap friends 

 

[aryeman]

Just now, iddaritho said:

Stupidity at peaks , open marriage may be fun for few years , but will end on a sore note 

biggest risk is sexually transmitted disease and other health both physical and psychological 

don’t get into the trap of some one talking you guys into it.

An anonymous guy might say 1000 things to make you believe that they are in open relationships (which in fact might be his perverse fantasy )

Be careful and don’t fall into trap friends 

 

Fair enough friend, agree with you 100% on not to follow someone blindly. I'm not preaching anyone to do the same as me. This is not supposed to be guide or note to intice someone into this. I also agree with you on STD and other things you mentioned. But, fortunately we are adult enough to care ourselves to not be a victim of health and psychological issues. This might not be true with others. The notion you have regarding this relationship is not accurate, I'm not here to convince anyone to change their mindset. I'm agree without you on your suggestion on one should not believe anonymous like us. Just sharing my experience. Thank you!

[sattipandu]

LOL husband/wife phone checking nunchi open marriage daaka vachinda

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