Dating in America as a foreigner. Everyone thinks I am doing it for GreenCard

[Doravaru]

https://www.washingtonpost.com/lifestyle/2019/11/25/dating-foreigner-america-everyone-thinks-im-just-looking-green-card/?outputType=amp

The questions I’d get on first dates with American guys would often start innocently enough.

“How long have you lived in New York?” the men would ask, after I told them I was born and raised in Finland.

“Coming up to four years now,” I’d say.

“Wow!” they’d say, their face lighting up, “So you’ve been here for a while.”

I’d smile. That response usually means they’re interested. The longer you’ve been in a country, the more likely it is you’ll stay. But within a few follow-up questions, the breezy chitchat would often begin to resemble an interrogation, one I’ve seen play out at the border and at U.S. embassies.

“So wait, what visa are you on?” the guy would ask, beginning his search for a red (and white and blue) flag.