15636

[kevinUsa]

#15636

"28F Working in IT
[Long Post, Suggestion Needed]
I have been married for 3 months now. Typical arranged wedding where I wasn't even allowed to talk to the guy over phone even after multiple requests from my end to my parent and in laws. Got his number through my sister(cousin) only after engagement and texted him telling I wanna talk and he said just text me and not to call. I wasn't getting proper response from him, when I told my parent they brushed off telling after wedding he would talk, being a single child he might have not been used to these things and since he is also working in IT he would definitely be an approachable person. I agreed upon and until the day we got married we never spoke. Problem started just after 10 days of wedding. He is from a very well settled family and my parent single handedly did a decent upper middle class wedding with not a single penny spent from their end.  He started demanding me that i should give my debit card to him and he will handle my financial stuff. I suggested telling ill share half my salary with him and he started abusing me and asked me to get out of his home. I have lived an independent life of 7 years in different cities. Now he restricts me telling i shouldn't wear jeans, shouldn't goto mall, shouldn't go out with my sisters and brothers (cousins) and verbally abusing me by relating my cousin(school kid) with me. When i swore at him he slapped me and asked me to get out of his home and his parent were encouraging him telling my son never behaved like this before wedding its you who is making my son to behave like this. My MIL told on my face if you cant sleep with my son everyday get out of our home. And most of all, i always told him whatever the problem is, lets discuss and sort out within ourself but he directly says every single letter we talk in our bedroom to his mom and she calls my parent's and screams at them and they call me back. My parent aren't ready to take my side, they keep telling i need to follow whatever this guy says and that's the only way i can live well in that home and they are compromising me by telling he will change, its all coz of ur MIL but deep in, its not MIL nd DIL issue they show on serials. The problem is with this guy being so narrow minded. He doesn't even want to talk with me or understand my thoughts, he comes inside our room only for Sex and then he goes out of the room and sits with his mom. He and his mom doesn't even talk with their dad and he is also of no good in understanding when we had issues he still took his son's side. I have been doing everything these guys were demanding right from not using shampoo, no perfume, no Wifi installation, no talking to relatives over phone, not spending a single ruppee for myself, no watching movies but i really feel I'm being put into a Jail. I want to get away from this life before i get a kid coz i really dont want my kid to be brought up n this  environment. I'm trying to convince my parent but they are worried about the so called society. I don't know on what base i can apply for divorce though we haven't legally registered our marriage still. Suggestions Needed.

PS - Please don't judge and tell i must try to change myself. I tried but it really isn't working and stressful.

Dated - 13 March"