What should I do.. stay single entire life?? (F)

[Dyud]

It is 3 am by the clock and my poor pillow is facing the consequences of the cyclone going on in my tiny brain.

So please help me with your opinions to help calm the turbulence.

To brief out- I am 31F unmarried staying with my parents. My parents have two daughters and they moved to Pune for staying with their daughters leaving their comfort place.. the city where they spent most of their married life together.

Now the biggest problem is my tension, how will my parents manage without me in their old age if I get MARRIED. They spent their life for making our future and when it is made, how do I leave them and go to some other family.

Like every other mom, my mom is not leaving any stone unturned to get me married. And, her standards for choosing a groom for me are a bit more, the boy should be fair, tall and should look good along with decent salary which can be considered reasonable as well.

Even if I choose a partner in same city, it is very difficult to manage between two houses.

I suggested them to get a groom who can stay in our house, but they are against the concept. They say we‘ll manage but I know they can’t as they are very much dependent on me.

Now there comes a twist, there is a guy in my organisation who loves me and is ready to make my parents stay with us after marriage but he is very dark in complexion, bad English and earns half of my current salary. Moreover, my mom is a colour biased person and her dreams will be shattered if she gets a Damad who is dark. She can compromise on salary but not on complexion and English.

If am sure if I marry him my family will be taken care of very well but the name of my family in front of relatives will be like an insult because most of them have got their children married to a very good status family and good looking partner.

I told this dark guy after being close with him for 3.5 yrs that nothing is possible, he is shattered and gets drunk totally because he loves me a lot.

What should I do.. stay single entire life??
or let my mom’s dreams get shattered by going for this guy??
Third option is go for a guy with arranged marriage but that is all risk if transfer or anything happens, I am really doubtful if things can be favourable in arranged marriage..
Please suggest!"

[NeneRajuNeneManthri]

Yes stay single.