Help! I Can’t Believe My Son’s Friend Fed Him Indian Food Without Calling Me First.

[Jilchika]

Danny is online weekly to chat live with readers. Here’s an edited transcript of this week’s chat.

Q. Inappropriate food: My son, “Chris,” is 9. A few weeks ago, we decided to open our bubble to include the family of “Neil,” Chris’s best friend. Both of Neil’s parents are doctors, so this seemed like a safe decision. Both parents were born and raised in India. We let Chris have dinner at their place the other night since both boys were having a great time together. When we came to pick up Chris, Neil’s mom recounted to me how much chicken curry and lentils and vegetables Chris ate. I couldn’t believe that they served my son spicy curries without even calling to ask us if that would be OK! I was taken aback and gently mentioned that spicy foods can be hard on small tummies, but it didn’t seem to register. Thankfully Chris didn’t get sick. My wife says to drop it because any conversation will look racial in nature and to only let the boys play at our place. Please help.

 

A: At the risk of taking the bait, you must realize that millions of people (presumably both of Neil’s parents, not to mention Neil himself) regularly eat lentils and vegetables as children in perfect safety. There’s something so grotesque about the infantilizing language of “gently informing someone”—especially when that someone is “two doctors”—about “small tummies,” coupled with the racist horror that your 9-year-old ate and enjoyed a few servings of chicken curry, one of the world’s most popular and adaptable dishes. Not all curries are spicy, and not all spices pack heat; your son ate a meal he enjoyed (one you didn’t have to prepare or clean up after ) and continued to enjoy good health for the rest of the evening. Neil’s parents didn’t take him to a ghost pepper festival and turn him loose. Your kid was not endangered by chicken curry, and your problem is not one that Neil’s parents can fix for you. Take your wife’s advice and let this go.

[jefferson1]

First world problems antaru vitini 

[Kootami]

eee state lo idi

[AndhraneedSCS]

Sue cheyyaleda? oka million dolars ki sue chesepani ga 

[Catalpha]

We don't realize how racist Indians are before commenting on other races being racist. So, it is only fair that ignorance is pervasive. 

[Anta Assamey]

[ShruteSastry]

i mean it would have been polite to check with parents first.

Its not like, mana deshamlo, mana voorilo aithe picha lite. We all eat whatever.

Ikkada consent is a big thing. We should just learn to adapt to it, instead of rubbing our sentiments in their land.

[AFDB_Director]

What if they fed the Indian kid pork or beef which is also not harmful? 

[Pitta]

2 hours ago, Anta Assamey said:

[reality]

Be a Roman in Rome

[Pitta]

1 minute ago, reality said:

Be a Roman in Rome

mari US lo? 

[DaveBatista]

2 hours ago, Catalpha said:

We don't realize how racist Indians are before commenting on other races being racist. So, it is only fair that ignorance is pervasive. 

this is my first and last reply to you. the same thing applies to your worst vlog videos.  never replied and ignored. 

 

[chittimallu_14]

forum lo post ki space bokka... next time adagandi ani chepthe aipoye.. maha ante emaithadhi poradu two times ekkuva bathroom ki pothadu... eella lavada lo lolli 

[tom brady]

They should have asked before giving the kid a meal

[Amy99]

2 minutes ago, Pitta said:

mari US lo? 

Be a usan