How to deal with a disrespectful wife?

[Amrita]

2 minutes ago, MagaMaharaju said:

this is a temporary and convenient solution and that's why many settle for it

Convenient kanna People dont like change and are reluctant to it when it comes to matter of heart.

[odhu_le_macha]

14 minutes ago, Amrita said:

Honestly, its easy to say than doing. Prema anedi worst thing when u love someone truly we cant be rude to them. We succumb emotionally. Ala friends and family to undadam easy not with spouse i think. 

reverse lo untadi ankunta...close ga unna vallathone chinna chinna godavalu

[Raazu]

2 hours ago, VD2 said:

You should ask yourself why you are accepting a life sentence in a prison created by a person who holds you in contempt?

When a woman loses respect for a man in a general and ongoing manner the marriage is over whether you divorce or not. The circumstances that caused the disrespect and contempt no longer matter. Once she views you as someone who deserves to be treated this way (and you do deserve it if you accept it) there is no path back to her love and respect.

Think about it. What would you have to do to earn back her respect now? Maybe stopping a terrorist attack with extreme bravery and daring, or becoming a lion in the world if high finance would do it. But, if you pulled off something like that you would have many options besides the woman who treated you badly when you were not rich or famous. Would you stick with your wife if your options in women were much greatter than they are now? I doubt it.

Men who accept disrespect from thier wife do so out of fear. They fear losing the person who abuses them because they unconsciously feel they have no options. You do have options. Even being alone is better than a life under your wife's boot.

The only way to press the “reset button” on this situation is to tell her you will file for divorce the next time you feel disrespected. Not what SHE THINKS is disrespect, but what you think, what you feel, what you will accept. She will laugh. Maybe not in your face, but she will find Mr. Mouse amusing when he huffs and puffs and stamps his foot.

Then file for divorce.

I assure you that her contemptuous ammusement with your pain and shame will turn to fear. And that fear will turn to a grudging respect. Why? Because you are now acting like a man. And women respect real men even if they don't like them.

Your other option is to listen to a bunch of relationship advice that has never been tested in the crucible of a burning marriage. You can't negotiate yourself out of your wife's contempt with furthet weakness.

Move hard, move fast, or face a miserable future as a slave.

 

 

It can’t be one way, for every action, there is equal opposite reaction. She will treat u the way u treat her. If you hit the ball to the wall, it’s bounces with the same speed u hit it. Same in Relationships 😀

[Amrita]

2 minutes ago, MagaMaharaju said:

It's hard to fight fears but try not to miss basic logics

Agreed.

[Amrita]

1 minute ago, odhu_le_macha said:

reverse lo untadi ankunta...close ga unna vallathone chinna chinna godavalu

Chinna chinna godavallo light. Pedda pedda vishayallo kuda kshaminchakudadu. 

[MagaMaharaju]

Just now, Amrita said:

Convenient kanna People dont like change and are reluctant to it when it comes to matter of heart.

that's what I meant when I said convenience.

there's one routine we're used to.

Even if that routine included longing and suffering we're still scared to miss that.

that phase is hard but with a little extra perseverance can get out of that loop of suffering.

Even if there is no promising future ahead, I guarantee peace

[yemdoing]

vuu... morning padalasina thread.

may be sai is seeing lot of traffic in evening,

[nightcrawler]

20 minutes ago, Amrita said:

Honestly, its easy to say than doing. Prema anedi worst thing when u love someone truly we cant be rude to them. We succumb emotionally. Ala friends and family to undadam easy not with spouse i think. 

Cinemas chhodatam taggisthe manchidi

[Amrita]

2 minutes ago, MagaMaharaju said:

that's what I meant when I said convenience.

there's one routine we're used to.

Even if that routine included longing and suffering we're still scared to miss that.

that phase is hard but with a little extra perseverance can get out of that loop of suffering.

Even if there is no promising future ahead, I guarantee peace

I totally understand and you are right.  

[Amrita]

Just now, nightcrawler said:

Cinemas chhodatam taggisthe manchidi

Asalu chudakundane ila unna chuste emaipotano?

[VD2]

12 minutes ago, Raazu said:

It can’t be one way, for every action, there is equal opposite reaction. She will treat u the way u treat her. If you hit the ball to the wall, it’s bounces with the same speed u hit it. Same in Relationships 😀

Vuuu

[MagaMaharaju]

7 minutes ago, Amrita said:

Asalu chudakundane ila unna chuste emaipotano?

I need to suggest you a funny Rom Com aithe

[ZoomNaidu]

Ltt

[MagaMaharaju]

2 minutes ago, ZoomNaidu said:

Ltt

vuu

[sharenshare]

2 hours ago, VD2 said:

You should ask yourself why you are accepting a life sentence in a prison created by a person who holds you in contempt?

When a woman loses respect for a man in a general and ongoing manner the marriage is over whether you divorce or not. The circumstances that caused the disrespect and contempt no longer matter. Once she views you as someone who deserves to be treated this way (and you do deserve it if you accept it) there is no path back to her love and respect.

Think about it. What would you have to do to earn back her respect now? Maybe stopping a terrorist attack with extreme bravery and daring, or becoming a lion in the world if high finance would do it. But, if you pulled off something like that you would have many options besides the woman who treated you badly when you were not rich or famous. Would you stick with your wife if your options in women were much greatter than they are now? I doubt it.

Men who accept disrespect from thier wife do so out of fear. They fear losing the person who abuses them because they unconsciously feel they have no options. You do have options. Even being alone is better than a life under your wife's boot.

The only way to press the “reset button” on this situation is to tell her you will file for divorce the next time you feel disrespected. Not what SHE THINKS is disrespect, but what you think, what you feel, what you will accept. She will laugh. Maybe not in your face, but she will find Mr. Mouse amusing when he huffs and puffs and stamps his foot.

Then file for divorce.

I assure you that her contemptuous ammusement with your pain and shame will turn to fear. And that fear will turn to a grudging respect. Why? Because you are now acting like a man. And women respect real men even if they don't like them.

Your other option is to listen to a bunch of relationship advice that has never been tested in the crucible of a burning marriage. You can't negotiate yourself out of your wife's contempt with furthet weakness.

Move hard, move fast, or face a miserable future as a slave.

 

 

don't ever do that grave mistake of telling that even though your intention might be good. Females and males don't think alike IMO. MIL and wifey's female friends will encourage/advice her to get pregnant and then you are doomed for life.

Men are emotional fools, hard outside but sensitive inside.