Raazu Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 Just now, Rebel_Uncle said: @Raazu bro bad advice, if no marriage double happy right 😃 That’s true. Live single and be happy and enjoy the life.. Quote
Shameless Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 Just now, Raazu said: That’s true. Live single and be happy and enjoy the life.. I would suggest him to marry same sex than opposite sex... Quote
abulu Posted January 20, 2021 Author Report Posted January 20, 2021 5 minutes ago, Shameless said: It's your kids' fault to be born to a stupid dad like you...sorry for being harsh though...that's the reality any bro.. next time do this , so you won't have more kids... question is how do you guys handle life with kids. Like after work how much you engage with kids? How much you help for your non-working wife? Quote
Raazu Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 1 minute ago, Shameless said: I would suggest him to marry same sex than opposite sex... Nijam chepthe janalaki nachadhu! Sugarcoating vesi cheppali.. I can’t sugarcoat. Quote
Shameless Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 1 minute ago, abulu said: question is how do you guys handle with kids life. Like after work how much you engage with kids? How much you help for your non-working wife? you forgot to mention your another question which is "whose fault" and my answer is for that question... I don't think your kids are more than 7 years old...kids are always kids and they need pampering...usual us indians feed the kids since its little harder for them to eat most indian foods by themselves... at least you get fresh air going out whereas your wife is always at home and don't think that since she is at home she has to do everything...that's your wrong notion... A helping hand is always better than becoming a couch potato...that's your family time and you need to be with your family. you are lucky that your wife is indian and is understanding and is doing all the chores without sharing with you... Imagine your wife being a western girl?? you won't even have this much freedom like what you have now... my wife stayed at home for 9 long years and she just started working...she used to keep herself busy by engaging in my son's school activities, attending different training programs, etc and still we both used to share all the chores...initially I hesitated but also understood her situation too. We both are currently working, and hardly get time to spend as a couple since we are busy with our own schedules all day... Quote
abulu Posted January 20, 2021 Author Report Posted January 20, 2021 2 hours ago, Shameless said: you forgot to mention your another question which is "whose fault" and my answer is for that question... I don't think your kids are more than 7 years old...kids are always kids and they need pampering...usual us indians feed the kids since its little harder for them to eat most indian foods by themselves... at least you get fresh air going out whereas your wife is always at home and don't think that since she is at home she has to do everything...that's your wrong notion... A helping hand is always better than becoming a couch potato...that's your family time and you need to be with your family. you are lucky that your wife is indian and is understanding and is doing all the chores without sharing with you... Imagine your wife being a western girl?? you won't even have this much freedom like what you have now... my wife stayed at home for 9 long years and she just started working...she used to keep herself busy by engaging in my son's school activities, attending different training programs, etc and still we both used to share all the chores...initially I hesitated but also understood her situation too. We both are currently working, and hardly get time to spend as a couple since we are busy with our own schedules all day... Thank you Quote
No_body_friends Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 2 hours ago, MagaMaharaju said: Earn more money and get a Nanny simple you also do two jobs like @sherlocksinghuncle ee madhya medhadu vaapu vyadhi vachindha ? inni valuable ideas vachesthunayi? Quote
Telugodura456 Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 Kids meedha interest lenappudu kashtam thappadhu. Nee pillale neeku muddhu kaadhu anukunte dabbulu petti nanny pettalisindhe. And kids are too important to be left just with mothers. ooo amma sentiment tho manalni vudara kodthaaru gaani lot of women have no real interest in bringing up kids and can be abusive to them. Quote
Kalam_Youtheman Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 2 hours ago, abulu said: 1) I have 2 kids, both need feeding, after work I am tied and like to relax and chill Wife struggling to feed one of them, request me to help, I am already tied how can I help? I say no, is it a big deal? its time for me to watch TV, read news and enhance my knowledge. 2) Kid bus come at 6:30 am, he sometimes wokes little late or wife might miss be later in getting ready things for him, wife ask me to drop , I am little lazy by nature, office at 9, I go always 15-20 mins late. Kid dropping school at 8 and going to work will make me wake by 7.30 only. whose fault is that? tapulani tanadagara petukoni na tapu ante ela? Update: question is how do you guys handle life with kids. Like after work how much you engage with kids? How much you help for your non-working wife? india lo unnavaaa..kids school 630am bus antunnnav ? schools open ah india lo Quote
MagaMaharaju Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 6 minutes ago, No_body_friends said: ee madhya medhadu vaapu vyadhi vachindha ? inni valuable ideas vachesthunayi? naku eeroju intha telivi ochindhi ante antha ee DB valle 1 Quote
soodhilodaaram Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 2 hours ago, abulu said: 1) I have 2 kids, both need feeding, after work I am tied and like to relax and chill Wife struggling to feed one of them, request me to help, I am already tied how can I help? I say no, is it a big deal? its time for me to watch TV, read news and enhance my knowledge. 2) Kid bus come at 6:30 am, he sometimes wokes little late or wife might miss be later in getting ready things for him, wife ask me to drop , I am little lazy by nature, office at 9, I go always 15-20 mins late. Kid dropping school at 8 and going to work will make me wake by 7.30 only. whose fault is that? tapulani tanadagara petukoni na tapu ante ela? Update: question is how do you guys handle life with kids. Like after work how much you engage with kids? How much you help for your non-working wife? family with 2 kids is a big responsibility for your wife too, try to share as much as you can, your wife will understand and appreciate your efforts optimize your personal time by multitasking your playtime with kids and give your wife some of her time as well remember this is 2021, dad is suppose to have taken over the role of what used to be mother 30 yrs back, run with the times with patience and perseverance, you will be rewarded 1 Quote
ranku_mogudu Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 Marriage antey ney sharing and caring. Nee laziness is the problem and you are not getting out of your bubble of I have to enjoy my time. If you can change it to We( you and your spouse) have to enjoy, then you will automatically take a leap and help her, you can finish together all the chores and then binge watch together?? Suppose this girl was your lover, appudu aithey urukukunta potham kadha ra bhai entha G badhakam unna. Also, Work can wait, tiredness ?? have a bath ! so everything has a solution. I have never seen an american or european who says I will work first and put my family later. This is not even a problem with Chinese or Japanese. Only Indians key ee problem as our marriage system has changed but our mentality is that my wife has to do all household chores. Remember bro, Work can always wait unless you breach SLA's or OLA's. If you cannot spend ample time and care with your wife, you will miss these years. 50 dataka mee madhayna care medicines tho untay!! its very easy for you to change. Just change your thinking from I to we before you take any decision. All the best!! 1 Quote
ranku_mogudu Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 Also, As your kids grow, the memories grow. They change month by month and new memories etch. Treasure it bro. Vallaki 20 ochaka valla life lo nuvvu , nee life lo vallu takkuva aipotharu appudu undevi ee memories ee. I see my baby girl grow every month and her cuteness grows exponentially. taruvatha emundhi bro, naaku ee rogam, naa koduku chethi inka raley, naa kuthuriki pelli kaley, veedu evarthino preminchadu, adhi evarino preminchindhi, ee latkoor yavvaraley 1 Quote
ZoomNaidu Posted January 20, 2021 Report Posted January 20, 2021 @abulu - inni problems badhulu Divorce idhi pada dhobbu, asaley nee own kid ni kuda lucky ya kaadha ane mindset needhi. Quote
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