situation: married for 20+ yrs, completely in love with each other, 2 teen kids

[uoY]

1 hour ago, futureofandhra said:

Ee thread lo kooda amaravati meedha crying chesi proved my point

If am that rich I won't bother about amaravati itself 

As per u how much is the rich anna? Liquid cash emanna vundalna?

[gattimelam]

$400k chusi nenu thread vadilestunna

[TuesdayStories]

3 hours ago, Gaali_Gottam_Govinda said:

Sorry to say this.... but You guys are spoiled as fck... this looks like rich people problems... Your immense love towards her spoiled her firstly and let her stubbornness control you and you went along with it to make her happy...... If you keep on doing things like this for next 10 years.

this will be your future 

 

[Thokkalee]

4 hours ago, Gaali_Gottam_Govinda said:

Sorry to say this.... but You guys are spoiled as fck... this looks like rich people problems... Your immense love towards her spoiled her firstly and let her stubbornness control you and you went along with it to make her happy...... If you keep on doing things like this for next 10 years.

this will be your future 

 

Ekkuva feel avvaku.. Kevin is just a messenger, not a victim 😄

[junnumukka]

8 hours ago, kevinUsa said:

. I am the sole earning member for the past 15 yrs. Avg income over past 15 yrs is $400k+ p.a. Lived an expat life for many years in multiple countries. My parents fully dependent on me for past 24 yrs and are in India. Whole another story on entitled parents. Another big bottle needed for that . 🙄😆🤦🏽‍♂️
Was laid off last July for the first time in my life. Lousy time with the economy. Has been “apply apply no reply” since then☹️.
By the grace of the powers that be, I now have a couple of offers in play. One of them is in the snow belt  and the other is in the Bay Area(we now live in the sunbelt). Each of them are $400K roles. Struggle is that I am worried she sees both of them as downgrades to the lifestyle and is upset internally and clearly isn’t happy this means a move. 
As an aside but relevant point: 10 yrs ago, I urged her to do an exec MBA(she is brilliant and has been a topper all along, with 10+ yrs of work exp) from INSEAD and that we can pay the $200k fee no issues. I saw this as a way to de-risk the very situation I’m in now. She said she doesn’t want to study anymore. I respected that and dropped the topic. 
I now look around our home and we don’t use 1/2 of the space we own!! its to stack we’ve collected over the years. Stupid Noritake dinner sets. Custom furniture.. Swarovski and Lladro figurines🙄. 3 fridges. I’m also guilty of partaking in this nonsense, so it’s on me too in many ways. 
We are prisoners of the very castle we’ve built!!
If we lived in a 2 bed condo in the Bay area, we could live comfortably!! we are both hitting 50 next year… so wtf do we need more for? 
How do I get this message across? Having no income for 6 months really clarified things in my head. I’m tired of being the provider all my life. I’ve been in therapy. I take anxiety medication every day. She sees me doing this. I’ve had dark thoughts of ending it all just so the fam realises what they need to be aware of. 
She wants to retire in the US. I’ve tried to tell her we cannot afford to and rather that we would  live like kings in India. 
I am really, REALLY stressed about how to manage this without destroying my marriage and happiness. I cannot live without her. Period. We haven’t ever even see a movie in a theater without each other. She is my life. She and my kids mean the world to me❤️
But I’m also worried I cannot deliver as needed. 
Am I the A*hole? Am I missing anything? How do I resolve this situation? What can I change in me to make this work? How can I get her to see and understand my POV?
Asking y’all this because I cannot ask anyone else. All my friends are her’s also and vice-versa.
TIA folks. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

What a SIMP

[JAMBALHOT_RAJA]

anni vadilesi Himalayas ki velte sukham ga untadi uncle ki 

[BReBeL]

8 hours ago, BattalaSathi said:

rendu $400K offers chethilo unnaya?  stressed out aaa?  eee lakkana naa mushti bathuku choosthe emantaado??? 

Same peeling bro..same boat 😒😒

[BReBeL]

Sorry bhayya 50+ age and 450 package since 10 years and am out of this thread as i cannot suggest a dime. Hopefully u will be relieved out of hr stress soon with u getting that 450-500k job 👍🙌🏻

[Raaji]

9 hours ago, kevinUsa said:

. I am the sole earning member for the past 15 yrs. Avg income over past 15 yrs is $400k+ p.a. Lived an expat life for many years in multiple countries. My parents fully dependent on me for past 24 yrs and are in India. Whole another story on entitled parents. Another big bottle needed for that . 🙄😆🤦🏽‍♂️
Was laid off last July for the first time in my life. Lousy time with the economy. Has been “apply apply no reply” since then☹️.
By the grace of the powers that be, I now have a couple of offers in play. One of them is in the snow belt  and the other is in the Bay Area(we now live in the sunbelt). Each of them are $400K roles. Struggle is that I am worried she sees both of them as downgrades to the lifestyle and is upset internally and clearly isn’t happy this means a move. 
As an aside but relevant point: 10 yrs ago, I urged her to do an exec MBA(she is brilliant and has been a topper all along, with 10+ yrs of work exp) from INSEAD and that we can pay the $200k fee no issues. I saw this as a way to de-risk the very situation I’m in now. She said she doesn’t want to study anymore. I respected that and dropped the topic. 
I now look around our home and we don’t use 1/2 of the space we own!! its to stack we’ve collected over the years. Stupid Noritake dinner sets. Custom furniture.. Swarovski and Lladro figurines🙄. 3 fridges. I’m also guilty of partaking in this nonsense, so it’s on me too in many ways. 
We are prisoners of the very castle we’ve built!!
If we lived in a 2 bed condo in the Bay area, we could live comfortably!! we are both hitting 50 next year… so wtf do we need more for? 
How do I get this message across? Having no income for 6 months really clarified things in my head. I’m tired of being the provider all my life. I’ve been in therapy. I take anxiety medication every day. She sees me doing this. I’ve had dark thoughts of ending it all just so the fam realises what they need to be aware of. 
She wants to retire in the US. I’ve tried to tell her we cannot afford to and rather that we would  live like kings in India. 
I am really, REALLY stressed about how to manage this without destroying my marriage and happiness. I cannot live without her. Period. We haven’t ever even see a movie in a theater without each other. She is my life. She and my kids mean the world to me❤️
But I’m also worried I cannot deliver as needed. 
Am I the A*hole? Am I missing anything? How do I resolve this situation? What can I change in me to make this work? How can I get her to see and understand my POV?
Asking y’all this because I cannot ask anyone else. All my friends are her’s also and vice-versa.
TIA folks. 🙏🏻🙏🏻🙏🏻

This is the situation of many guys 

[tables]

ippudaina kasta buddi techukondi raa...

for majority of us a simple 3 bed 2.5 bath house is enough.. edo pourashaniki poi 3000 sft ..5 bed 5 bath backyard front yard upgraded kitchen love da anukunta unnadanta udcheyakandi downpayments and maintenance ki.

aa vande pappu pulusu ki smart kitchens italian marble enduku? aa popu pettina jiddu tuduchukuntu kurchodanika?

[tables]

once your kid turns 18 vaadu edo university town ki poi chadukuntadu.... dostulatoh akkade untadu.. meeru ekkado ooru avtala teesukuna ntiki em vastadu? he prefers city life and will like to live and enjoy there.

[Gorantlamdhav]

14 hours ago, BattalaSathi said:

rendu $400K offers chethilo unnaya?  stressed out aaa?  eee lakkana naa mushti bathuku choosthe emantaado??? 

Haha gunde aagi sastadu

[fake_Bezawada]

maa life ae happy india lo vuntu oka 50k techukunna own house 

rich ga 3k maid 

5k cook

car ..... weekends temples leda family gatherings 

happy life 

job peekina 50k earn cheyatam easy tea shop open chesi rich name and interior pedithe coffee shop avtadi 1 lakh jujubi vastadi 

life happy va india la