Lone Ranger Masculinity is Dangerous

[Midnightsun]

The ideal of Lone Ranger masculinity is culturally dangerous, especially for young men who might be lured into thinking that a life free of responsibilities and relationships will be better. It is also anthropologically false. Masculinity has always and everywhere been defined socially, in relationships, rather than by retreat. 

Men without women are not living out a dream of Marlboro Man freedom. They are taking drugs and, too often, taking their own lives. Australian researcher Fiona Shand and her colleagues looked at the words that men who have attempted suicide most often use to describe themselves. At the top of the list: “useless” and “worthless.”

By: Richard V Reeves

Richard V. Reeves is the author of Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It (Brookings Institution Press, 2022) and executive director of the American Institute for Boys and Men, a new organization with a mission to research and raise awareness of the problems of boys and men and advocate for effective solutions.

[Konebhar6]

17 minutes ago, Midnightsun said:

The ideal of Lone Ranger masculinity is culturally dangerous, especially for young men who might be lured into thinking that a life free of responsibilities and relationships will be better. It is also anthropologically false. Masculinity has always and everywhere been defined socially, in relationships, rather than by retreat. 

Men without women are not living out a dream of Marlboro Man freedom. They are taking drugs and, too often, taking their own lives. Australian researcher Fiona Shand and her colleagues looked at the words that men who have attempted suicide most often use to describe themselves. At the top of the list: “useless” and “worthless.”

By: Richard V Reeves

Richard V. Reeves is the author of Of Boys and Men: Why the Modern Male Is Struggling, Why It Matters, and What to Do About It (Brookings Institution Press, 2022) and executive director of the American Institute for Boys and Men, a new organization with a mission to research and raise awareness of the problems of boys and men and advocate for effective solutions.

They have no purpose in life, unlike us who have to please our women and kids to survive which keeps us going.

[anna_gari_maata]

3 hours ago, Konebhar6 said:

They have no purpose in life, unlike us who have to please our women and kids to survive which keeps us going.

We don't work for their pleasing and survival...we work so that other men won't grab their attention. That's basic secret

 

 

[Midnightsun]

12 hours ago, Konebhar6 said:

They have no purpose in life, unlike us who have to please our women and kids to survive which keeps us going.

Purpose based on pleasing women?

How about motivated by sex. That’s also a purpose. But not many women interested or have the courage to openly ask for these kind of men

[Konebhar6]

17 minutes ago, Midnightsun said:

Purpose based on pleasing women?

How about motivated by sex. That’s also a purpose. But not many women interested or have the courage to openly ask for these kind of men

My comment was on a lighter note.

Bachelors are only pushed by their self goals or whatever motivates them. At some point they are bored or when their achieve theirs. Hence resorting to drugs or suicide or other stuff. 

Where as married men have responsibilities, and make their kids/family well being a priority (Whether they like it or not) and hence their family goals become their goals and pushes them.