Suicide

[Konebhar6]

47 minutes ago, Thokkalee said:

Where do you live bro? 
I try to meet.. but all of my friends are just going through the grind with their work, driving kids to classes, getting curries from curry points, taking care of the kids, diaper changes, etc etc etc .. so only possibility is on weekend potlucks.. 

mana parents gen lo magavalla panulu magavallu, adavalla panulu adavallu chesevallu.. ippudu both magavalla panulu and adavalla panulu anni magavalle chesthunnaaru 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

I live in SanRamon, CA. How about you?

I push/bother my friends to meet often. I think most of us are busy with family but we should also put ourselves as a priority and do things that make us happy of course with in family boundaries  Lekapothe pellam sava D**tharu

[Thokkalee]

1 hour ago, Konebhar6 said:

I live in SanRamon, CA. How about you?

I push/bother my friends to meet often. I think most of us are busy with family but we should also put ourselves as a priority and do things that make us happy of course with in family boundaries  Lekapothe pellam sava D**tharu

Dallaspuram 

Friends nunchi regular ga vine reason wife or kids gurinchi untaadi… inka weekend vasthe cleaning, washing, some or the other party or potluck… anthe.. 

[Konebhar6]

3 minutes ago, Thokkalee said:

Dallaspuram 

Friends nunchi regular ga vine reason wife or kids gurinchi untaadi… inka weekend vasthe cleaning, washing, some or the other party or potluck… anthe.. 

• Manam enta peekina, em chesina kids enta varaku chadavalo anthe chadutaru. ee realization enta tvaraga vasthe anta manchidi
• We dont force kids for any activities. If they show interest, we enroll in those programs.
• Some Fridays for happy hour with friends
• Some Saturday mornings for hiking. Some evenings get-together.
• Sunday whole day NFL. Everyone knows I am unavailable during 49ers games  Othertimes i am flexible.
• Mon - Thu available for work at home.

Idi maa schedule/agreement. Of course regular weekdays I help her a lot with household chores. She understands and respects MY Time. 

[Konebhar6]

11 minutes ago, Thokkalee said:

Dallaspuram 

Friends nunchi regular ga vine reason wife or kids gurinchi untaadi… inka weekend vasthe cleaning, washing, some or the other party or potluck… anthe.. 

Oka sari dost gallandarini pilichi .. mandu sitting vesi .. arey em jeevithalu raa ... mana enjoyment lekunda potundi ani start cheyi .. Do this after 2nd drink. After 4th drink everyone will agree to meeting regularly

[LakshmiParavathi]

US lo  Pellam mogudu jobs tho busy avuthunaru anna day care lo pilllalanu vesthe venta lekaapothe sucide diku

[ilakatamaflia]

9 hours ago, dasari4kntr said:

stress..levels alane vuntayi…

naa pg time lo …naaku student loan ichhina bank manager ichhina  stress debbaki naaku kooda alanti thoughts vachhai appatlo…

True bro.. day1 nannu and maa ayya ni mast waiting lo pettadu.. podduna pothe , afternoon room loki pilinchidu saale gaadu, .. cross ?n verdham ante maa ayya apindu,  icche loan kooda ivvadu, silent gaa undu annadu, next day nunchi maa ayya okkade wnt nannu tiskelledhu.. finally got it approved. 

[dasari4kntr]

8 minutes ago, ilakatamaflia said:

True bro.. day1 nannu and maa ayya ni mast waiting lo pettadu.. podduna pothe , afternoon room loki pilinchidu saale gaadu, .. cross ?n verdham ante maa ayya apindu,  icche loan kooda ivvadu, silent gaa undu annadu, next day nunchi maa ayya okkade wnt nannu tiskelledhu.. finally got it approved. 

in my case …first sem ki loan sanction ki pedda lolli chesadu…he gave a condition first sem pass ayithene second sem money sanction chesta ani…

first sem lo oka subject doubt vunde…inka akkadi nundi naa thoughts eto eto poyinayi…vunnavi lenivi voohinchukuntoo…chachhipote baagundu anipinchindi…luckily at that i am staying with parents…lonely gaa room lo vundunte …commit ayye vadinemo…

[Thokkalee]

9 hours ago, dasari4kntr said:

stress..levels alane vuntayi…

naa pg time lo …naaku student loan ichhina bank manager ichhina  stress debbaki naaku kooda alanti thoughts vachhai appatlo…

Na uncle bank manager.. he used to say that people take education loans after joining college and don’t pay them back.. some don’t even study or complete their education.. some take loans with the intention to do business showing education as a roose.. the bank officers get in so much trouble bcoz of approving these loans…

manavallu chese fraud ki, too many restrictions add chesthaaru.. 

This was long ago.. my neighbor in India some how took 3 home loans from different banks on his house and somehow managed to sell the house to another person without disclosing about the loans or paying the loans.. the new buyer occupied the house and then bank recovery guys came as the payments were not being made.. all 3 banks sold the house and shared the amount (at a big loss)and the new owner lost everything.. 

[dasari4kntr]

1 minute ago, Thokkalee said:

Na uncle bank manager.. he used to say that people take education loans after joining college and don’t pay them back.. some don’t even study or complete their education.. some take loans with the intention to do business showing education as a roose.. the bank officers get in so much trouble bcoz of approving these loans…

manavallu chese fraud ki, too many restrictions add chesthaaru.. 

This was long ago.. my neighbor in India some how took 3 home loans from different banks on his house and somehow managed to sell the house to another person without disclosing about the loans or paying the loans.. the new buyer occupied the house and then bank recovery guys came as the payments were not being made.. all 3 banks sold the house and shared the amount (at a big loss)and the new owner lost everything.. 

bro..naaku loan ki two central govt employees surity adigaadu...even after that he put many conditions...

anyway..thats fine...its a bad memory now...but my stress was at peaks...at that time...until that manager got transferred...

[Thokkalee]

1 hour ago, Konebhar6 said:

• Manam enta peekina, em chesina kids enta varaku chadavalo anthe chadutaru. ee realization enta tvaraga vasthe anta manchidi
• We dont force kids for any activities. If they show interest, we enroll in those programs.
• Some Fridays for happy hour with friends
• Some Saturday mornings for hiking. Some evenings get-together.
• Sunday whole day NFL. Everyone knows I am unavailable during 49ers games  Othertimes i am flexible.
• Mon - Thu available for work at home.

Idi maa schedule/agreement. Of course regular weekdays I help her a lot with household chores. She understands and respects MY Time. 

Ledu vaa.. if the kids are smart, they can study on their own.. many kids (like my kid) are average students and they need to be pushed and encouraged.. na dosth gadu doesn’t care anything about his daughter’s education, he is always busy and so is his wife.. she studies on her own and gets very good marks and wins in contests and all.. but my kid needs constant attention and push.. 

[Thokkalee]

22 minutes ago, dasari4kntr said:

bro..naaku loan ki two central govt employees surity adigaadu...even after that he put many conditions...

anyway..thats fine...its a bad memory now...but my stress was at peaks...at that time...until that manager got transferred...

I am in no way supporting the officer here.. they take bribes and give loans to business people who put IP and bunk big amount loans..  surety works only to a certain extent.. it is a red mark on a loan officer if the loan doesn’t get paid as the recovery process itself is expensive to a bank.. 

[Konebhar6]

1 hour ago, Thokkalee said:

Ledu vaa.. if the kids are smart, they can study on their own.. many kids (like my kid) are average students and they need to be pushed and encouraged.. na dosth gadu doesn’t care anything about his daughter’s education, he is always busy and so is his wife.. she studies on her own and gets very good marks and wins in contests and all.. but my kid needs constant attention and push.. 

Same situation with me. I don't tell them daily or weekly. Appudappudu walks and icecream or junk food times lo, Krishna Geetopadesam to Arjuna type. ee summer lo my kid took 2 extra subjects in BYU and completed with in time with A's. Shock tinna. So don't underestimate even if you have realistic expectations like me. 

From time to time, I ask about peer pressure. I also see signs for pressure and spend time with them. 

Appudappudu mood vaste, teach chesta. Mostly math. Ippudu chemistry kuda cheyalemo

[Konebhar6]

1 hour ago, dasari4kntr said:

in my case …first sem ki loan sanction ki pedda lolli chesadu…he gave a condition first sem pass ayithene second sem money sanction chesta ani…

first sem lo oka subject doubt vunde…inka akkadi nundi naa thoughts eto eto poyinayi…vunnavi lenivi voohinchukuntoo…chachhipote baagundu anipinchindi…luckily at that i am staying with parents…lonely gaa room lo vundunte …commit ayye vadinemo…

Mana banks and system gurinchi telsinde kada. Rules follow ayye vallane satayistaru. Fraud chesevallaki easy ga loans istaru and nammutaru .. 

[Konebhar6]

1 hour ago, Thokkalee said:

Ledu vaa.. if the kids are smart, they can study on their own.. many kids (like my kid) are average students and they need to be pushed and encouraged.. na dosth gadu doesn’t care anything about his daughter’s education, he is always busy and so is his wife.. she studies on her own and gets very good marks and wins in contests and all.. but my kid needs constant attention and push.. 

Point entante .. Kids meeda focus maree ekkuva petti, we should not forget to live our live ani .. 

[Thokkalee]

50 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

Point entante .. Kids meeda focus maree ekkuva petti, we should not forget to live our live ani .. 

agreed… but it mostly works when kids go to middle or high school where they are pretty much on their own… my kid is in elementary school and he is a little slow too.. 

one of the parents must focus on the kids education.. my wife doesn’t care about education at all.. so nene chuskovaali..