Relatives suddenly wanting bond | A red flag & selfish motive

[Midnightsun]

Hi All, 
A random question, I have first cousins (Indian-born US citizens) who have been here for the last 35+ years. I have been here in the USA for the past 10 years. In the past 10 years, I never got to talk to them or meet them. They never paid a visit or did not even come to the Airport to pick me up when I landed in the USA for the very first time in the same city where they lived.   Now all of a sudden they started to message me and behave like we are brothers and they want to improve the relationship. I don't have any grudge or love towards them.  I feel totally strange towards them. Honestly, I want to tell them without insulting them.  Being rude can be fulfilling but at the same time, it makes me a bad person. 
Any thoughts?  Should I ignore them?

[lokesh_rjy]

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[Hyderabad_Developers]

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[halwafan]

yagam chey bro, you will have good result

[AndhraPickles]

Red flag....

[CanadianMalodu]

1 hour ago, Midnightsun said:

Hi All, 
A random question, I have first cousins (Indian-born US citizens) who have been here for the last 35+ years. I have been here in the USA for the past 10 years. In the past 10 years, I never got to talk to them or meet them. They never paid a visit or did not even come to the Airport to pick me up when I landed in the USA for the very first time in the same city where they lived.   Now all of a sudden they started to message me and behave like we are brothers and they want to improve the relationship. I don't have any grudge or love towards them.  I feel totally strange towards them. Honestly, I want to tell them without insulting them.  Being rude can be fulfilling but at the same time, it makes me a bad person. 
Any thoughts?  Should I ignore them?

Are you working a good job ? are you making significantly good chunk of money at par or better than them ? If money is out of picture, then may be you should give it a try. People generally like companionship, and crave for belongingness. If you share blood bond why not?

[r2d2]

It is always good to have an extended family.. ignore the past and embrace them..👍

[tyrion123]

1 hour ago, Midnightsun said:

Hi All, 
A random question, I have first cousins (Indian-born US citizens) who have been here for the last 35+ years. I have been here in the USA for the past 10 years. In the past 10 years, I never got to talk to them or meet them. They never paid a visit or did not even come to the Airport to pick me up when I landed in the USA for the very first time in the same city where they lived.   Now all of a sudden they started to message me and behave like we are brothers and they want to improve the relationship. I don't have any grudge or love towards them.  I feel totally strange towards them. Honestly, I want to tell them without insulting them.  Being rude can be fulfilling but at the same time, it makes me a bad person. 
Any thoughts?  Should I ignore them?

just keep a thought at the back of mind ... if they have any motive it will open up in 3-6 months u get to know ...

that being said ... as people get older and as kids grow older ... people want to have to relatives and relationships .... may be they are looking for 'indian culture' and 'indian bonding' to teach to their kids ... and a sense of belongingness to their kids n family ...

i would suggest to embrace their relationship .... n watchout ...

if no motives in 3-6 months .. means u gained a good relationship ... that u and ur kids can cherish on ...

dont share this negative thought to your wife ...

[Spartan]

Ever heard the term called Breadcrumbing

[LadiesTailor]

1 hour ago, Spartan said:

Ever heard the term called Breadcrumbing

Anna idhendanna google thalli ila antundi 

 

When the “crush” has no intentions of taking things further, but they like the attention. So they flirt here or there, send dm/texts just to keep the person interested, knowing damn wellthey’re staying single.

[Spartan]

Just now, LadiesTailor said:

Anna idhendanna google thalli ila antundi 

 

When the “crush” has no intentions of taking things further, but they like the attention. So they flirt here or there, send dm/texts just to keep the person interested, knowing damn wellthey’re staying single.

adi just one context lo 

but it is generic term used across all relation types siblings, relatives, friends, lovers , spouses etc

[pakeer_saab]

3 hours ago, Midnightsun said:

Hi All, 
A random question, I have first cousins (Indian-born US citizens) who have been here for the last 35+ years. I have been here in the USA for the past 10 years. In the past 10 years, I never got to talk to them or meet them. They never paid a visit or did not even come to the Airport to pick me up when I landed in the USA for the very first time in the same city where they lived.   Now all of a sudden they started to message me and behave like we are brothers and they want to improve the relationship. I don't have any grudge or love towards them.  I feel totally strange towards them. Honestly, I want to tell them without insulting them.  Being rude can be fulfilling but at the same time, it makes me a bad person. 
Any thoughts?  Should I ignore them?

may be their focus was entirely something else back then

if they are trying their part to bond with you, give it a chance with open mind

USA, although a big country, can get very small country as we age. dont waste relationships by looking at past.

[Joker_007]

3 hours ago, Midnightsun said:

Hi All, 
A random question, I have first cousins (Indian-born US citizens) who have been here for the last 35+ years. I have been here in the USA for the past 10 years. In the past 10 years, I never got to talk to them or meet them. They never paid a visit or did not even come to the Airport to pick me up when I landed in the USA for the very first time in the same city where they lived.   Now all of a sudden they started to message me and behave like we are brothers and they want to improve the relationship. I don't have any grudge or love towards them.  I feel totally strange towards them. Honestly, I want to tell them without insulting them.  Being rude can be fulfilling but at the same time, it makes me a bad person. 
Any thoughts?  Should I ignore them?

Did you ever called them before coming to US or informed them when you got US visa... If not then a typical Indian Ego kicked in them which might have prevented to come and pick you up. Most of the people in US crave for an attention when you are visiting US for first time. If you did not called them even after landing they might have thought you are arrogant guy... 

Anyway try to communicate with them there is nothing wrong in that. But keep your senses high all time.. Mandu and non veg thinetappudu kakkurti padaku.. 

 

 

[LadiesTailor]

3 hours ago, Midnightsun said:

Hi All, 
A random question, I have first cousins (Indian-born US citizens) who have been here for the last 35+ years. I have been here in the USA for the past 10 years. In the past 10 years, I never got to talk to them or meet them. They never paid a visit or did not even come to the Airport to pick me up when I landed in the USA for the very first time in the same city where they lived.   Now all of a sudden they started to message me and behave like we are brothers and they want to improve the relationship. I don't have any grudge or love towards them.  I feel totally strange towards them. Honestly, I want to tell them without insulting them.  Being rude can be fulfilling but at the same time, it makes me a bad person. 
Any thoughts?  Should I ignore them?

I was one of them… was super busy and ignored all my cousins and life lo education US ila evevo goals tho mastu busy ga vunde… now I’m trying to get back to them by wishing them or calling them but they started to ignore me or looking for money or some other favors…

Nannu kooda ilage ignore chestunnaru antavaaa 

[Tellugodu]

7 minutes ago, LadiesTailor said:

I was one of them… was super busy and ignored all my cousins and life lo education US ila evevo goals tho mastu busy ga vunde… now I’m trying to get back to them by wishing them or calling them but they started to ignore me or looking for money or some other favors…

Nannu kooda ilage ignore chestunnaru antavaaa 

How exactly they are ignoring, adi kuda cheppu.