spouse issues - need help

[FrustratedVuncle]

6 hours ago, imhott said:

escalate to whom? had these discussions many times with her family too, no use. their impression is that she is doing all these things and I'm just chilling at home

sometimes nenu work ki vellalsi vaste, she doesnot even feed lunch to kids, papam they will be hungry till I get back home. She says I already cooked lunch, but stove paine unte ela tintaru kids? alteast plate/bowl lo ivvali kada, she doesnt have that common sense

Pillalki food pettani tallini first time vintunna sodhara. 

Iddaru work chestunna nanny ni afford cheyaleka povatam enti? If she is that busy at least paisal anna ravali. If she is so serious about her career her paycheck would have spoke already. 

My suggestion is to leave kids and her for 2 days and go away. If she wouldn't feed kids then kick her out. 

[shaktimaan]

I don’t have any advice to improve your situation but be careful who you’re talking to in person. Food kuda pettatle ante it comes under child neglect and cps will be on your ass if someone complains. Trust me, you don’t want that situation in your life 

[FrustratedVuncle]

58 minutes ago, imhott said:

na take home lo anni expenses/investments ayyaka maha aithe 400-500 migulutayi, tana takehome salary lo bane untay, couple of thousands, but she says its her money and no way she will use for us as a family.

G meda egiri thannu anna. Kids ni take care cheyakunda my paisal my bochu ante how you tolerating. 

[DallasKarreBaluGadu]

46 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

nee yenkamma ... okka nimisham serious anukunna...

I am not kidding dude, Google it 

[Tellugodu]

2 hours ago, Konebhar6 said:

Socializing is a problem ba. Make a friend or two. May be one of the kids moms  .Kidding. There is something else to your problem which you are not revealing or even you dont know. You need to look deep into yourself.

Eedi kada painki vachi salaha. That’s what I am trying to do with one of the Kiddo mom. 

[DallasKarreBaluGadu]

59 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

nee yenkamma ... okka nimisham serious anukunna...

How to remove wrinkles from clothes using the ice cube trick

1. Place a few items of clean, wrinkled clothing in your dryer (cotton clothes work best).
2. Throw in three or four ice cubes with the clothes, and shut the door.
3. Turn the dryer on high heat, and set a timer for 10 minutes.

 

 

[Konebhar6]

10 minutes ago, DallasKarreBaluGadu said:

How to remove wrinkles from clothes using the ice cube trick

1. Place a few items of clean, wrinkled clothing in your dryer (cotton clothes work best).
2. Throw in three or four ice cubes with the clothes, and shut the door.
3. Turn the dryer on high heat, and set a timer for 10 minutes.

 

 

Thanks. It makes sense. Even while iron we sprinkle water on clothes. So dryer with ice cubes will work.

[DallasKarreBaluGadu]

1 minute ago, Konebhar6 said:

Thanks. It makes sense. Even while iron we sprinkle water on clothes. So dryer with ice cubes will work.

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[vishwavihar]

10 hours ago, Sucker said:

Kids meedha ishtam ledhu ante kashtam annai. Usual ga kids ayyaka love motham atu shift ayyi mogudu complaints chesthadu ikkada kids ledhu mogudu ledhu just career ante vaammo kashtame. 

ikkade kodthundi thedaa...

career evarikosam to give a better life for kids aaa, leka office lo inka emaina.....anta dotcoms unnaya 

[vishwavihar]

3 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

G meda egiri thannu anna. Kids ni take care cheyakunda my paisal my bochu ante how you tolerating. 

egiri egeri mari 

[vishwavihar]

4 hours ago, Spartan said:

pillalni teskoni jump anna...

aa pani chi anna india vachi pillaltho happy ga batakochu ikkada

[baku_keku]

You need to be strong and be a Man,

take kids and live your own life, anyway you are doing the same now except fr the food part.

[HIMU_AMUL]

6 hours ago, DallasKarreBaluGadu said:

Put ice cube in dryer for 10 min all wrinkles will go away 

rey rey reyy

[HIMU_AMUL]

5 hours ago, Konebhar6 said:

Raising kids is not easy. Ask your parents about it. Seriously. I asked my parents about it recently and was amazed at the feedback and how much they were stressed out even though I always thought my sis and I were nice to them and never saw them. It will change your perspective.

I understand your situation. But someone has to take care of kids. Most families men dont take care of kids and women feel the same way as you. In your case its reverse. I still think your wife loves your kids more than you (She gave birth .. duh..) Some people cannot show it and are adverse to taking responsibility. 

She might be taking you for granted. Things are getting done. Why does she need to do all that if you are doing it. So start with not taking so much interest in kids. Kids will adapt fast. Let her see the results. Let her come to negotiation table and then you start taking control asking her to do certain things. 

We all have frustrations - different ones. Not everyone's life is as rosy as they project it. Its very normal to feel the way you are. Find things that make you feel happy and start doing those things. FIND TIME. Manage your stress. Pls do consult your hospital or a mental health care specialist and they will suggest you coping mechanisms or managing your stress. 

oka sari responsibility teeskotam start chesthe malli adey continue cheyyalsi osthadi emo ani lite teeskuntundi ankunta

[HIMU_AMUL]

5 hours ago, pakeer_saab said:

it is most likely the parents directing her, such behavior does not some if the parents have taught her basic things

I would first give belt treatment to her parents when they land in US

switch-light test will work out in most cases

 

 

throw some light on this anna