spouse issues - need help

[HIMU_AMUL]

5 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Pillalki food pettani tallini first time vintunna sodhara. 

Iddaru work chestunna nanny ni afford cheyaleka povatam enti? If she is that busy at least paisal anna ravali. If she is so serious about her career her paycheck would have spoke already. 

My suggestion is to leave kids and her for 2 days and go away. If she wouldn't feed kids then kick her out. 

next endi anna, intlo spy cam petti e 2 days record chesi, pillalni sarigga chuskodu ani evidence sampadinchi, tarvatha divorce apply chesi e evidence tho kids custody sampadichukuni alimony egar10gatam ah

[Tellugodu]

13 hours ago, imhott said:

Ive been stuggling a lot w/ spouse from sometime and seemingly at a dead end now.

We both work remotely full time and have 2 kids. they go to day care and school.

wife's top priority is her job and career. never cares about my, kids, or home. Only thing she does is cooks fresh food daily, which I truly appreciate btw. Rest all things I have to do, from getting kids ready to day care, their breakfast, dropping and picking from school, classes, feeding them dinner (incl. lunch on weekdays). Even in the class whatsapp group all are mom's of kids, I'm the only dad which is weird. She doesnt want to involve in any of kids things, doesnt know the name of kids day care or teachers, never asks them how their day was etc.

even kids got so used to me that they come to me if they are hungry, sleepy or even potty, even if their mom is next to them. Maybe they realized that she is not gonna help them in anyway. We cannot afford to hire a nanny due to our payscales. None of our family members can fly here due to health issues.

When I bring this topic to her, it always starts with an argument and ends with a fight. she never cares to listen and understand as most women do. I feel so overwhelmed with work, kids, house chores and so suffocated. I'm an introvert and have no good friend circle if I want to go out and spend time with them. I have very few good friends who are in other cities, i talk to them sometimes over call. our chex life is poor too. Given so much work at job, home and kids, I am not able to go out for sports or gym that I used to go few years back. I do 30-min workout at home 4-5 times a week which I enjoy.

these days I'm observing lot of mood swings in me, very happy for sometime and then suddenly very sad/angry for no reason. suddenly become so dull and outburst to tears even though I'm not thinking of anything. I should talk to a therapist maybe. This stress is going to kill me someday. getting lot of suicidal thoughts but then thinking of kids makes me not to take any drastic step. I went to my home in India sometime back, kadupu ninda trupti ga annam akkada tinna . she doesnt want to move to hyd for good also.

any help folks to how to manage myself? adagalante ne adola undi, never thought my life will be so much screwed up. is this normal at most households ?

One of the main reasons for this is due to lack of sexual intimacy between both. How many times you both have sex in a period of week/month ? Does she please you/satisfy your sexual needs (I.e - blowjob) ?  

[Jatka Bandi]

What actually is the problem? Do you feel overworked? How do you imagine your life?

[chammakchandra]

15 hours ago, imhott said:

Ive been stuggling a lot w/ spouse from sometime and seemingly at a dead end now.

We both work remotely full time and have 2 kids. they go to day care and school.

wife's top priority is her job and career. never cares about my, kids, or home. Only thing she does is cooks fresh food daily, which I truly appreciate btw. Rest all things I have to do, from getting kids ready to day care, their breakfast, dropping and picking from school, classes, feeding them dinner (incl. lunch on weekdays). Even in the class whatsapp group all are mom's of kids, I'm the only dad which is weird. She doesnt want to involve in any of kids things, doesnt know the name of kids day care or teachers, never asks them how their day was etc.

even kids got so used to me that they come to me if they are hungry, sleepy or even potty, even if their mom is next to them. Maybe they realized that she is not gonna help them in anyway. We cannot afford to hire a nanny due to our payscales. None of our family members can fly here due to health issues.

When I bring this topic to her, it always starts with an argument and ends with a fight. she never cares to listen and understand as most women do. I feel so overwhelmed with work, kids, house chores and so suffocated. I'm an introvert and have no good friend circle if I want to go out and spend time with them. I have very few good friends who are in other cities, i talk to them sometimes over call. our chex life is poor too. Given so much work at job, home and kids, I am not able to go out for sports or gym that I used to go few years back. I do 30-min workout at home 4-5 times a week which I enjoy.

these days I'm observing lot of mood swings in me, very happy for sometime and then suddenly very sad/angry for no reason. suddenly become so dull and outburst to tears even though I'm not thinking of anything. I should talk to a therapist maybe. This stress is going to kill me someday. getting lot of suicidal thoughts but then thinking of kids makes me not to take any drastic step. I went to my home in India sometime back, kadupu ninda trupti ga annam akkada tinna . she doesnt want to move to hyd for good also.

any help folks to how to manage myself? adagalante ne adola undi, never thought my life will be so much screwed up. is this normal at most households ?

Mood swings vitamins  D deficiency valla mostly.. try over the counter ones or go see doc they will prescribe 

[Guest6]

29 minutes ago, Jatka Bandi said:

What actually is the problem? Do you feel overworked? How do you imagine your life?

May be problem with corporation in bed 

[imhott]

Thanks everyone for your helpful thoughts.

[ZoomNaidu]

6 hours ago, HIMU_AMUL said:

throw some light on this anna

Light aapesi vuthukamani 😃😃

[quest]

19 hours ago, imhott said:

Ive been stuggling a lot w/ spouse from sometime and seemingly at a dead end now.

We both work remotely full time and have 2 kids. they go to day care and school.

wife's top priority is her job and career. never cares about my, kids, or home. Only thing she does is cooks fresh food daily, which I truly appreciate btw. Rest all things I have to do, from getting kids ready to day care, their breakfast, dropping and picking from school, classes, feeding them dinner (incl. lunch on weekdays). Even in the class whatsapp group all are mom's of kids, I'm the only dad which is weird. She doesnt want to involve in any of kids things, doesnt know the name of kids day care or teachers, never asks them how their day was etc.

even kids got so used to me that they come to me if they are hungry, sleepy or even potty, even if their mom is next to them. Maybe they realized that she is not gonna help them in anyway. We cannot afford to hire a nanny due to our payscales. None of our family members can fly here due to health issues.

When I bring this topic to her, it always starts with an argument and ends with a fight. she never cares to listen and understand as most women do. I feel so overwhelmed with work, kids, house chores and so suffocated. I'm an introvert and have no good friend circle if I want to go out and spend time with them. I have very few good friends who are in other cities, i talk to them sometimes over call. our chex life is poor too. Given so much work at job, home and kids, I am not able to go out for sports or gym that I used to go few years back. I do 30-min workout at home 4-5 times a week which I enjoy.

these days I'm observing lot of mood swings in me, very happy for sometime and then suddenly very sad/angry for no reason. suddenly become so dull and outburst to tears even though I'm not thinking of anything. I should talk to a therapist maybe. This stress is going to kill me someday. getting lot of suicidal thoughts but then thinking of kids makes me not to take any drastic step. I went to my home in India sometime back, kadupu ninda trupti ga annam akkada tinna . she doesnt want to move to hyd for good also.

any help folks to how to manage myself? adagalante ne adola undi, never thought my life will be so much screwed up. is this normal at most households ?

i feel you bruh.. work share chesukomanu, kaadu koodadu ante give her two options: 1) job maneyyamanu 2) India 10geddam ani cheppu 3) nuvvu job maney

ivvani ayye panulu kaadu ani neeku anipistundi definitega.. given how far this went... organize your rotine and plan an hour of "your" time - mediation or mandu taagatam etc.. 
 

inka naa valla kaadu, naaku dhairyam ledu madda ledu ante, do this for few more years.

cooking chestundi, daaniki santhosinchu.

I have two kids, younger. I take a very good care of them, I entertain them... etc but the max I can do is 2 hours in a strech. I can give them bath when wifey is sick or tired but I cannot feed them. 

At any cost 9:30 ki vallu bedroom lo undaali, nenu oka 2 hours TV with or without mandu is my time.

[Rushabhi]

Remove yourself everyday from kids. Like join a gym and workout. Aa 1 hour anna cheyyali ga kids ki thanu 

[pakeer_saab]

11 hours ago, vishwavihar said:

ikkade kodthundi thedaa...

career evarikosam to give a better life for kids aaa, leka office lo inka emaina.....anta dotcoms unnaya 

great point, work lo anta dedication istundi ante work aina nachi undaali leka work lo evaraina nachi undaali 😁

[Konebhar6]

3 hours ago, quest said:

i feel you bruh.. work share chesukomanu, kaadu koodadu ante give her two options: 1) job maneyyamanu 2) India 10geddam ani cheppu 3) nuvvu job maney

ivvani ayye panulu kaadu ani neeku anipistundi definitega.. given how far this went... organize your rotine and plan an hour of "your" time - mediation or mandu taagatam etc.. 
 

inka naa valla kaadu, naaku dhairyam ledu madda ledu ante, do this for few more years.

cooking chestundi, daaniki santhosinchu.

I have two kids, younger. I take a very good care of them, I entertain them... etc but the max I can do is 2 hours in a strech. I can give them bath when wifey is sick or tired but I cannot feed them. 

At any cost 9:30 ki vallu bedroom lo undaali, nenu oka 2 hours TV with or without mandu is my time.

Correct ga cheppavu bhayya. Life enta stress unna, enta compromises unnna (with wife and kids and its normal for everyone) wife and husband both need their Time and need to de-stress doing their fav activity with "Me Time". 

[DallasKarreBaluGandu]

On 1/3/2024 at 7:23 PM, DallasKarreBaluGadu said:

Lanjelu waste anna fuk and forget 

nijam ga 10ge modagadu no erectile disfunction mogaddu  pellam  ni ekada unchalloo akkada unchutadu

10galenodu mangalavaram magavallu unnadinnallu spouse issues untundhi

@csrcsr eee visheyamullo best single @CSR_groomed_Vatakays sitting in tents

cc @DallasKarreBaluGadu

[ANNA_PLEASE_PETTU]

On 1/3/2024 at 3:36 PM, imhott said:

Ive been stuggling a lot w/ spouse from sometime and seemingly at a dead end now.

We both work remotely full time and have 2 kids. they go to day care and school.

wife's top priority is her job and career. never cares about my, kids, or home. Only thing she does is cooks fresh food daily, which I truly appreciate btw. Rest all things I have to do, from getting kids ready to day care, their breakfast, dropping and picking from school, classes, feeding them dinner (incl. lunch on weekdays). Even in the class whatsapp group all are mom's of kids, I'm the only dad which is weird. She doesnt want to involve in any of kids things, doesnt know the name of kids day care or teachers, never asks them how their day was etc.

even kids got so used to me that they come to me if they are hungry, sleepy or even potty, even if their mom is next to them. Maybe they realized that she is not gonna help them in anyway. We cannot afford to hire a nanny due to our payscales. None of our family members can fly here due to health issues.

When I bring this topic to her, it always starts with an argument and ends with a fight. she never cares to listen and understand as most women do. I feel so overwhelmed with work, kids, house chores and so suffocated. I'm an introvert and have no good friend circle if I want to go out and spend time with them. I have very few good friends who are in other cities, i talk to them sometimes over call. our chex life is poor too. Given so much work at job, home and kids, I am not able to go out for sports or gym that I used to go few years back. I do 30-min workout at home 4-5 times a week which I enjoy.

these days I'm observing lot of mood swings in me, very happy for sometime and then suddenly very sad/angry for no reason. suddenly become so dull and outburst to tears even though I'm not thinking of anything. I should talk to a therapist maybe. This stress is going to kill me someday. getting lot of suicidal thoughts but then thinking of kids makes me not to take any drastic step. I went to my home in India sometime back, kadupu ninda trupti ga annam akkada tinna . she doesnt want to move to hyd for good also.

any help folks to how to manage myself? adagalante ne adola undi, never thought my life will be so much screwed up. is this normal at most households ?

r u sure she is not forced into this marriage? 

does have have love matter before or after marriage which you might not aware of this? such people behave life hopeless. 

or did you kept any affairs which she come to know also matters. 

BUt 99.99% Mothers either its animal also will love kids. if none is above true then you also behave like ignoring children for soem days and see,