Poll_Rangadu Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Me and Sibling live in US. We both are USC.Kids going to elementary and Middle school. I am asking parents to settle here in US with us. They are like no dady listen. In return they are asking us to come back to India and settle. Ikkada vallu unapudu i see them very happy with their community friends and they have more events , pooja’s per week. But once they go back , they complain they dont like it here and cannot live in us. I am only son , taking care of my parents is my responsibility. how to convince parents to come and live with us. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Spartan Posted March 18 Popular Post Report Share Posted March 18 4 minutes ago, Poll_Rangadu said: Me and Sibling live in US. We both are USC.Kids going to elementary and Middle school. I am asking parents to settle here in US with us. They are like no dady listen. In return they are asking us to come back to India and settle. Ikkada vallu unapudu i see them very happy with their community friends and they have more events , pooja’s per week. But once they go back , they complain they dont like it here and cannot live in us. I am only son , taking care of my parents is my responsibility. how to convince parents to come and live with us. ikkada unnapudu kuda same feeling but.. meeru badha padtaremo ani ..happy ga undataniki try chestaru... they cannot leave home country anna...let them live in India..and you make multiple trips there and make provision for their smooth living anta kanna ekkuva em cheyalem 1 4 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Poll_Rangadu Posted March 18 Author Report Share Posted March 18 1 minute ago, Spartan said: ikkada unnapudu kuda same feeling but.. meeru badha padtaremo ani ..happy ga undataniki try chestaru... they cannot leave home country anna...let them live in India..and you make multiple trips there and make provision for their smooth living anta kanna ekkuva em cheyalem Thanks brother. I am unable to leave them just like that in india. They live far away from my relatives due to my father's bank job. Sometimes, I get up in the midnight thinking about their safety. I have been going through sleep less nights worry about my parents. They both are 65+ Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Spartan Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 1 minute ago, Poll_Rangadu said: Thanks brother. I am unable to leave them just like that in india. They live far away from my relatives due to my father's bank job. Sometimes, I get up in the midnight thinking about their safety. I have been going through sleep less nights worry about my parents. They both are 65+ happens...mainly when you are the only son... vallki ikkada pilipinchi ibbandi pette badalu..you shud visit them frequently.. e age lo travel will be cumbersome,,even if you book Business-class US vellam, ani cheppukotaniki tappa...vere enthusiasm emi undadu vallaki e vayasu lo 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Konebhar6 Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 9 minutes ago, Poll_Rangadu said: Thanks brother. I am unable to leave them just like that in india. They live far away from my relatives due to my father's bank job. Sometimes, I get up in the midnight thinking about their safety. I have been going through sleep less nights worry about my parents. They both are 65+ This is the story for many of us. Same with my parents, they don't want to come here. So I am travelling frequently (whenever time permits, twice a year) .. Last trip I spend 1 month completely with them. Also since I went alone, I was able to spend all time with them. I took them on a Relatives trip (Moms relatives/friends who she did not meet for a long time). I took them to some places they wanted to see. Enjoyed food/tea/snacks and having good conversations. I haven't seen them that happy. First time my mom did not cry when I left. I call them frequently (4+ times a week). I would not force them to get out of their comfort at this age. I am still worried but the situation is what it is. 1 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Vaaaampire Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 Let them be where they are happy. Year ki okka 2-3 months vallani ikkadiki rammanu. Meeru kooda yearly 1-2 times india vellandi. ikkada unnapudu vallu happy ga unnaru ani nuvvu anukuntunnav. May be its not true. basic ikkada unnapudu parents ki freedom miss avuthadi. India lo vallu evari meedha dependent kaaru. Eppudu em cheyyali antey adhi chestharu. Ikkada aithey kids meedha depend avutharu. No matter how much kids take care, that dependent feeling is not going to go away 2 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
pushparaj Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 32 minutes ago, Poll_Rangadu said: Me and Sibling live in US. We both are USC.Kids going to elementary and Middle school. I am asking parents to settle here in US with us. They are like no dady listen. In return they are asking us to come back to India and settle. Ikkada vallu unapudu i see them very happy with their community friends and they have more events , pooja’s per week. But once they go back , they complain they dont like it here and cannot live in us. I am only son , taking care of my parents is my responsibility. how to convince parents to come and live with us. At this age, let them do they they want. Let them live peacefully where they really belong. my parents don’t even want to live in Hyderabad as they want to go back to my village even after living in Hyderabad for 25+ years. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post tom brady Posted March 18 Popular Post Report Share Posted March 18 I am more depressed when my parents are here seeing them unhappy....they enjoy with kids, DIL toh no issues...they walk around talk to others but they miss something and at the end of the day they count days to stay. So, for past few years I'm only booking 45 days during good weather seasons and taking kids to India for 45 days every year...working out good. 2 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Original Profile Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 It’s a torture for them honestly. Imagine you go to different country and can’t drive or handle the language. Few days ok but after that it feels like a prison. Ma parents vunna 3 months happy vuntaru because it’s for limited time. Extend ante no way antaru especially dad. Return vellaka they are very happy to meet all the people Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Pahelwan2 Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 1 hour ago, Poll_Rangadu said: Thanks brother. I am unable to leave them just like that in india. They live far away from my relatives due to my father's bank job. Sometimes, I get up in the midnight thinking about their safety. I have been going through sleep less nights worry about my parents. They both are 65+ If you can’t go back to India and they can’t come to USA then be prepared for any news. We are all in the same middle age crisis now. Inka em cheyalem just spend more time with them. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TechSri Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 US lo manake undalani anipinchadu affer living for decades. Mechanical life and money money nothing is here. Parents ki ela nachutadi. They need our land and people. You can not buy same environment with crores. Let them live in india and you also go when they can’t manage. 1 Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kakynada Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 your parents are right. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Narcos Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 nanny charges save cheyyatam kosam vallani ibbandi pettadam deniki bro...let them stay with their near and dear Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
nuvvu_naakina_paalem Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 3 hours ago, Poll_Rangadu said: Me and Sibling live in US. We both are USC.Kids going to elementary and Middle school. I am asking parents to settle here in US with us. They are like no dady listen. In return they are asking us to come back to India and settle. Ikkada vallu unapudu i see them very happy with their community friends and they have more events , pooja’s per week. But once they go back , they complain they dont like it here and cannot live in us. I am only son , taking care of my parents is my responsibility. how to convince parents to come and live with us. No daddy listens when they are selfish Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
RavvaKesari Posted March 18 Report Share Posted March 18 4 hours ago, Poll_Rangadu said: Me and Sibling live in US. We both are USC.Kids going to elementary and Middle school. I am asking parents to settle here in US with us. They are like no dady listen. In return they are asking us to come back to India and settle. Ikkada vallu unapudu i see them very happy with their community friends and they have more events , pooja’s per week. But once they go back , they complain they dont like it here and cannot live in us. I am only son , taking care of my parents is my responsibility. how to convince parents to come and live with us. They are better off in India than forcing them to live in US. Don't make them feel depressed at this age. Quote Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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