Why I Became Insecure

[waffle_jilani]

Worked remotely for long years.

Lost the job. Lost the stability. Visa grace period started.

Add to that:

7-year relationship ended very badly.

Got betrayed.

Lost reputation.

Lost trust in people.

 

Now I get anxiety about going back to office, meeting new folks, and dealing with different opinions, politics, and occasional racism. My brain assumes everyone is judging me.

 

Maybe it’s trauma. Maybe it’s burnout. Maybe it’s just life.

 

I’m trying not to become bitter or stuck.

 

If you’ve been through job loss, immigration stress, breakups, and public embarrassment — how did you reset?

 

How did you rebuild confidence and stop overthinking?

 

Looking for real advice. No motivational posters.

[FrustratedVuncle]

24 minutes ago, waffle_jilani said:

Worked remotely for long years.

Lost the job. Lost the stability. Visa grace period started.

Add to that:

7-year relationship ended very badly.

Got betrayed.

Lost reputation.

Lost trust in people.

 

Now I get anxiety about going back to office, meeting new folks, and dealing with different opinions, politics, and occasional racism. My brain assumes everyone is judging me.

 

Maybe it’s trauma. Maybe it’s burnout. Maybe it’s just life.

 

I’m trying not to become bitter or stuck.

 

If you’ve been through job loss, immigration stress, breakups, and public embarrassment — how did you reset?

 

How did you rebuild confidence and stop overthinking?

 

Looking for real advice. No motivational posters.

Intense topic. Is it your real post or expat copy paste?

[LadiesTailor]

27 minutes ago, waffle_jilani said:

Worked remotely for long years.

Lost the job. Lost the stability. Visa grace period started.

Add to that:

7-year relationship ended very badly.

Got betrayed.

Lost reputation.

Lost trust in people.

 

Now I get anxiety about going back to office, meeting new folks, and dealing with different opinions, politics, and occasional racism. My brain assumes everyone is judging me.

 

Maybe it’s trauma. Maybe it’s burnout. Maybe it’s just life.

 

I’m trying not to become bitter or stuck.

 

If you’ve been through job loss, immigration stress, breakups, and public embarrassment — how did you reset?

 

How did you rebuild confidence and stop overthinking?

 

Looking for real advice. No motivational posters.

You can only worry about things you can control…  ignore other things which is not in your hands… this is the best thing you need to follow and meeting people is always exciting bro…  going to office is more fun than sitting at home…. You will love it 

regarding breakup I can’t say anything.. it takes time to heel and keep yourself busy with things you like… 

[Spartan]

Job ochinda malli.? 

[waffle_jilani]

1 minute ago, Spartan said:

Job ochinda malli.? 

Ledu 

senior role so very less chance to get interview on Visa 

[Sucker]

31 minutes ago, waffle_jilani said:

Worked remotely for long years.

Lost the job. Lost the stability. Visa grace period started.

Add to that:

7-year relationship ended very badly.

Got betrayed.

Lost reputation.

Lost trust in people.

 

Now I get anxiety about going back to office, meeting new folks, and dealing with different opinions, politics, and occasional racism. My brain assumes everyone is judging me.

 

Maybe it’s trauma. Maybe it’s burnout. Maybe it’s just life.

 

I’m trying not to become bitter or stuck.

 

If you’ve been through job loss, immigration stress, breakups, and public embarrassment — how did you reset?

 

How did you rebuild confidence and stop overthinking?

 

Looking for real advice. No motivational posters.

Life ante work la chesaru unfortunately USA lo extra burden visa so obviously all are pucked up end of the day. 

[waffle_jilani]

2 minutes ago, LadiesTailor said:

You can only worry about things you can control…  ignore other things which is not in your hands… this is the best thing you need to follow and meeting people is always exciting bro…  going to office is more fun than sitting at home…. You will love it 

regarding breakup I can’t say anything.. it takes time to heel and keep yourself busy with things you like… 

Yea true 

But , felt like lost control on everything 

[waffle_jilani]

8 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Intense topic. Is it your real post or expat copy paste?

Real true post anna

[psycopk]

Yea very tough spot to be in give. Current visa restrictions… but remember one thing usa lo unte ne life kadu… second ammai antava early ga cut aaindi giving you room to marry instead of ditching u after 5 yrs anuko

[Sucker]

4 minutes ago, Sucker said:

Life ante work la chesaru unfortunately USA lo extra burden visa so obviously all are pucked up end of the day. 

Inka relationship struggle kuda vundhi ante worst chusav antha kanna worst or low vundadhu from here anni flow lo vellu anthe. Nothing is in you hands anukoni. Try to find a good partner adhi anniti kanna life la important. Peaceful pamily peaceful life otherwise yentha paisal visa lu vunna pucked up ne life. 

[Coconut]

i was in similar situation, moved out of Dallas and things got better.

[waffle_jilani]

1 minute ago, Coconut said:

i was in similar situation, moved out of Dallas and things got better.

which place ? i always wanted to run out from this dallas caste groups 

[allbakara]

Last week lca file chesa annav, h1 transfer filed or not yet?

[waffle_jilani]

Not yet approved kaka 

but it’s risky

[Moon_Walker]

11 minutes ago, waffle_jilani said:

which place ? i always wanted to run out from this dallas caste groups 

Do that first. Leave that s$$t hole called Dallas and go to a nature friendly state.

What role are u looking for?