Why I Became Insecure

[naansense]

been there. move cities. everything will fall in place. pick a hobby

take it easy 

[Coconut]

18 minutes ago, waffle_jilani said:

which place ? i always wanted to run out from this dallas caste groups 

Arizona

[waffle_jilani]

19 minutes ago, Coconut said:

Arizona

man you got it 

I was planning for so long time 

Hopefully i will move in there soon 

[Konebhar6]

You need to get your confidence back. Thats the key. Working remotely has screwed people in different ways that we don’t understand. 
 

Cut off toxic people from life and go out with people that you like. Start with small conversations. Enjoy a game (Super Bowl coming up). Go to a pub or a bar and interact with people. It’s actually fun. No one remembers anything next day. You can be stupid and. Or worry about it. 
If not go bowling, do something out of your routine or comfort zone. Having conversations with people and connecting with people gets your confidence back. 
Make a notes of all your past achievements. School and college and at work. Appreciations you got, etc. If you can do it before, you can do it again. 
Go to a gym or running or even walk (whatever works for you). Focus on your physical appearance for yourself not others. Eat good food and cut off junk food. May be do some light shopping and buy a nice shirt or pants. 
Do whatever makes you happy. This is the only way to get back your confidence. 

[FrustratedVuncle]

2 hours ago, waffle_jilani said:

Worked remotely for long years.

Lost the job. Lost the stability. Visa grace period started.

Add to that:

7-year relationship ended very badly.

Got betrayed.

Lost reputation.

Lost trust in people.

 

Now I get anxiety about going back to office, meeting new folks, and dealing with different opinions, politics, and occasional racism. My brain assumes everyone is judging me.

 

Maybe it’s trauma. Maybe it’s burnout. Maybe it’s just life.

 

I’m trying not to become bitter or stuck.

 

If you’ve been through job loss, immigration stress, breakups, and public embarrassment — how did you reset?

 

How did you rebuild confidence and stop overthinking?

 

Looking for real advice. No motivational posters.

Manaki choice undadhu anna, Move on. Daily walks and gym ki po konni rojulu. People underestimate how much gym or small walks help relieve stress and depression. 

Dont worry about what other thinks or public embarrassments, no one has time to remember or gives a sheet . 

Write things down like what you need, what to do to get it done, your brain will accustom... (Ala ani Dimple Hayathi kavali ani rayaku, She is mine)

[waffle_jilani]

13 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

Manaki choice undadhu anna, Move on. Daily walks and gym ki po konni rojulu. People underestimate how much gym or small walks help relieve stress and depression. 

Dont worry about what other thinks or public embarrassments, no one has time to remember or gives a sheet . 

Write things down like what you need, what to do to get it done, your brain will accustom... (Ala ani Dimple Hayathi kavali ani rayaku, She is mine)

agreed 

I need to start 

[waffle_jilani]

14 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

You need to get your confidence back. Thats the key. Working remotely has screwed people in different ways that we don’t understand. 
 

Cut off toxic people from life and go out with people that you like. Start with small conversations. Enjoy a game (Super Bowl coming up). Go to a pub or a bar and interact with people. It’s actually fun. No one remembers anything next day. You can be stupid and. Or worry about it. 
If not go bowling, do something out of your routine or comfort zone. Having conversations with people and connecting with people gets your confidence back. 
Make a notes of all your past achievements. School and college and at work. Appreciations you got, etc. If you can do it before, you can do it again. 
Go to a gym or running or even walk (whatever works for you). Focus on your physical appearance for yourself not others. Eat good food and cut off junk food. May be do some light shopping and buy a nice shirt or pants. 
Do whatever makes you happy. This is the only way to get back your confidence. 

apt

[waffle_jilani]

14 minutes ago, Konebhar6 said:

You need to get your confidence back. Thats the key. Working remotely has screwed people in different ways that we don’t understand. 
 

Cut off toxic people from life and go out with people that you like. Start with small conversations. Enjoy a game (Super Bowl coming up). Go to a pub or a bar and interact with people. It’s actually fun. No one remembers anything next day. You can be stupid and. Or worry about it. 
If not go bowling, do something out of your routine or comfort zone. Having conversations with people and connecting with people gets your confidence back. 
Make a notes of all your past achievements. School and college and at work. Appreciations you got, etc. If you can do it before, you can do it again. 
Go to a gym or running or even walk (whatever works for you). Focus on your physical appearance for yourself not others. Eat good food and cut off junk food. May be do some light shopping and buy a nice shirt or pants. 
Do whatever makes you happy. This is the only way to get back your confidence. 

Very bad at judging or guessing people 

throughout my journey i was with almost many snakes and there were few good people can’t blame them 

 

but most of the people are so poisonous 

[Android_Halwa]

Arey emunnav vaa nuv....7 years life enjoy chesi, edo comfort zone ki jara ibbandi raagane duniya la kastalu anni neeke vunayi ani septunav...

You just got used to the extreme comforts of life and security...and your brain felt this is how it would be for the rest of your life, but anukokunda udyogam povadam, pori povadam  tho kastalu malli modalayinayi...

WFH was a privilege...and a job is a necessity. Yeah, people will judge you, but the good part is that they won't tell you what they think of you...nuv ade pani chey...matter balance aitadi. 

Above all, Dallaspuram Syndrome ...beer biryani bandh chesi texas steak tinadam modalu pettu...taggipotadi.

[Deadp0ol2]

Move to new place and Go to office you will make new friends and meet new people, it will be refreshing and your mood changes. 

[waffle_jilani]

3 minutes ago, Android_Halwa said:

Arey emunnav vaa nuv....7 years life enjoy chesi, edo comfort zone ki jara ibbandi raagane duniya la kastalu anni neeke vunayi ani septunav...

You just got used to the extreme comforts of life and security...and your brain felt this is how it would be for the rest of your life, but anukokunda udyogam povadam, pori povadam  tho kastalu malli modalayinayi...

WFH was a privilege...and a job is a necessity. Yeah, people will judge you, but the good part is that they won't tell you what they think of you...nuv ade pani chey...matter balance aitadi. 

Above all, Dallaspuram Syndrome ...beer biryani bandh chesi texas steak tinadam modalu pettu...taggipotadi.

kaka enjoy em ledu 

i was the top performer in team 

it’s just politics , spend young quality 7 years for nothing 

[Konebhar6]

26 minutes ago, waffle_jilani said:

Very bad at judging or guessing people 

throughout my journey i was with almost many snakes and there were few good people can’t blame them 

 

but most of the people are so poisonous 

It’s good to introspect from time to time about yourself too. You may not see your toxic traits, but you need to know. Ask a close friend who can be candid. May be ask those who don’t like you.