mustang302 Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 pelli ayyi entha kaalam indhi vuncle..appudae ee thougts vasthunnai...!!
reddynaidu Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 ala happy ga lenappudu why do we live together ? Bhayya, koddiga advice ista vinuko... Naaku 24 ki marriage aipoindi.. same community arranged marriages and our families are very like.. When me n my wife first met, it was all colorfull..a few weeks into the meeting, we saw a difference of opinions.. I am extremely fun loving, friends,gfs,cars bikes,drinks.. She was a typical bommarillu girl.."nanagaru chepparu andi".. Then started struggle... We were 2 different persons and different personalities.. I told my dad, I dont like the marriage... Worried about society,my father said u have to go thru this... Same thing with my wife..We finally got married in 2009 march.. Recession, job ledu..nenu 2nd MS and tanu 1st MS.. in same uni here....every month had to call father and FIL for money.. Ma fee kattaru.. Dear wife was never used to working.. Worst situation enti ante work cheyyadam ishtam kuda ledu.. Same time lo mana friends ,ex gfs inka touch lo unde.. me always chilled.. was still talkin to my ex-gf(only talking,nothin else) drinkin with friends etc etc...evru emi anna lite.. aath care.. She was in a different world.very serious about everything anyone says... She never stayed out.. So every day calling family and crying.. We fought everyday bcoz I was careless and she was extra cautious.. frustration.. Jobs enni apply chesina raledu..ado frustration..Every month parent and inlaws money teesukunte lopala picchi D*****di...but still This was our 1st 6months.. 7-8 month lo slowly things changed.. we went to Vegas and LA..drive.. we had fun..during that time while driving slowly she used to tell me to slow down,take things seriously,reduce drinkin..she actually took time and words to convince me.. Me also same way, told her we have to work here, we shud repay our parents money, we have to be independent .. Finally we came to a conclusion after 1yr.. we drew a line where enjoyment is and where being extreme is.. what working hard is and what working hardly is.. its 5+ yrs into the marriage now.. we are being blessed with a lil princess soon. Today I have a stable job,still chilled but not crazy, drink but dont get drunk,dont have touch with my ex-gf(atleast not in a way she know ;-))meet friends but be home by 11.. enta late aina i come home and sleep bside her.. talk to her, tease her...watched a movie every week till she was preggy,went for a trip every long weekend.. visit her cousins almost every week.. same way...she is in a decent job now, she is not so conservative like before.. she has come out of the bommarillu..takes time with me.. does all the house hold work, talks to my parents everyday... She doesnt like a few things, i dont like a few things...we work it out and do it in a way that either of us needs to know, or if they do know in such a way that it would not be a problem... Bringing parents into this is not goin to help u in anyway.. just complicates things.. for her parents she will always be right.. four yours you are right.. ego problems and complications... Man up and deal it.. Marriage is not so easy... Any guy can get married , fuck his wife and give a grandkid to his/her parents.. IT TAKES A MAN TO DEAL WITH YOUR WOMAN N THINK AS A SINGLE MIND..MAN UP... Yours Sincerely a married brother... 1
LungiLingaraju Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Personal space bongu boshanam anaku vaa .. Née wife kuda space ani oka weekend Vegas next inko friend next vere ani tirgutha unte etla untadi neeku .. Avani vadulkoni intlo unte neeku kastam aitundaa ametho time spend cheyaniki ... Billion dollars adgindaa endhi .. Just nuvvu ekkuva sepu ametho Undu ani anadi ... Tondara padi decisions teeskoku
reddynaidu Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 My above post dedicated to all the newly married/happily and unhappily married uncles of this DB..
mustang302 Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Bhayya, koddiga advice ista vinuko... Naaku 24 ki marriage aipoindi.. same community arranged marriages and our families are very like.. When me n my wife first met, it was all colorfull..a few weeks into the meeting, we saw a difference of opinions.. I am extremely fun loving, friends,gfs,cars bikes,drinks.. She was a typical bommarillu girl.."nanagaru chepparu andi".. Then started struggle... We were 2 different persons and different personalities.. I told my dad, I dont like the marriage... Worried about society,my father said u have to go thru this... Same thing with my wife..We finally got married in 2009 march.. Recession, job ledu..nenu 2nd MS and tanu 1st MS.. in same uni here....every month had to call father and FIL for money.. Ma fee kattaru.. Dear wife was never used to working.. Worst situation enti ante work cheyyadam ishtam kuda ledu.. Same time lo mana friends ,ex gfs inka touch lo unde.. me always chilled.. was still talkin to my ex-gf(only talking,nothin else) drinkin with friends etc etc...evru emi anna lite.. aath care.. She was in a different world.very serious about everything anyone says... She never stayed out.. So every day calling family and crying.. We fought everyday bcoz I was careless and she was extra cautious.. frustration.. Jobs enni apply chesina raledu..ado frustration..Every month parent and inlaws money teesukunte lopala picchi D*****di...but still This was our 1st 6months.. 7-8 month lo slowly things changed.. we went to Vegas and LA..drive.. we had fun..during that time while driving slowly she used to tell me to slow down,take things seriously,reduce drinkin..she actually took time and words to convince me.. Me also same way, told her we have to work here, we shud repay our parents money, we have to be independent .. Finally we came to a conclusion after 1yr.. we drew a line where enjoyment is and where being extreme is.. what working hard is and what working hardly is.. its 5+ yrs into the marriage now.. we are being blessed with a lil princess soon. Today I have a stable job,still chilled but not crazy, drink but dont get drunk,dont have touch with my ex-gf(atleast not in a way she know ;-))meet friends but be home by 11.. enta late aina i come home and sleep bside her.. talk to her, tease her...watched a movie every week till she was preggy,went for a trip every long weekend.. visit her cousins almost every week.. same way...she is in a decent job now, she is not so conservative like before.. she has come out of the bommarillu..takes time with me.. does all the house hold work, talks to my parents everyday... She doesnt like a few things, i dont like a few things...we work it out and do it in a way that either of us needs to know, or if they do know in such a way that it would not be a problem... Bringing parents into this is not goin to help u in anyway.. just complicates things.. for her parents she will always be right.. four yours you are right.. ego problems and complications... Man up and deal it.. Marriage is not so easy... Any guy can get married , ** his wife and give a grandkid to his/her parents.. IT TAKES A MAN TO DEAL WITH YOUR WOMAN N THINK AS A SINGLE MIND..MAN UP... Yours Sincerely a married brother... pelli itae aevadina change avvalsindae..!! gaaliki tirigae vaadini..veediki pelli chaestae daariloki vasthadu ani enduku antaru anukunnav...!!
jbourne Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Bhayya, koddiga advice ista vinuko... Naaku 24 ki marriage aipoindi.. same community arranged marriages and our families are very like.. When me n my wife first met, it was all colorfull..a few weeks into the meeting, we saw a difference of opinions.. I am extremely fun loving, friends,gfs,cars bikes,drinks.. She was a typical bommarillu girl.."nanagaru chepparu andi".. Then started struggle... We were 2 different persons and different personalities.. I told my dad, I dont like the marriage... Worried about society,my father said u have to go thru this... Same thing with my wife..We finally got married in 2009 march.. Recession, job ledu..nenu 2nd MS and tanu 1st MS.. in same uni here....every month had to call father and FIL for money.. Ma fee kattaru.. Dear wife was never used to working.. Worst situation enti ante work cheyyadam ishtam kuda ledu.. Same time lo mana friends ,ex gfs inka touch lo unde.. me always chilled.. was still talkin to my ex-gf(only talking,nothin else) drinkin with friends etc etc...evru emi anna lite.. aath care.. She was in a different world.very serious about everything anyone says... She never stayed out.. So every day calling family and crying.. We fought everyday bcoz I was careless and she was extra cautious.. frustration.. Jobs enni apply chesina raledu..ado frustration..Every month parent and inlaws money teesukunte lopala picchi D*****di...but still This was our 1st 6months.. 7-8 month lo slowly things changed.. we went to Vegas and LA..drive.. we had fun..during that time while driving slowly she used to tell me to slow down,take things seriously,reduce drinkin..she actually took time and words to convince me.. Me also same way, told her we have to work here, we shud repay our parents money, we have to be independent .. Finally we came to a conclusion after 1yr.. we drew a line where enjoyment is and where being extreme is.. what working hard is and what working hardly is.. its 5+ yrs into the marriage now.. we are being blessed with a lil princess soon. Today I have a stable job,still chilled but not crazy, drink but dont get drunk,dont have touch with my ex-gf(atleast not in a way she know ;-))meet friends but be home by 11.. enta late aina i come home and sleep bside her.. talk to her, tease her...watched a movie every week till she was preggy,went for a trip every long weekend.. visit her cousins almost every week.. same way...she is in a decent job now, she is not so conservative like before.. she has come out of the bommarillu..takes time with me.. does all the house hold work, talks to my parents everyday... She doesnt like a few things, i dont like a few things...we work it out and do it in a way that either of us needs to know, or if they do know in such a way that it would not be a problem... Bringing parents into this is not goin to help u in anyway.. just complicates things.. for her parents she will always be right.. four yours you are right.. ego problems and complications... Man up and deal it.. Marriage is not so easy... Any guy can get married , ** his wife and give a grandkid to his/her parents.. IT TAKES A MAN TO DEAL WITH YOUR WOMAN N THINK AS A SINGLE MIND..MAN UP... Yours Sincerely a married brother... sHa_clap4 sHa_clap4 ()>> ()>> ()>>
Moon_Walker Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Bhayya, koddiga advice ista vinuko... Naaku 24 ki marriage aipoindi.. same community arranged marriages and our families are very like.. When me n my wife first met, it was all colorfull..a few weeks into the meeting, we saw a difference of opinions.. I am extremely fun loving, friends,gfs,cars bikes,drinks.. She was a typical bommarillu girl.."nanagaru chepparu andi".. Then started struggle... We were 2 different persons and different personalities.. I told my dad, I dont like the marriage... Worried about society,my father said u have to go thru this... Same thing with my wife..We finally got married in 2009 march.. Recession, job ledu..nenu 2nd MS and tanu 1st MS.. in same uni here....every month had to call father and FIL for money.. Ma fee kattaru.. Dear wife was never used to working.. Worst situation enti ante work cheyyadam ishtam kuda ledu.. Same time lo mana friends ,ex gfs inka touch lo unde.. me always chilled.. was still talkin to my ex-gf(only talking,nothin else) drinkin with friends etc etc...evru emi anna lite.. aath care.. She was in a different world.very serious about everything anyone says... She never stayed out.. So every day calling family and crying.. We fought everyday bcoz I was careless and she was extra cautious.. frustration.. Jobs enni apply chesina raledu..ado frustration..Every month parent and inlaws money teesukunte lopala picchi D*****di...but still This was our 1st 6months.. 7-8 month lo slowly things changed.. we went to Vegas and LA..drive.. we had fun..during that time while driving slowly she used to tell me to slow down,take things seriously,reduce drinkin..she actually took time and words to convince me.. Me also same way, told her we have to work here, we shud repay our parents money, we have to be independent .. Finally we came to a conclusion after 1yr.. we drew a line where enjoyment is and where being extreme is.. what working hard is and what working hardly is.. its 5+ yrs into the marriage now.. we are being blessed with a lil princess soon. Today I have a stable job,still chilled but not crazy, drink but dont get drunk,dont have touch with my ex-gf(atleast not in a way she know ;-))meet friends but be home by 11.. enta late aina i come home and sleep bside her.. talk to her, tease her...watched a movie every week till she was preggy,went for a trip every long weekend.. visit her cousins almost every week.. same way...she is in a decent job now, she is not so conservative like before.. she has come out of the bommarillu..takes time with me.. does all the house hold work, talks to my parents everyday... She doesnt like a few things, i dont like a few things...we work it out and do it in a way that either of us needs to know, or if they do know in such a way that it would not be a problem... Bringing parents into this is not goin to help u in anyway.. just complicates things.. for her parents she will always be right.. four yours you are right.. ego problems and complications... Man up and deal it.. Marriage is not so easy... Any guy can get married , ** his wife and give a grandkid to his/her parents.. IT TAKES A MAN TO DEAL WITH YOUR WOMAN N THINK AS A SINGLE MIND..MAN UP... Yours Sincerely a married brother... Very good post and solution. I have never seen anyone giving a positive solution for a worst situation (especially marriage) and how to come out of it. Great one dude and good that you have a happy ending. With so much liberal talk and negativity accumulation these days your story is truly inspiring to show how thing can be worked out.
dkchinnari Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 pelli kaaka mundhu edchav..ipdu ela edavatam baale uncle..nee theds nu
reddynaidu Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 pelli itae aevadina change avvalsindae..!! gaaliki tirigae vaadini..veediki pelli chaestae daariloki vasthadu ani enduku antaru anukunnav...!! ;-) Shud thank my dad for that... :4_12_13:
ipaddress0 Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Bhayya, koddiga advice ista vinuko... Naaku 24 ki marriage aipoindi.. same community arranged marriages and our families are very like.. When me n my wife first met, it was all colorfull..a few weeks into the meeting, we saw a difference of opinions.. I am extremely fun loving, friends,gfs,cars bikes,drinks.. She was a typical bommarillu girl.."nanagaru chepparu andi".. Then started struggle... We were 2 different persons and different personalities.. I told my dad, I dont like the marriage... Worried about society,my father said u have to go thru this... Same thing with my wife..We finally got married in 2009 march.. Recession, job ledu..nenu 2nd MS and tanu 1st MS.. in same uni here....every month had to call father and FIL for money.. Ma fee kattaru.. Dear wife was never used to working.. Worst situation enti ante work cheyyadam ishtam kuda ledu.. Same time lo mana friends ,ex gfs inka touch lo unde.. me always chilled.. was still talkin to my ex-gf(only talking,nothin else) drinkin with friends etc etc...evru emi anna lite.. aath care.. She was in a different world.very serious about everything anyone says... She never stayed out.. So every day calling family and crying.. We fought everyday bcoz I was careless and she was extra cautious.. frustration.. Jobs enni apply chesina raledu..ado frustration..Every month parent and inlaws money teesukunte lopala picchi D*****di...but still This was our 1st 6months.. 7-8 month lo slowly things changed.. we went to Vegas and LA..drive.. we had fun..during that time while driving slowly she used to tell me to slow down,take things seriously,reduce drinkin..she actually took time and words to convince me.. Me also same way, told her we have to work here, we shud repay our parents money, we have to be independent .. Finally we came to a conclusion after 1yr.. we drew a line where enjoyment is and where being extreme is.. what working hard is and what working hardly is.. its 5+ yrs into the marriage now.. we are being blessed with a lil princess soon. Today I have a stable job,still chilled but not crazy, drink but dont get drunk,dont have touch with my ex-gf(atleast not in a way she know ;-))meet friends but be home by 11.. enta late aina i come home and sleep bside her.. talk to her, tease her...watched a movie every week till she was preggy,went for a trip every long weekend.. visit her cousins almost every week.. same way...she is in a decent job now, she is not so conservative like before.. she has come out of the bommarillu..takes time with me.. does all the house hold work, talks to my parents everyday... She doesnt like a few things, i dont like a few things...we work it out and do it in a way that either of us needs to know, or if they do know in such a way that it would not be a problem... Bringing parents into this is not goin to help u in anyway.. just complicates things.. for her parents she will always be right.. four yours you are right.. ego problems and complications... Man up and deal it.. Marriage is not so easy... Any guy can get married , ** his wife and give a grandkid to his/her parents.. IT TAKES A MAN TO DEAL WITH YOUR WOMAN N THINK AS A SINGLE MIND..MAN UP... Yours Sincerely a married brother... i luv u mayya.... masth seppinav
ramafdb Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 gp Quote by someone: Relationships don't truly begin to take shape until a problem is encountered and resolved together.
reddynaidu Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Very good post and solution. I have never seen anyone giving a positive solution for a worst situation (especially marriage) and how to come out of it. Great one dude and good that you have a happy ending. With so much liberal talk and negativity accumulation these days your story is truly inspiring to show how thing can be worked out. Inka ending ledu bhayya... we just got started.. we do fight a lot today also...but that is where the understanding comes from..Race Gurram movie lo Bunny gadu cheptadu valla annayya gurunchi... memu kottukunide undi,ade maa lo prema... Same thing..U have to fight in a marriage.. trust me..atleast the 1st yr.. otherwise something is wrong...and u probably are heading for a divorce.. Fight for a better marriage, in the first year atleast
ipaddress0 Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Inka ending ledu bhayya... we just got started.. we do fight a lot today also...but that is where the understanding comes from..Race Gurram movie lo Bunny gadu cheptadu valla annayya gurunchi... memu kottukunide undi,ade maa lo prema... Same thing..U have not fight in amarriage.. trust me..atleast the 1st yr.. otherwise something is wrong...and u probably are heading for a divorce.. Fight for a better marriage, in the first year atleast ()>> ()>> ()>>
ramafdb Posted September 4, 2014 Report Posted September 4, 2014 Inka ending ledu bhayya... we just got started.. we do fight a lot today also...but that is where the understanding comes from..Race Gurram movie lo Bunny gadu cheptadu valla annayya gurunchi... memu kottukunide undi,ade maa lo prema... Same thing..U have not fight in amarriage.. trust me..atleast the 1st yr.. otherwise something is wrong...and u probably are heading for a divorce.. Fight for a better marriage, in the first year atleast
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