Help--With Personal Problem

[chicchara]

just a middle class family maadhi. 

could have been in rich to upper middle class section if all went ok

both parents are well educated and well positioned in good offices.

my dad is the reason for who i am today,

which is being US, getting good education,freedom of choice etc etc.

my mother contribute to my growth equally..she believed in "playin sports is as equally important as studying"

 

I am just another guy..who was less troublesome, 10th Inter Engg annitlo good marks and came to US to pursue masters.

naaku oka anna...he was a little troublesome but he is now ok and settled too.

 

But an uncommon thing is..my parents always used to fight since my childhood. my mom dissapproves of my dads opinion and so does my dad.

my dad is enthusiastic in life and risks money to an extent and he doesnt learn from his mistakes.

while my mom always says we are better of being financially secure than takin risks wit money.

so ilanti situations valla we lost a lot of money and peace within family. but eppdu kuda maa education or karchulaki ey problem ranivvaledhu

 

My dad he is socially active..chala contacts..and roams all day..so he has a big circle and tries to be extravagant....which my mom thinks this is a waste of money

while mother contained herself...and she has her own relatives and limits her talk and actions.

 

monna annaya pelli aindhi..

my dad says..he wants to bring in the cook and make all food on the marriage hall spot and serve it...

my mom says why risk it...and headache we will give catering.

argument went on...and dad decided thts it..he will bring in the cook.

then on the day of marriage he fought wit the cook about the quantity and content..then the marriage event ended without peace..

 

my mom she is used to this non sense all thru her life from dad, she took it easy as usual and left the thing.

so things like these always happen. My dad tries to do somethin it fails..and he fails to understand at sometimes tht he should rethink his thinking and ends up wasting money.

 

coming to my part..

nen single and jolly ga life enjoy chestuna ikkada america lo. typical IT job ..living average and sending money home.

when i send money to moms account..my dad says..send it to my account..dont send it to her.

my mom thinks if the money goes to dads account..he will spend it all and waste it for no reason..

malli godava...deeniki

mothaaniki i continued to send it to my dads account...and he spends it all witout any purpose.

 

recent ga out of a property transaction konni dabbul vachay..and my dad wanted to build a house. And i promised I will send the money for it.

I send the money every month. my dad instead of spending money on house spends for other purposes..

other purposes antey...evoo intki vasthuvulu konadam or groceries or travelling expenses itlaney...anthey kaani...he doesnt have any habits at all. he didnt drink at all till date. and he will not in future too. just show off ekuva..so daantloney paisal anni karchu pedtharu.

 

I dont question him at all about the money. instead i sometimes send him more money to his personal other account for his expenses.(which my mom doesnt know).

 

last month i had to pay taxes and had some other expenses. so my mom told not to send money this month. 

I waited for 15 days and did send the money ...since my dad kindoff mentioned about money for this month in our phone conversation

my mom asked dad to giv her some money for her expense...then my dad misunderstood tht...i am only going my moms word and not listening to him.

he called up and asked me ..you listening to your mom only and you disregard me...

I said no its not like tht..i didnt hav money..and I sent them late...15days only.

then he argued on it..I said meeku ardham kakapotey nen em cheyalenu..

he got pissed off..and said i dont want your money..dont send.

 

inko vishayam kuda undhi.

naku pelli matches chusthunaru...oka sambandham vachindi..i kindoff liked the girl and I was in my limits while talkin to tht girl.

my dad and his friend(who got the match) were happy abt the sambandham and told me to talk more to girl and set chedham pelli adhi idhi ani..

so i tlked to the girl a bit more and i liked her more..and it went on.

my dad and mom one day went to their parent house to settle the marriage...

then my dad asked katnam..the girls father said no katnam.. 

my dad got pissed off and made a scene in their house... and now i dont know waht to do ..he is against this marriage in all terms..since he doesnt like the girls dads attitude...

we cancelled this alliance and tried for others. I felt very bad that this happened. I felt very bad on my part to not go against this.

so verey sambandhalu chusinavanni flop ainaai..utter flop. 

inka give up mode lo unappdu..ee paatha ammayi ki inka pelli kaaley ani telisi..i talked to her again.

my dad was kindoff ok (not fully ok). since he was kindoff ok..i was happy again to talk to her ...and set the marriage.

ipdu malli inkedhoo sambandham vachindi ani..he wants me to leave this sambandham again..

 

I dont know what to do .. NOW

probably itlanti typical father undi untaaru andharki.

meeru chesey comedy meeru cheyandi..but mee suggestion kuda padeyandi.

 

I want to marry the girl...should i go against my dad? he is totally against this

Am I dishonoring him ?

I am what I am because of him...

 

 dabbul deggara kuda...i am sending  the money i have...and he is ok and not ok wit it..

inko sambandham cheskuntey katnam vastundi and anni financial problems pothaye annatu he is thinkin..

but to be honest em financial problems levu...

aa unna oka intiki nen paisal kadtha ani chepaa..

but my dad is not understandin me at all

 

so am i not understandin him ? is he not understanding me?

thanks for your replies.

[compose]

#nodaddyslisten :)

[Hyderabad_Nawab]

I Think for ur Dad - Money/Social Status comes first and Rest all Next Including Family...

 

Take ur Mom/Relatives Support.. Fight wid ur Dad and Marry da Gal u wish for.... #NODADCARE

[always_happy116]

what you did is correct but arrange marriage against parents work avvadu emo anukunta.. valla parents pakka issue raise chestharu mee dad ki ishtam ledu kada ani....

 

 

[Hyderabad_Nawab]

#nodaddyslisten :)

Malla Pelli evaru sestaar..

[Rebel890]

Listen to ur dad.

[Balibabu]

:(

[micxas]

#nodaddyslisten :)

:O

[Balibabu]

#nodaddyslisten

[puli_keka]

kharchulu kuda nuvve pettukoni pelli cheskundamani nee plan aa.. go ahead man.. I am always with you, adarshanga niluvu in 21st century

[puli_keka]

listen to no one's daddy 

[compose]

Malla Pelli evaru sestaar..

 

:o

ante intlo dairyam ga cheppi pelli chesuko ani na ardam :(

[micxas]

Grand father, mavayya, attayalu vunnara, vallatho cheppinchu..convince ur father.

[Hyderabad_Nawab]

ante intlo dairyam ga cheppi pelli chesuko ani na ardam :(

Appudu Dad Listen but No Dad Care anaali.. No Listen ante - Ego Hurt avtadhi akkada..

[micxas]

Keep money matters aside, avoid financial stuff as much as possible.