cyber_gypsy Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 Hi, A little background - Out of Hyderabad from past 16 years. No permanent settlement. I am kind of in cross roads. Hubby is making trips to Hyd for his business. I am fed up of mechanical life and want to settle down in Hyd. My kids are relatively young , in elementary school. Planning to settle close to international schools. My parents and extended family lives in Older Hyd. I am not looking to work , maybe will start something later. I have another 1.5- 2 years to think and work on this. Have anyone recently gone back and would like to know their opinion ! Not Time Pass, Please indulge in friendly discussion only. Quote
ranku_mogudu Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 6 minutes ago, papampasivadu said: You don't want to work yet you have certain expectations on lifestyle for you and kids..like international school etc... where does the income come from?? Husband big business man Quote
Bitcoin_Baba Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 2 minutes ago, Rushabhi said: Go to r2i forum forums meedha maanchi pattu undhi neeku Quote
Bitcoin_Baba Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 31 minutes ago, cyber_gypsy said: Hi, A little background - Out of Hyderabad from past 16 years. No permanent settlement. I am kind of in cross roads. Hubby is making trips to Hyd for his business. I am fed up of mechanical life and want to settle down in Hyd. My kids are relatively young , in elementary school. Planning to settle close to international schools. My parents and extended family lives in Older Hyd. I am not looking to work , maybe will start something later. I have another 1.5- 2 years to think and work on this. Have anyone recently gone back and would like to know their opinion ! Not Time Pass, Please indulge in friendly discussion only. Ippudu working aa kaada? Hyd vellipoyee endhuku work cheyyoddu anukuntunnav. Hyd for good endhuku move avvali anukuntunnaru? Business related decision aa leka in-laws ni chooskodanika? Assalu mee aayana business enti? Ila jyothilakshmi choopinchi choopinchakunda kanipinchi kaninpinchakunda threads esthe Quote
cyber_gypsy Posted March 26, 2018 Author Report Posted March 26, 2018 Husband is into real estate business. I am working from past 16 years. No visa issues, I am a Canadian citizen. No in-laws. My parents and extended family in hyd. Partly business related decision. Husband had business here , but sold it and concentrating in Hyd. Worried for kids. Quote
Android_Halwa Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 4 minutes ago, cyber_gypsy said: Husband is into real estate business. I am working from past 16 years. No visa issues, I am a Canadian citizen. No in-laws. My parents and extended family in hyd. Partly business related decision. Husband had business here , but sold it and concentrating in Hyd. Worried for kids. Chill...what is your worry about the kids ? They are born American Kids/Canadian Kids...they can come back here anytime they want.. I understand your concerns but things have changed a lot back home and standards improved a lot. Of course, there will be culture difference for the kids but they must be at age where they can learn and adapt quickly... 1 Quote
Bitcoin_Baba Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 3 minutes ago, cyber_gypsy said: Husband is into real estate business. I am working from past 16 years. No visa issues, I am a Canadian citizen. No in-laws. My parents and extended family in hyd. Partly business related decision. Husband had business here , but sold it and concentrating in Hyd. Worried for kids. Worried for what? Ikkada akkada positives and negatives unnai. Ikkada ABCD teenage kids ni choosthe they are not emotional as we used to be, relations value anthaga teliyavu, materialistic avutharu. But quality of life, individuality, education bavuntadhi. Where as in India mee in-laws and other relatives tho undadam valla emotions ardham avuthai, they got more attached to family bonding, education paranga kooda not bad (but they get stressed out with marks system and all). Mee kids and mee family situation ikkada unnavallaki 1% kooda idea undadhu, so evari salaha work avvadhu. Meeru and mee husband koorchuni matladukondi what are the advantages and disadvantages of moving ani, 2 years time is morethan enough to make a decision. Good luck Quote
Android_Halwa Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 And don't think too much about the kids and their future, Kids 10 years down the road will be more on their own than to depend on parents. They are not like what we were or kids these days who are in high school... once they turn 16-18, they won't be with you or show great interest with family, there is a world out there waiting for these empowered kids.. why do you want to waste all your time and energy for the kids who are gonna move away once they stand on their feet ? Please don't quote age old traditional family reasons..you have been in western world for 16 years and you know it much better than most of the people here... Plan to provide good education for kids and make them street smart...thats it, do not think more than that.. Quote
Bitcoin_Baba Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 1 minute ago, Android_Halwa said: And don't think too much about the kids and their future, Kids 10 years down the road will be more on their own than to depend on parents. They are not like what we were or kids these days who are in high school... once they turn 16-18, they won't be with you or show great interest with family, there is a world out there waiting for these empowered kids.. why do you want to waste all your time and energy for the kids who are gonna move away once they stand on their feet ? Please don't quote age old traditional family reasons..you have been in western world for 16 years and you know it much better than most of the people here... Plan to provide good education for kids and make them street smart...thats it, do not think more than that.. Strongly agree on this part. Most of the Indian parents want to save assets for their children which is not bad, but repu poddhunna vaadiki vaatini kaapade telivi lekapothe avi in no time boodidha avvuddi. They should have concern about giving them good education making him/her smart enough to survive Quote
cyber_gypsy Posted March 26, 2018 Author Report Posted March 26, 2018 I have 2 girls, more than education, I am teaching them survival. Moving back is not for them, its for me and my husband. Nenu fed up ayya ee life tho. Too mechanical. Health issues koncham, nothing serious though. My parents are not dependent on me. They have their own routine which is quite busy. Its mutual support. I want to spend more time with kids investing in their education and supporting them. Maybe I will start something for myself later. My opinion, india lo ayna, us\ca lo ayna antha plastic. It will same setup no doubt. Pillalu entha ikkada puttina mana skin color podu. Manam eppatiki ayna second class citizens ikkada. Quote
cyber_gypsy Posted March 26, 2018 Author Report Posted March 26, 2018 Husband kosame idi. He is not happy here. He is here for me and kids. He is okay. We have checked the school fees, its okay we can afford. Naaku ca govt nunchi kids ki benefits vastayi, depending on family income. For 2 kids, I can get easily 500 per month. I am not counting it, but this will help too. Quote
Android_Halwa Posted March 26, 2018 Report Posted March 26, 2018 2 minutes ago, cyber_gypsy said: I have 2 girls, more than education, I am teaching them survival. Moving back is not for them, its for me and my husband. Nenu fed up ayya ee life tho. Too mechanical. Health issues koncham, nothing serious though. My parents are not dependent on me. They have their own routine which is quite busy. Its mutual support. I want to spend more time with kids investing in their education and supporting them. Maybe I will start something for myself later. My opinion, india lo ayna, us\ca lo ayna antha plastic. It will same setup no doubt. Pillalu entha ikkada puttina mana skin color podu. Manam eppatiki ayna second class citizens ikkada. Igo Akka...correct ga alochistunnav...nee alochana venuka 16 years experience of living in western world kanipistundi... This is not the America which used to be...Its tough here. Its not as easy as it used to be anymore. More than education, kids need to be taught how to survive, street smart thinking ability and thats the need of the hour.. nuv kuda pani chesi chesi alasipoi vuntav ida...for a change, go back to India..bindaas ga vuntadi...forget about kids for a while... you have new set of people around you...jara kothadanam vuntadi..mee parents nundi kuda mutual support vastadi...bachpan dosthulu kalustaru...restrictionless life...the real meaning of being in a free world...experince cheseyu akka...time deggarapadtundi.,.malla pillal jara peddaga aithe pendlillu cheyale katha karvanam vuntadi...ie time.. good luck.. Quote
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