very tension situation, please advise

[JANASENA]

49 minutes ago, psycopk said:

police case not a good idea.. tege daga lagakodadu...

emundi bro women sanghalu ki inform chesi vedu roju maa ammayini koduthunnadu antey chaalu inka valle choosukuntaru. This is happening to my friend right now but the other way around. 

[Amrita]

Just now, JANASENA said:

emundi bro women sanghalu ki inform chesi vedu roju maa ammayini koduthunnadu antey chaalu inka valle choosukuntaru. This is happening to my friend right now but the other way around. 

Paruvulu pova? Who does it that way man ? 

[kevinUsa]

Just now, Amrita said:

Paruvulu pova? Who does it that way man ? 

appreciate you @Amrita

[Simple123]

There could be two reasons for your brother-in-law behavior :

1) Your sister is not working and he is the sole bread maker for the family: 

    May be money saripotale emo , okkade earn chestunadu ante job lo edianna stress vunte , that reflects on his relations.

2) As you said he doesn't have parents , so he might be less emotional . 2nd kid taruvata etla vunnadu ante , he doesn't want to take big family responsbility .

 

Solution could work :  Your sister working , your parents taking care of kids after school.  I think this should work. 

Don't drag the issue to court or mahila sangalau .  mee bava picha lite tesukuntadu .  annitiki teginchi vunnadu

        

 

[ranku_mogudu]

if this is a genuine case, please ping me and also plan a trip to India asap. will let you know and introduce to people who can make him suffer

[IsmileBhai]

2 hours ago, AFDB__REBEL said:

bhayas.

naku oka sister undhi, she is married for last 6 years.

oka 3 years bane unde marriage. daughter was born

Things were going well, but after second daughter was born, things change.

Sis husband torture start chesadu. Intlo money ivvadam ledhu. Pillal toh sambhandam ledhu naku antunadu

Office ki veldam early morning, night late ga ravadam. kavalani function ki out of city veldam alone.

Kavalani ma parents ki call chesi teskoni velandi me daughter ki nenu kapuram cheyanu. 

Naku vere ammyin toh relation undhi ani chepadu sis ki. Em cheskuntav chesko po, nenu ilane unta. 

Akkada ma parents papam daily tension lo unaru. Nen kuda lenu akkada. They are alone. relatives unnaru kaani vallu em chestar.

At this age parents  kuda ee torture to chala frustrate unaru. Mother ki high BP, hospital lo kuda admit chasaru.

Nenu ikad nunchi em cheyileka pothunav. 

Please suggest how to deal this situation, chala helpless ka feel avuthuna. 

Vadu emo akkada nakhral chestunadu. 

Panchayati erpatu cheyandi.

 

Sit down with him and discuss. Get details answers from him.

Is it because of the 2nd girl child he is behaving like this ? ( Lot of ppl still think girl childs are a burden ). Is it because he is going thru any mental problems ? Ask him what changed exactly .

From his answers maybe you guys can give him assurance on things like financial stability/responsibility etc. I understand how hard it is for parents and you during this phase. The only way to resolve this is thru conversations in person. No emails/phonecalls or anything. Arrange a small get together to discuss things or maybe go out for a bar with him and try to listen to his side of the story.

 

Good luck to your family and sister. I hope things will settle down soon

[IsmileBhai]

5 minutes ago, ranku_mogudu said:

if this is a genuine case, please ping me and also plan a trip to India asap. will let you know and introduce to people who can make him suffer

Need help in USA for a situation like this

[ranku_mogudu]

1 minute ago, IsmileBhai said:

Need help in USA for a situation like this

USA aithey em feekalev.. India aithey laws are in favor of girl

[SonaParv_522]

37 minutes ago, MeetFriendz said:

atu side nuchi ante aa ammayeni kidnap chesdam antava bro .. hahahahahha

 

37 minutes ago, MagaMaharaju said:

Can approach her family

 

[raithu_bidda1]

6 minutes ago, IsmileBhai said:

Need help in USA for a situation like this

vuu post story

[soodhilodaaram]

2 hours ago, AFDB__REBEL said:

bhayas.

naku oka sister undhi, she is married for last 6 years.

oka 3 years bane unde marriage. daughter was born

Things were going well, but after second daughter was born, things change.

Sis husband torture start chesadu. Intlo money ivvadam ledhu. Pillal toh sambhandam ledhu naku antunadu

Office ki veldam early morning, night late ga ravadam. kavalani function ki out of city veldam alone.

Kavalani ma parents ki call chesi teskoni velandi me daughter ki nenu kapuram cheyanu. 

Naku vere ammyin toh relation undhi ani chepadu sis ki. Em cheskuntav chesko po, nenu ilane unta. 

Akkada ma parents papam daily tension lo unaru. Nen kuda lenu akkada. They are alone. relatives unnaru kaani vallu em chestar.

At this age parents  kuda ee torture to chala frustrate unaru. Mother ki high BP, hospital lo kuda admit chasaru.

Nenu ikad nunchi em cheyileka pothunav. 

Please suggest how to deal this situation, chala helpless ka feel avuthuna. 

Vadu emo akkada nakhral chestunadu. 

the best thing you sister can do now is to move out of that home to your parents home

there is no point is correcting him at this time

there will be 2 outcomes

1. Wait until your BIL reforms himself (option to be used if your sister cannot imagine getting out of this marriage) - this may take some time and money,

the other lady mission ento telusuko..is that to suck out money or to marry him ??

setup a investigative agency to do some investigation on their activities, you can get those service right from here, talk to someone locally to get those details, they are many such agencies now in Hyd

2. depending on how long this ranku has been happening, prepare your sister to move out and also think about divorce keeping kids in mind, the other lady suck out finance before its too late

 

either way, note that homebreakers (the other lady) will be very successful in achieving their objectives in short time if doing just for money, either they should be made very scared or bought off by a lump sum amount, your investigative agency will also come with background information on her that should give you a direction

keep this entire thing secretive for now until you have clear information,  your parents are little disturbed and may nto think clearly, dont reveal anything to them yet until you have concrete plan

someone needs a cool head to see things in entirety instead of being emotional

if things are going to go a certain way, they will most likely go that way, you can only try to correct it

[soodhilodaaram]

21 minutes ago, Simple123 said:

There could be two reasons for your brother-in-law behavior :

1) Your sister is not working and he is the sole bread maker for the family: 

    May be money saripotale emo , okkade earn chestunadu ante job lo edianna stress vunte , that reflects on his relations.

2) As you said he doesn't have parents , so he might be less emotional . 2nd kid taruvata etla vunnadu ante , he doesn't want to take big family responsbility .

 

Solution could work :  Your sister working , your parents taking care of kids after school.  I think this should work. 

Don't drag the issue to court or mahila sangalau .  mee bava picha lite tesukuntadu .  annitiki teginchi vunnadu

        

 

kaamaturanaam naa bhayaha naa lajjaha...ee situation lo ayanki kavalasindi ame deggara dorukutundi..adi teeredaako leka aayana degagra unna money ayyae daaka aa manta challaradu

above sentences are subjective of situation not meant for any sarcasm

[soodhilodaaram]

17 minutes ago, IsmileBhai said:

Need help in USA for a situation like this

document details and go for divorce, i guess the divorce laws are treated differently if one of the partner conducts infidelity

[AFDB__REBEL]

13 minutes ago, soodhilodaaram said:

the best thing you sister can do now is to move out of that home to your parents home

there is no point is correcting him at this time

there will be 2 outcomes

1. Wait until your BIL reforms himself (option to be used if your sister cannot imagine getting out of this marriage) - this may take some time and money,

the other lady mission ento telusuko..is that to suck out money or to marry him ??

setup a investigative agency to do some investigation on their activities, you can get those service right from here, talk to someone locally to get those details, they are many such agencies now in Hyd

2. depending on how long this ranku has been happening, prepare your sister to move out and also think about divorce keeping kids in mind, the other lady suck out finance before its too late

 

either way, note that homebreakers (the other lady) will be very successful in achieving their objectives in short time if doing just for money, either they should be made very scared or bought off by a lump sum amount, your investigative agency will also come with background information on her that should give you a direction

keep this entire thing secretive for now until you have clear information,  your parents are little disturbed and may nto think clearly, dont reveal anything to them yet until you have concrete plan

someone needs a cool head to see things in entirety instead of being emotional

if things are going to go a certain way, they will most likely go that way, you can only try to correct it

investigatin agencies amianya telisiina vallu unte cheppu bro

[Simple123]

10 minutes ago, soodhilodaaram said:

kaamaturanaam naa bhayaha naa lajjaha...ee situation lo ayanki kavalasindi ame deggara dorukutundi..adi teeredaako leka aayana degagra unna money ayyae daaka aa manta challaradu

above sentences are subjective of situation not meant for any sarcasm

agree to your point.  no offense to TS sister.  tanu 2 kids tho busy ga vundi , sarigga maintain cheyyakapothe , athaniki right time lo oka pori doriki , etla chestunadu emo.