very tension situation, please advise

[futureofandhra]

1 hour ago, sri_sri999 said:

Na opinion lo me bava ki boy kavali eddaru aada pellalu puttepatiki manodu baga feel ayyademoo or pellaletoo sambandam ledu antunadu antee tanaku puttaledu anu feeling emoo (just my opinion don't feel bad) first de ayete family planning cheyinchakunda next try chesukomanu rendavadi ayete DNA test chepinchukomanadee

Eerojullo Ada maga enti bhayya 

Silly

[psycopk]

1 hour ago, sri_sri999 said:

Na opinion lo me bava ki boy kavali eddaru aada pellalu puttepatiki manodu baga feel ayyademoo or pellaletoo sambandam ledu antunadu antee tanaku puttaledu anu feeling emoo (just my opinion don't feel bad) first de ayete family planning cheyinchakunda next try chesukomanu rendavadi ayete DNA test chepinchukomanadee

Yea naku anipinchindi...  but DNA testlu lantivi solution kadu... marriage runs on trust.. anta varaku vaste its better to stay away from him for some period.. vadu elagu inko danitho ekuva rojulu undedi ledu petedi ledu.. malli kalla beraniki vastadu...

[vendettaa]

5 hours ago, Amrita said:

Paruvulu pova? Who does it that way man ? 

Exactly media and this women association  ni approach karu because of paruvu

[vendettaa]

Intaki mee bava family em velagapedtundi?

[raithu_bidda1]

3 minutes ago, vendettaa said:

Intaki mee bava family em velagapedtundi?

Welcome dkc aka @Samajavaragamana 

you deserve to be in this 

[raithu_bidda1]

My only suggestion is divorce 

[ranam_007]

Police case veste you cannot do anything from outside. Think before you register a case. Try to fix it from outside if you can't fix it, Then choose police case as last option.

[Quickgun_murugan]

10 hours ago, futureofandhra said:

Why did he started relationship with another women??

If this is the case am sad 

Why did he marry her

 Male chauvinist emo..2 daughters puttarani alaa behave chestunnademo..

Pity still people are gender biased.    Fckking Indian cheap society mentality 

 

[Quickgun_murugan]

10 hours ago, erragulabi said:

This is the story of every household in India where they have no boys in their family. People still think boys are great and daughters are waste. We might end up in the same scenario if we have two daughters. It's the ppl around you who influence our ideas. Even when we try to be normal, ppl around keep bugging you around and make u feel that you did something wrong by having two daughters. Shower money on ur brother in law, deposit money on kids names.  That's all I can say.

Chala correct cheppav bro... people are so fckuing stupid... son pudithey edo peeki podishinattu kathal 10guthar chala.mandi...

Boy or girl who cares these days...

[Baangaru]

10 hours ago, TrumpCare said:

ask her to cut his penis while he is sleeping..all problems solved 

penis cut chesthe chastadu ra

[Baangaru]

10 hours ago, AFDB__REBEL said:

bhayas.

naku oka sister undhi, she is married for last 6 years.

oka 3 years bane unde marriage. daughter was born

Things were going well, but after second daughter was born, things change.

Sis husband torture start chesadu. Intlo money ivvadam ledhu. Pillal toh sambhandam ledhu naku antunadu

Office ki veldam early morning, night late ga ravadam. kavalani function ki out of city veldam alone.

Kavalani ma parents ki call chesi teskoni velandi me daughter ki nenu kapuram cheyanu. 

Naku vere ammyin toh relation undhi ani chepadu sis ki. Em cheskuntav chesko po, nenu ilane unta. 

Akkada ma parents papam daily tension lo unaru. Nen kuda lenu akkada. They are alone. relatives unnaru kaani vallu em chestar.

At this age parents  kuda ee torture to chala frustrate unaru. Mother ki high BP, hospital lo kuda admit chasaru.

Nenu ikad nunchi em cheyileka pothunav. 

Please suggest how to deal this situation, chala helpless ka feel avuthuna. 

Vadu emo akkada nakhral chestunadu. 

Divorce tesukomanu bhayya. Kids ki maintenamce ivvamanu monnthly.It has become common in India

[subbayya]

11 hours ago, AFDB__REBEL said:

bhayas.

naku oka sister undhi, she is married for last 6 years.

oka 3 years bane unde marriage. daughter was born

Things were going well, but after second daughter was born, things change.

Sis husband torture start chesadu. Intlo money ivvadam ledhu. Pillal toh sambhandam ledhu naku antunadu

Office ki veldam early morning, night late ga ravadam. kavalani function ki out of city veldam alone.

Kavalani ma parents ki call chesi teskoni velandi me daughter ki nenu kapuram cheyanu. 

Naku vere ammyin toh relation undhi ani chepadu sis ki. Em cheskuntav chesko po, nenu ilane unta. 

Akkada ma parents papam daily tension lo unaru. Nen kuda lenu akkada. They are alone. relatives unnaru kaani vallu em chestar.

At this age parents  kuda ee torture to chala frustrate unaru. Mother ki high BP, hospital lo kuda admit chasaru.

Nenu ikad nunchi em cheyileka pothunav. 

Please suggest how to deal this situation, chala helpless ka feel avuthuna. 

Vadu emo akkada nakhral chestunadu. 

Saamam, Daanam, Bedham, and finally Dandopayaam (try your best not to break the relation between Akka and Bava....).

Saamarasyam ga cheppi chudu like how your families are suffering and what the mental stress you guys are going through... baga sentiment tho cheppi chudandi....

If no change....

Daanam: Try to mingle with him and offer some financial help if he is going through some financial hardship.... or mee baava valla vaipu emanna expensive gifts etc offer cheyyandi

If no change...

Bedham: Like nee valla ma family antha naasanam ayyindi enduku nuvvu ila chsthunnav.. ma families lo evvaru ila cheyya ledu etc.. neeku em takkuva chesam... etc etc.. final ga affair vunte vundi but family in ibbandi petti ignore cheyyodu ani cheppi chudu

Above is the last resort before you make things dirty in the next stage...

Dandopaayam Stage: Try to find out the persons who your Bava respects and scared of most and try to do mediation with them.... if you guys know his affair hire a person to spy on them and get some photos and videos.. and start blackmailing him saying mee family antha racha chestham moham ekkada pettukoleru.... etc etc... kudirithe oka 5 days mee bavani kidnap chesi **** pagala thanninchu until he mentally stressed out (Do this only after you have proper proofs that he has continued affair and ignoring the family)

[Akkumm_Bakkumm]

13 hours ago, Biskot said:

ask your sister first........ what she what to do....  oka vela divorce annadhi anuko............ happy ga divorce tiskondi.... akkuva tension padalsina avasaram ledhu.. law always favours women.  tensionnahileneka

Yeah I too agree with this. Force chesi oka jantani kalipi unchaleru. Divorce tiskuni alimony kinda motham assets rapicheskovali

@AFDB__REBEL although he is your bava alanti lavarse gallaki ade best punishment. But  for the trauma you and your family is facing bro..

[Akkumm_Bakkumm]

13 hours ago, AFDB__REBEL said:

divorce anukunnam kaani ....vadiki buddhi chepali ...

so thinking wt cases can we file

Mental torture and abuse ani cheppi 498A pettandi. Edi em fake case kadu kabatti bendu teestaru. Leda aa ammai evaro pattukuni valla intlo vallatho matladandi dani bagotham antha. 

[kaburlu]

firstly  that you and your family needs to go through this. husband wife madhya vishayalu its difficult to know the truth even for close family members. The real reason may be something else. Even if your blw wants to have relationship, its surprising to me that the relationship started so suddenly and it matured to an extent in such a short time that blw wants divorce. Usually i expect this to take a long time 3-5years,  if the relationship is the truth and cause for your blw behavior.

Also in these times, i am not sure how much you can be of help by visiting india, unless you need to provide support like visting other family members or taking care of your family members who are sick. so i am not sure of you visiting india for 2-3 mo is of any major help, and usually these take time to heal, and sometime these problems go aways themselves.. with enough time... 

Ask your sister if she can handle this totally herself, if so thats the best. if no, please wait for sometime to see if it improves, until then support your sisters family. if situation does not change, which is unlikely even after 1-2 years, let your sister talk to any one related to your blw family members, and if that still does not help.

Also one suggestion i can offer is : ask your sister to try to make her husband visit house frequently alteast couple of times a week and make him connected to his kids. If your blw is not connected to kids, i would suspect red herring and something very bad.. so in that case i am not sure of the value of him as husband..