Be careful!!! Divorce settlements

[SnehamKosam]

4 minutes ago, riashli said:

Aa okka reason tho wife ni vadilestara? In that case fertility checks should be mandatory before getting married.. if just having kid is the whole purpose of marriage..

Papam ayana manishiga putti cheddamanukunna only productive work reproduction, if you deny him that badhaga undadha.. rakhtam maragadha...

[kevinUsa]

Just now, DrBeta said:

If she wants to, she should have an option. She should also be able to make more than her husband, be more successful than her husband if she wants to, just like we can do whatever we want to do.   

there are no if's or but's in making babies

get married 

have 2 babies in 5 years  show the world that u  are man

[riashli]

25 minutes ago, ammu_paalu said:

Asalu affection eh untey ivanni endhuku

Hmm

[kevinUsa]

2 minutes ago, Peddayana said:

Kevin bro , just saying , babies may be cute but they are noisy , pooping , peeing machines , life lo oka 3-4 years marchipo for each baby , after 4 oka 50% of time marchipo for kids 

but , they are wonderful too

emo bhayya naku  anta exp ledu me laga 

[kevinUsa]

"He had very different expectations of a wife"
Marriage lasted:1 month
Neha Jayant*, 29, met Brijesh Ahluwalia*, 29, through common friends in London six months ago. They were both investment bankers looking for a long-term commitment. “Right away, we entered into a relationship with marriage as the goal,” she says. A month in, in August, the couple returned to Delhi for their wedding. They then relocated to Toronto in Canada, where Brijesh’s parents live. One month later, Jayant packed her bags and returned to Delhi. “Brijesh had a very jealous streak,” she says. “It began spinning out of control. When I went to job interviews, he would criticise the length of my formal skirt and ask me lewd questions about what I was actually applying for. After a party hosted by his parents, he screamed at me for 45 minutes because I had spent 10 minutes talking to another man.” Jayant says she was in shock, and afraid that the verbal abuse would escalate into physical violence. “He was a completely different person after we got married. He had all these expectations of a ‘wife’ which he never had for a ‘girlfriend’,” she says.
The couple’s divorce is now in the process of being finalised.

[Staysafebro]

7 minutes ago, riashli said:

Aa okka reason tho wife ni vadilestara? In that case fertility checks should be mandatory before getting married.. if just having kid is the whole purpose of marriage..

Meekentandi ennayina chebutharu. Lenollake kada pressure and lotu.

[kevinUsa]

"I suspect he was gay"
Marriage lasted: 3 months
Kaushani Mittal*, 26, met her ex-husband through a matrimonial website. Rajat* was 27, an architect based in Seattle. He came to Mumbai to meet her three weeks in. A month later, she flew to Seattle to marry him. “When we didn’t kiss even two months after our wedding, I began to wonder what was going on,” she says. Rajat told her he had intimacy issues and would need time. Meanwhile, his mother, who lived with them, began to pry and read their messages. “He had warned me that she was possessive. But he did nothing to help,” says Mittal. Three months in, Mittal returned to Mumbai and began divorce proceedings. “Though he still denies it, he is clearly gay,” she says. “It really took a toll on my self-esteem. It has made me develop trust issues, for which I’ve been in therapy.”

[DrBeta]

4 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

Advertising executive Tejas Chakrabarty, 28, remembers this room vividly. "I first went there three months after my wedding," he says. "My wife, whom I had met through a matrimonial website, was continuing a preexisting affair with a married man. The counsellor tried very hard to convince us to give it another shot. But she was still in love with that man, and I was too betrayed to even think about it. We just sat there in silence for 45 minutes. Then we left and started the paperwork."

That was nine months ago.

Chakrabarty knew his wife for four months before they got married. "She was a really great girl, and I was getting all this pressure to marry, so I thought, why not," he says.

In retrospect, Chakrabarty says there were warning signs. "She was always a little secretive, and would never leave her phone unattended," he remembers. "She also had mood swings, was depressed sometimes, then over-compensated by lavishing attention on me." Chakrabarty and his wife are among thousands of couples in India seeking to end their marriages in the first few months or years, ending up divorced before the age of 30.

Four months is too short a time to decide to marry someone. 

[kevinUsa]

He expected me to cook"
Marriage lasted: 18 months
They married after a whirlwind romance that lasted six months, only to develop a host of problems within the next year and a half. They now say the situation could have been different if they had allowed for a lengthier courtship. “We were both fresh out of failed relationships and in a hurry to get married. It was a thoughtless decision,” says Mahua*, 35, an IT executive. The couple differed in tastes and values. “He would expect me to get home from work and cook for him while he watched television. I was revolted at the idea of me toiling while he put his feet up,” she says. Also, she earned well and ended up paying for most of their common expenses. Mahua feels the couple might have stood a chance if they could have moved out of his parents’ home, but this suggestion caused a large uproar and she was accused of trying to break up the family. “That the husband and wife should love each other is a necessary but not sufficient condition. It is also important that the tastes and values match,” she says. In 2009, the couple got a divorce. They are now both happily remarried.
“This time, I have found someone who is what he says he is,” says Mahua. “I’ve learnt the hard way that you can’t change yourself, or someone else.”

[DrBeta]

3 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

there are no if's or but's in making babies

get married 

have 2 babies in 5 years  show the world that u  are man

Fake masculinity.

4 hours ago, DrBeta said:

Fake masculinity, I would say. Masculinity doesn't come from having a child, it comes from defending your wife when she cannot bear children. It doesn't come from harrasing your wife for not being able to bear children, it comes from supporting your wife during hard times. We have a very screwed up definition of masculinity. Men who support their women are more masculine than men who are able to impregnate their women. 

 

[Peddayana]

1 minute ago, kevinUsa said:

emo bhayya naku  anta exp ledu me laga 

vastundi le tondaralo

[kevinUsa]

1 minute ago, DrBeta said:

Four months is too short a time to decide to marry someone. 

ante pelliki mundu 

paina kinda pani chesukomantava

its against brahmacharyam kada vayya

[kevinUsa]

1 minute ago, DrBeta said:

Fake masculinity. 

 

nee  that  is what we were told abot masculinity 

 

[kevinUsa]

1 minute ago, Peddayana said:

vastundi le tondaralo

chuddam le bro 

[DrBeta]

1 minute ago, kevinUsa said:

ante pelliki mundu 

paina kinda pani chesukomantava

its against brahmacharyam kada vayya

You don't need to have sex man. You need to know someone, you should know how they are during their worst, during their best. They should know how you're during your best and worst.