Mid 30’s Crisis

[Scada]

1 hour ago, Meow said:

I am going through a late 20s crisis. I think I am suffering from depression and dimensia, have too many things on my plate. I am loosing all my eggs and I still don't know if I want any kids, 'coz it's too much of a responsibility and I will have to take a break from my career. And you're worried about enjoying life, the heck? 

Same boat 🚣‍♀️ ... lot of things at the same time

[Meow]

2 hours ago, curious_george said:

Again....it all depends on what you want in your life.....if you want kids without sacrificing your carear......look for the remote job where you can be at home and take care of your kinds.....asalu first kids anedhi too much responsibility ane thinking vadhileyali......

Well, first off, not everyone can do a remote job. My job is very demanding and I will have people working for me, I don't know if I can just take a break for a long period of time. 

Besides, like I said, I am not sure if I want kids. I can't justify myself with a decent reason to have kids yet.

[curious_george]

19 minutes ago, Meow said:

Well, first off, not everyone can do a remote job. My job is very demanding and I will have people working for me, I don't know if I can just take a break for a long period of time. 

Besides, like I said, I am not sure if I want kids. I can't justify myself with a decent reason to have kids yet.

Then don't have kids.....take the decision as soon as possible......with all due respect..mee indecisive nature valla....don't up kids....one more thing.....take job as just a job.....anybody can do your job....manam edho tega peekutamu ani mana feeling.......whatever we accomplish we do that with teams.....so the bottom line is.......job anedhi oka job laga chudandi....adhe life kaadu......

[samaja_varagamana]

3 hours ago, Scada said:

Same boat 🚣‍♀️ ... lot of things at the same time

married ah ba

[Jombo0108]

4 hours ago, Meow said:

I am going through a late 20s crisis. I think I am suffering from depression and dimensia, have too many things on my plate. I am loosing all my eggs and I still don't know if I want any kids, 'coz it's too much of a responsibility and I will have to take a break from my career. And you're worried about enjoying life, the heck? 

It’s all part of the journey bro, I feel the Same sometimes, take a break go on some vacation, the show continues.... There were people who passed the say path and there will be a few in the future as well. You are not facing a unique situation gotta stop feeling for yourself. Believe me when I say this I been through the rabbit hole of feeling emptiness so I know when I say this ,feelings  what you’re going through will pass. Something else will come and it goes on.... 

[Jombo0108]

Expect the marriage and the kids part 

[Sanathnagar_Satthi]

boomi meda ippatike population perigindi meku kids lekapovadam chala great matter....prati vadu job cheyadam...kids ni kanadam endo e routine life....

okka sari kida puttaka malli vallani school ki thiskellali, responsibilities antu eda crying enduku....meru chesina thappuku bali avthunnaru...

Jai balayya

[Scada]

7 hours ago, samaja_varagamana said:

married ah ba

No no single a .. 25 naku

[k2s]

On 8/29/2019 at 7:12 AM, AndhraneedSCS said:

1) Pelli ayithe wife torture kakapothe prathiokkadu pelli eppudu ani torture.. 

2) Pelli ayyina tarvatha pillalu unte oka torture lekapothe. inka pillalu lera ani torture 

3) Oka kid ni kanna tarvatha, 2nd kid eppudu ani.. Kid ki bore kodtundi ani kotta torture 

4) ee Kids gola ala undaga.. madyalo wife job chestanu ani cheyyanu ani oka gola 

5) ika kid koncham perugutunte valla school, after school activities (Kumon, Karate, Dance, Swimming, ....)

 

 

Ila oka dani tarvatha inkokati.. veetiki thodu hospitals and Dr visits 

 

 

Haha true

[RPG_Reloaded]

5 hours ago, Sanathnagar_Satthi said:

boomi meda ippatike population perigindi meku kids lekapovadam chala great matter....prati vadu job cheyadam...kids ni kanadam endo e routine life....

okka sari kida puttaka malli vallani school ki thiskellali, responsibilities antu eda crying enduku....meru chesina thappuku bali avthunnaru...

Jai balayya

[samaja_varagamana]

3 hours ago, Scada said:

No no single a .. 25 naku

oh one yr pedha nu nakanna 

24 here 

[infoseeker786]

recently inko state lo director of engineering job vachindi(currently manager).But 4 year old kid ki speech and behavioral issues unnayi. Therapist suggested not to change location for another 2 years.family kosam career compromise avalsi vastundi.

[user789]

On 8/29/2019 at 6:17 AM, RPG_Reloaded said:

Career munduku saagadam ledu

chex life boring

kids ni raise cheyadam vaalla buttex wash cheyadam

us la undal leka India 10geyala ane confusion

 

ivannee undaga joy miss autunna ane feel vastundha?

 

 

 

 

How many times will you ask the same question 

don’t be a pu$$y. Go to India and settle down there if you are financially good

[jalsa01]

2 hours ago, infoseeker786 said:

recently inko state lo director of engineering job vachindi(currently manager).But 4 year old kid ki speech and behavioral issues unnayi. Therapist suggested not to change location for another 2 years.family kosam career compromise avalsi vastundi.

Offer accept chesko aa area lo best Doctor ki chupinchuko...   Don't blame Family n Kids... its all depends on how u take the things though...   Family n Kids lekapote emundi vay life aa thokka lo Company ki Director ane Tag tho oodigam cheyadam tappa, what u get at the end?

[AFDB_Director]

On 8/31/2019 at 7:41 PM, JambaKrantu said:

I have two brothers one own and one cousin but both are very close. One is 36 and the other is 35. Both the brothers have two kids, both vadinas working.. 

India lo you will have help from family like grand parents, in laws, also you will have maids etc.. Ikkada everything is on the parents. The parents have to work, cook, clean, take care of the kids, drop them for activities, pick them up, help the kids with home work etc. Also because of all this stress and the pressure in sedentary IT jobs your health will go down hill quickly.. By the time you are close to 40 you are looking at BP or Sugar depending on your body type.. On top of it financial or career param gaa porgress ledu ane feeling okati.. Forget about taking care of you and your body, you will have 0 time for exercise. Vacations turn from fun and enjoyment into these stressful events where you are responsible for packing everything needed to handle two kids/toddlers, feed them and keep them occupied during those vacation days..

I turned 30 last month. Looking at their life I have decided not to get married. Parents are pressurizing me everyday but I have decided not to get married at any cost. 

Lol. Dheenike pelli cheskova. 

One of my friends story - his wife was bed ridden for an year after delivery. he had to take care of their new born baby and take care of his job and household work. Parents and in-laws couldn't come to help him due to old age and health issues. His kid also got two surgeries due to some birth defects. Now they are happy and healthy. I asked him how he was able to take care of everything and was he frustrated as he got no help. He said all those kashtalu made him and his wife stronger and their relationship grew stronger. He says he feels blessed that his family is happy and healthy now, he never complained about anything in this 2 years. I learnt something from him that day, we take things for granted and complain about silly stuff. There are lot more out there struggling to lead normal life.