amma nanna going back

[Rushabhi]

1 minute ago, Scada said:

how to get around it ? any solutions... asking for a friend 

Financial independence and talking about finances. Setting a budget together

[Amrita]

 

14 minutes ago, Rushabhi said:

Aadavallu 20s ayina 70s ayina abbayila side pedithe ekkuva money godavale avuthayi. Adhi pillalu unnavallaki Inka ekkuva avuthayi. Idhi jeevitha satyam raa abbayilu. 

Anta scene ledu ma Tatayya , my dad , my bava , cousins husbands andaru pedutune unnaru . None of their wives really point out or fight . Konni differences untayi  attitudes etc but money aspect lo they have responsibility kada ani they don’t even talk about it . The gyaan my sister gives is never talk about husband’s family or point them out . Unnecessary godavalu. Mana responsibility manam cheyali kopam vaste mogudu ni tittuko kottuko kuda family joliki velthe peace gone at home ni husband Manasu lo Nuvve cheap ayipotav Vallu vallu Eppudu okate we neither can stop or change anything manakenduku ani cheptundi . Ma Amma kind of says same thing . Not all just fight for money . Most times that’s not the only reason . Attitudes / morals / values problem .

[JohnSnow]

12 minutes ago, Rushabhi said:

Aadavallu 20s ayina 70s ayina abbayila side pedithe ekkuva money godavale avuthayi. Adhi pillalu unnavallaki Inka ekkuva avuthayi. Idhi jeevitha satyam raa abbayilu. 

Only girls who are hypocrites would do that. 

[futureofandhra]

1 minute ago, Amrita said:

 

Anta scene ledu ma Tatayya , my dad , my bava , cousins husbands andaru pedutune unnaru . None of their wives really point out or fight . Konni differences untayi  attitudes etc but money aspect lo they have responsibility kada ani they don’t even talk about it . The gyaan my sister gives is never talk about husband’s family or point them out . Unnecessary godavalu. Mana responsibility manam cheyali kopam vaste mogudu ni tittuko kottuko kuda family joliki velthe peace gone at home ni husband Manasu lo Nuvve cheap ayipotav Vallu vallu Eppudu plate manakenduku ani cheptundi . Ma Amma kind of says same thing . Not all just fight for money . Most times that’s not the only reason . Attitudes problem .

Meeku laga ilanti sister mother vuntey families will be happy

Unfortunately it's not happening

[proudtobeandhrite]

23 minutes ago, futureofandhra said:

Making a point is different

Parents vellipoyaru antey do not u think they were insulted?

Right, they were insulted. But, going away is not the solution. As an elder and matured people with vast life experience, they are supposed to address the issue and put their Son and daughter in law's life on track. 

[Amrita]

Just now, proudtobeandhrite said:

Right, they were insulted. But, going away is not the solution. As an elder and matured people with vast life experience, they are supposed to address the issue and put their Son and daughter in law's life on track. 

This is what I am saying from first post . 

[Jombo0108]

inka batike vnda ee thread 

[Jombo0108]

Highlights enti???

[Rushabhi]

1 minute ago, Amrita said:

 

Anta scene ledu ma Tatayya , my dad , my bava , cousins husbands andaru pedutune unnaru . None of their wives really point out or fight . Konni differences untayi  attitudes etc but money aspect lo they have responsibility kada ani they don’t even talk about it . The gyaan my sister gives is never talk about husband’s family or point them out . Unnecessary godavalu. Mana responsibility manam cheyali kopam vaste mogudu ni tittuko kottuko kuda family joliki velthe peace gone at home ni husband Manasu lo Nuvve cheap ayipotav Vallu vallu Eppudu plate manakenduku ani cheptundi . Ma Amma kind of says same thing . Not all just fight for money . Most times that’s not the only reason . Attitudes problem .

Money issues stem from attitudes too. If spouses are secretive about money issues or there is no trust then those issues spill to financial issues. Major marriage breakers are infidelity, alchohol, financial issues. Finances gurinchi maatladukom cheyyam ante 20s lo godavalu raakapoyina married life eppudanna godavalu vasthayi

[futureofandhra]

1 minute ago, proudtobeandhrite said:

Right, they were insulted. But, going away is not the solution. As an elder and matured people with vast life experience, they are supposed to address the issue and put their Son and daughter in law's life on track. 

Tell me which elders will stay back if someone says words that will make them leave 

If it's fight between them they will come n tell them for sure

I don't think it's just fight between them

[proudtobeandhrite]

2 minutes ago, futureofandhra said:

Meeku laga ilanti sister mother vuntey families will be happy

Unfortunately it's not happening

Along with that, Abbayilaki ammayilani ela treat cheyalo cheppe father, brothers and friends kuda vundaali .... Unfortunately both are not happening.

[Amrita]

11 minutes ago, Rushabhi said:

Money issues stem from attitudes too. If spouses are secretive about money issues or there is no trust then those issues spill to financial issues. Major marriage breakers are infidelity, alchohol, financial issues. Finances gurinchi maatladukom cheyyam ante 20s lo godavalu raakapoyina married life eppudanna godavalu vasthayi

Why should anyone be secretive ? Understanding leka chiller godavalu Chestene husband or wife Anyone will be secretive . In my example above they aren’t secretive and women are also working including my grand mother . They are super transparent.  One should understand people get married into families . Husband parents and wife parents are also part of package . Vallu lekapote manam lemu . Samskaralu problem . At the same time istunnaru ani vadukokudadu kuda . 

[proudtobeandhrite]

Just now, futureofandhra said:

Tell me which elders will stay back if someone says words that will make them leave 

If it's fight between them they will come n tell them for sure

I don't think it's just fight between them

Any matured adult would try to address/solve the problem. 

Ante parents are not matured ani antaava ani na meeda padodhu. Yes, sometimes (they are lot of them which you may disagree) elder acts immaturely too.

 

[proudtobeandhrite]

5 minutes ago, Amrita said:

This is what I am saying from first post . 

Telusu akka.... Ee discussion lo people emotion ki connect avuthunnaru rational gaaliki vadilesthunnaru...

[Scada]