What do you guys do when you are in depression and upset with own family members?

[jawaani_jaaneman]

1 hour ago, iphone said:

US lo living and have problems with my brother in India

regarding a matter i cannot share here doesn’t even have jhaali on me that I am living here all by myself and pundu midaa kaaram chalatham 😭

Iyanni kadu kani, itla low and lowest feeling tho ayedi emi ledu..

nee pareshan ki oka rate vuntadi...adendo sudu mundugala...see if you can spend that amount of money and gain upper hand and get a final deciding power in everything.

[Shruti]

[Thokkalee]

Sibling jealousy? Do you have something that your brother  doesn’t ?? There must be something that is bothering him and wants to trouble you... 

[RedThupaki]

Oyammaa...corona tho parents and dearest ones ni kolipoyaaru and Inka ala jaruguthuney undhi...

Mari vaalaki em suggestion isthaav..realise life is full of problems and obstacles...okari ki physical loss, kondhariki financial, relationship, emotional... etc etc....okati kaakapothey inkoti vasthuney untai...that's very natural...

Just figure what is your problem....also is it appears to be a problem only to you...bcoz for some your problem is nothing..

10 years imprisonment padi nodiki nee issue nothing...

Work on it...you will find peace..

 

[vidhya]

chinnappude evvaraina pure untaru. Em teliyakunda no egos, no jealous, no that thing  no this thing ala.

Age vachekoddi evaryone is same siblings aina, evvaraina.  I would mirror their behavior. If they are good be good to them ledaa... lite..  attention kooda ivvalsina avasarame ledu. 

[quickgun_murugun]

11 hours ago, iphone said:

feeling low

Duloxetine 30mg tablets daily 2 teesko for your anxiety and depression 

[jambalhaatraja]

My 2c

End of day how many friends/family you have, most of your life you have to live by yourself(esp our generation). Plant that in mind first. All the people you know will go away one day. So thats not in your hands and dont crib over those things. 

I became mentally very strong when I started living by self without room mates pre marriage. I will teach you a lot of things in life. 

Inka godavalu antava..even you are the nicest person or even the biggest asshole. people will have problems with you. You be yourself. vacche vallu vastaru .. poye vallu potaru. Dont change for some one else. If that some one goes away you will loose both yourself and that person too

[yemdoing]

14 minutes ago, quickgun_murugun said:

Duloxetine 30mg tablets daily 2 teesko for your anxiety and depression 

Lol.. 

[quickgun_murugun]

37 minutes ago, yemdoing said:

Lol.. 

why lol kaka ? 
don’t take depression posts easy... 

 

[yemdoing]

27 minutes ago, quickgun_murugun said:

why lol kaka ? 
don’t take depression posts easy... 

 

haha ala kaadu kaka... i do take them seriously . I found it funny that solution is to take medication, I believe other ways try chesaka then try medication. As most common side effect of depression medications is suicidal thoughts. 

 

[a_sagittarian]

1 hour ago, quickgun_murugun said:

Duloxetine 30mg tablets daily 2 teesko for your anxiety and depression 

Any side effects ?

[yemdoing]

13 hours ago, iphone said:

US lo living and have problems with my brother in India

regarding a matter i cannot share here doesn’t even have jhaali on me that I am living here all by myself and pundu midaa kaaram chalatham 😭

couple of things I would like to say.

1. As you grow up differences between siblings is very common, many of us haven't faced it yet.

2.Why you think you deserve pity because you live in US ? It's exactly why you don't deserve pity according to people in India. They cannot see your alone angle. All they see is you are having tons of fun in US. 

 

[Shameless]

14 hours ago, iphone said:

feeling low

"Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself"

nenu idhi chadhuvuthunn bro...bagundhi book...itlanti situations mostly mana indians ae face chestharu especially south indians...we are codependent on our closed ones...

 

https://www.amazon.com/Codependent-No-More-Controlling-Yourself/dp/0894864025/ref=asc_df_0894864025/?tag=hyprod-20&linkCode=df0&hvadid=312031138203&hvpos=&hvnetw=g&hvrand=14987251774026347140&hvpone=&hvptwo=&hvqmt=&hvdev=c&hvdvcmdl=&hvlocint=&hvlocphy=9021770&hvtargid=pla-434110805271&psc=1

[halwaraaj]

@iphone I have had a similar situation with my parents and my sister, 4 months natoh matladaledhu vallu, its heart squeezing to say the least, esp when you are not used to it(you get used to it when it happens again and again), this happened to me like 6 yrs ago, I used to go to work, not able to work, not able to complete my assigned work/commitments, I lost my job too during that time, I was married and we had our first kid just then. 

Horrible situation, my parents and sister knew all this through relatives and some of my best friends(sons/daughters of my dad's friends). I never got an answer/reply or call back from them in those 4 months no matter how many times I called them. 

I said to myself, I(not my emotions) want to be in charge of my life. I put my parents and sibling issue aside, got a new job, rebuilt everything back to normal first(financially, career wise and my family wise), this helped me gain confidence and ability in myself, and to understand what is important in life and what is secondary. I literally and truly did a white board for few months at night to come up with the following. I believe that most people know this by default, but I was so ignorant of my surroundings/things for so long that I had to do whiteboarding for this(loka gnanam teliyakapovadam or whatever it is called).

1. You are important to you(not even your parents/siblings/wife/kids, if you are compromising with yourself, and also not happy with yourself for compromising, but if you are happy with the compromise, all is well).

2. Your parents, wife and kids are the next important, because your parents gave you life, and your wife and kids you made them yours, and you cannot abandon/blackmail or ignore these people for a lower priority item.

3. Your siblings, because they usually are the best guides for you if they have good intentions(since they know you in and out since childhood), but don't usually prefer to keep the best advice for you when it comes to matters of their own life. After all they will have these bullet points in the same order for themselves too, and you fall in (3) for them.

4. Your friends, relatives and neighbors.

Your career and best friends are floaters(they float between 1 and 4 and can take those positions in various incidents/stages in your life)

 

This now is my ultimate sutra for life, and tackle issues in that order, and never ever compromise a higher priority item in order to fix a lower priority item that isn't going well.

I am happy now mentally, emotionally, financially and career wise, keeping everyone close for matters when they need to be close and equally at a distance for matters that they need not be involved in.

Everything will settle down buddy, I dont like posting my life details on a public forum like this, but wanted to give you some positivity and hope for I see you in my situation from earlier.

[Gnan_anna]

15 hours ago, Ellen said:

I usually stop talking ..ante not discuss or talk as much as I normally do, as engaging with them further would make things worse..family members, matladadam tappadu kabatti communication bare minimum petkunta. How are u, em tintav etc.  This silence helps me think and analyze things better. Why they behaved the way they behaved or what I could have done to make things better ani. If it makes sense, I take relevant step. Otherwise I just continue to stay calm inka. Time will heal everything. Usually the longer you stop talking, the more it gets diluted. You won't become as frustrated eventually ...silly anipistadi

Idhey philosophy konchem modify chesi cheppi mari na chethulu noru kattesthundhi na better half...asal okka sari manalni valu badhapettalani fix ainaka manam kuda endhuku undali chalo vallani kuda adhey range lo gelukudham anna philosophy lo undetodini...