Parents appulu

[Kurrodu1]

13 hours ago, LungiLingaraju said:

Bro I went through similar stuff… difference enti ante we were not well off but sontha illu undi 3 rooms and 2rooms rent … but US epoudaithe vachano.. sentimental fool laga first salary ani pampisthe vaddu anakunda took it and gave it to some one else … kept sending money now and then .. got married chala money vesna .. evado illu vaastu baga ledu ani ante spent huge money to move few things by few feet ala… kid born … still asked for money now and then … lekka levu …

2 lakh pampisthe they see how to spend them than saving them … pakka na vallatho comparing started .. emaina unnaya ante no money in the bank annaru.. 

I couldn’t take it more .. straight ga cheppina yearly one time for their expenses like 10k rupees per month … no more … Meeru adigi nannu ivvandi pettakandi .. I have to take of things here .. I can’t rely on my kids for our retirement .. please spend in your limits and stop comparing and stop asking ..

 

if you don’t do it now you will regret it bro .. all the best … 

Parents ke na pampindi?

First time vintunna parents venka mundu choodakunda pillala dabbulu karchu chestunnaru ani. 

[Kurrodu1]

12 hours ago, Thefighter said:

Trying since one month to get back to normal life not able to control emotions . Life la money enta important oo eppude telustundi . Money properties  unnay anna feeling unnappudu Aa strength verela untunde . Now when I know that we lost everything lost all my courage and not able to face anyone . 

Properties unnapudu, properties lenapudu ne life style lo emaina difference unda, excluding your emotional breakdown? 

[hydusguy]

43 minutes ago, hydusguy said:

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[ForEverJava]

2 minutes ago, hydusguy said:

u talk about looking into parents eyes.. i cannot look into my son and my kids eyes ..if i screw their future.

not saying parents not important at this age but at this time kids are more priority and control the spending of ourself and keep an eye on parents with frequent communication.. if tomorrow u dont have enough money to support ur kids needs its on you on not on your parents just keep that in mind.. its very thin line of balance whom and what responsibilities u have and more weight need to add and more control where to apply. speaking this from experience..

[hydusguy]

2 minutes ago, ForEverJava said:

not saying parents not important at this age but at this time kids are more priority and control the spending of ourself and keep an eye on parents with frequent communication.. if tomorrow u dont have enough money to support ur kids needs its on you on not on your parents just keep that in mind.. its very thin line of balance whom and what responsibilities u have and more weight need to add and more control where to apply. speaking this from experience..

i believe m9st of people send money to parents everymonth .. so why is so tough and start making apulu

[hydusguy]

6 minutes ago, ForEverJava said:

not saying parents not important at this age but at this time kids are more priority and control the spending of ourself and keep an eye on parents with frequent communication.. if tomorrow u dont have enough money to support ur kids needs its on you on not on your parents just keep that in mind.. its very thin line of balance whom and what responsibilities u have and more weight need to add and more control where to apply. speaking this from experience..

when u send money for clearing debts.. but with that money he again starts constr7ction making adfitional debts.. and until u visit india.  u will not know n they keep telling lies.

and one statement ..they do..

eedantha meekosame kadara.

its like casino.. when we loose money.. we try to get that by using credits and still loos8ng

[JANASENA]

money aa kada issue, if you're working remotely try to find a 2nd jaaab. one year lo losses cover aithay. But if you want suggestion never ask about that money to your dad. let it go. 

inka intlo adavallu antava, if they are enough matured they will understand. you don't need to explain. 

[phatposts]

Feel free to DM me. 

It is not an easy thing to handle ala ani its not end of the world. Unfortunately i have a lot of experience in this sh!t. 

 

[Diesel]

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[Diesel]

11 hours ago, Rushabhi said:

Not all are like that. But when indications are there prema tho eyes close chesukokoodadhu. Also oka age vachaka parents finances tighten cheyyali. Due to age many people try to take advantage of them. 

strongly disagree. personal issue valla ee statement vachindha?

[Diesel]

14 hours ago, Thefighter said:

Dad business laga start chesi lost all properties and appulu chesaru , ayinaku kuda miney ochedi undi but evaru evvatledu . and I gave almost 55 lacs lekka undi lekka lekunda oka 10 daaka . Asalu parents ani evala Leka asalu Ela react avvalo telvatledu . Chala depressing undi hard work cheyalanna mood kuda ratledu . Not able to talk to my parents . I am married daily full fightings entlo .

Chinnappati nundi eppudu happy ga undi ledu asalu . Chinnappudu society ani andari problems discuss chesi entlo Andarni tindunde  varu . Now Andarni nammi lost all money . Naa personal money 65 lacs daka etu poyayo kuda telvadu . 

need some suggestions .

Buddy, overthink chesthunav.  Financial loss is least of your problems as long as you have roof over your head and food on your plate. Be grateful that you are privileged for having that.  Don't get into situation(depression) where you will regret this in future. 

[chicagoafdb]

16 hours ago, Thefighter said:

Dad business laga start chesi lost all properties and appulu chesaru , ayinaku kuda miney ochedi undi but evaru evvatledu . and I gave almost 55 lacs lekka undi lekka lekunda oka 10 daaka . Asalu parents ani evala Leka asalu Ela react avvalo telvatledu . Chala depressing undi hard work cheyalanna mood kuda ratledu . Not able to talk to my parents . I am married daily full fightings entlo .

Chinnappati nundi eppudu happy ga undi ledu asalu . Chinnappudu society ani andari problems discuss chesi entlo Andarni tindunde  varu . Now Andarni nammi lost all money . Naa personal money 65 lacs daka etu poyayo kuda telvadu . 

need some suggestions .

ee money before marriage savings icchava or after marriage.. also money from your wife / properties ? if not in-laws / Wife barking ekkuva entertain cheyyaku.. let it go for peace.. and focus on building your family feature, which is your kids.. been there lost good 7-8 yr savings of US with wrong investments, but no regrets after all its between you and your father.. remember your parents might have sacrificed a lot for you coming here / studies.. its my take no parent will intentionally do it.. its not easy to accept losses at your father age.. they might have tried best to give you some thing..

[TOM_BHAYYA]

2 hours ago, phatposts said:

Feel free to DM me. 

It is not an easy thing to handle ala ani its not end of the world. Unfortunately i have a lot of experience in this sh!t. 

 

Ikkade veyanna.. ma lanti entho mandhiki use avvudhhi

[LadiesTailor]

17 hours ago, Thefighter said:

Dad business laga start chesi lost all properties and appulu chesaru , ayinaku kuda miney ochedi undi but evaru evvatledu . and I gave almost 55 lacs lekka undi lekka lekunda oka 10 daaka . Asalu parents ani evala Leka asalu Ela react avvalo telvatledu . Chala depressing undi hard work cheyalanna mood kuda ratledu . Not able to talk to my parents . I am married daily full fightings entlo .

Chinnappati nundi eppudu happy ga undi ledu asalu . Chinnappudu society ani andari problems discuss chesi entlo Andarni tindunde  varu . Now Andarni nammi lost all money . Naa personal money 65 lacs daka etu poyayo kuda telvadu . 

need some suggestions .

Poyuna money inka raadu… talk to your dad and explain your situation… mee monthly expenses ki adjust chesta and medical bills take care chesta… appulu teerchadam naa valla kaadu ani cheppey

[HugoStrange]

16 hours ago, Jaggadonga said:

Me and my brother paid almost 2CR in family debts.....bad businesses effect of our dad.....still paying. It's frustrating but nothing much we can do. If you want family you have to. One good thing for us is we got married to understanding girls. Don't think too much, the show must go on....

kaka nuvevvaro naa story exact ga dinchav. Same to same. 2CR kattamu eddaram (still oka 50L bank lo emi's paying), month ki expenses ki kuda sending 40k. Total 1L pampisthunnam every month. Same to same both girls single word bad ga matladaledu ee vishayam lo.