he doesn’t believe in gender equality).

[kevinUsa]

Hi

 

I got married 4 months back after knowing each other for year and half. My husband got job transfer in USA and I resigned from my job. I have work experience of 9 years in IT industry. Shifted to USA a month back. The main qualities while looking for partner was supportive, person who believes in equality and decent job.

 

I pre informed him, I will not do 100 percent of household tasks. You should not expect this from me, since I will not have any job in USA.

 

He is expected to put dishes in dishwasher as his part of help, which I take over many times since he is occupied with office work(I understand I have more free time than him). During weekends he never offers to help me and when asked he makes some or the other excuse. My husband is an introvert, so exploring the city with me on weekends looks like favour to him.

 

It’s very overwhelming to move into a new country with no one known, no one to talk to. I am doubting my decision to resign and relocate with him. Also doubting the decision of marrying this person( looks like he doesn’t believe in gender equality).

 

This is how I am feeling right now! I might be wrong somewhere. We are having fights due to these trivial things.

 

Please assist me on how to handle this better !

[Guest]

3 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

Hi

 

I got married 4 months back after knowing each other for year and half. My husband got job transfer in USA and I resigned from my job. I have work experience of 9 years in IT industry. Shifted to USA a month back. The main qualities while looking for partner was supportive, person who believes in equality and decent job.

 

I pre informed him, I will not do 100 percent of household tasks. You should not expect this from me, since I will not have any job in USA.

 

He is expected to put dishes in dishwasher as his part of help, which I take over many times since he is occupied with office work(I understand I have more free time than him). During weekends he never offers to help me and when asked he makes some or the other excuse. My husband is an introvert, so exploring the city with me on weekends looks like favour to him.

 

It’s very overwhelming to move into a new country with no one known, no one to talk to. I am doubting my decision to resign and relocate with him. Also doubting the decision of marrying this person( looks like he doesn’t believe in gender equality).

 

This is how I am feeling right now! I might be wrong somewhere. We are having fights due to these trivial things.

 

Please assist me on how to handle this better !

LOL " looks like he doesn’t believe in gender equality"

Em ledu, US raavataniki evaro oka bakara kaavali....vaadu dorikaadu..She used him an anchor. Next step, get a job...get H1...dump the husband! 

 

[rapchik123]

11 minutes ago, rushmore said:

LOL " looks like he doesn’t believe in gender equality"

Em ledu, US raavataniki evaro oka bakara kaavali....vaadu dorikaadu..She used him an anchor. Next step, get a job...get H1...dump the husband! 

 

madhyalo steps " start an insta page, put up reels with potti dresses, gain followers and become a SM influencer "

[FrustratedVuncle]

50 minutes ago, kevinUsa said:

Hi

 

I got married 4 months back after knowing each other for year and half. My husband got job transfer in USA and I resigned from my job. I have work experience of 9 years in IT industry. Shifted to USA a month back. The main qualities while looking for partner was supportive, person who believes in equality and decent job.

 

I pre informed him, I will not do 100 percent of household tasks. You should not expect this from me, since I will not have any job in USA.

 

He is expected to put dishes in dishwasher as his part of help, which I take over many times since he is occupied with office work(I understand I have more free time than him). During weekends he never offers to help me and when asked he makes some or the other excuse. My husband is an introvert, so exploring the city with me on weekends looks like favour to him.

 

It’s very overwhelming to move into a new country with no one known, no one to talk to. I am doubting my decision to resign and relocate with him. Also doubting the decision of marrying this person( looks like he doesn’t believe in gender equality).

 

This is how I am feeling right now! I might be wrong somewhere. We are having fights due to these trivial things.

 

Please assist me on how to handle this better !

very subjective debate. Interested in original post comments. ekkadidhi ee post.

[Konebhar6]

"My husband is an introvert, so exploring the city with me on weekends looks like favour to him." How conveniently she puts him down saying its not a favor. Of course its a favor if he is doing it for her the same way she is feeling she is doing a favor doing more household work since she is unemployed.

Em kalam ra babu. Mogudu pellala madhya la ee lekkalu. Give and take is a part of every relationship and it cannot be a balance as everyone expects. 

 

[shaktimaan]

poor guy 

[manadonga]

Divorse tesukovali ide vuntundi all comments 

[ZoomNaidu]

 Ekkuva chadhivisthey vunna mathi poyindhi anta ..

[Skn_benami]

Personal ga deal cheskovalsina daniki fb group lo adugutunda, poni news paper lo ad iyalsindi. M cheyali ani. 

[akkum_bakkum]

Nibbi wants only rights, not responsibilities. Very nice.

[TOM_BHAYYA]

Plz take divorce.. break ivvadaniki by birth feminist aina @Anta Assamey is ready unnadu

[stag]

indian expats group oka mini indus ladies group laga avuthundi.. 

[Pandubabu]

2 hours ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

very subjective debate. Interested in original post comments. ekkadidhi ee post.

 subjective em ledhu , if you are not working , you do majority of chores. 

[FrustratedVuncle]

3 minutes ago, Pandubabu said:

 subjective em ledhu , if you are not working , you do majority of chores. 

mahila sangams will cry hard if you say that. 

[gandhi]

5 minutes ago, FrustratedVuncle said:

mahila sangams will cry hard if you say that. 

show them the middle finger and throw those pseudo feminist's out of the house