For Broken Hearts ..........

[vikramII]

[quote name='dreamgirl' timestamp='1328796959' post='1301394152']

konchem clear ga cheppu..!!

dg..
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true love means loving someone irrespective of whatever. take a mother she will love her kid from the birth whatever the looks....whatever the kid becomes. that is true love.

whereas many people who happen to be in a relationship and when it breaks naturally get depressed and comes out of it. but some people can not come out of it and they assume it to be TRUE LOVE. But, it is not the case.

1. some unfortunates lose their mother with birth or very early. though they are infants they live without mother and grow up to be successful. when an infant can live with out mother why not a grown up can not live without ex-love?

2. the reason why they can not live without the ex

a. they are in emotional need (subconsciously)! they can not afford to lose someone at any cost who ( ex-love)came close to or even fulfilled their emotional need. the emotional need (psychological dependency) is the main problem not the ex lover.

b. the perfect one: we all have some subconscious and conscious requirements and expectations... when we see someone like that, as i said above we feel love...and if it becomes reality and we take it for granted that we are going to marry and after a while (say 1,2 years or more) if it breaks it can cause devastated feeling which we are confusing to be true love.

i. we know that this ( ex-love the perfect match) works perfect so we try to get that back - we confuse that yearning to be true love while it is just about getting the right one. i guess you know about homeostasis
ii. if we happen to meet someone who is very much the same or roughly the same physically and mentally ( to the ex) we can feel the love again. wait, love means a wound for the broken, new relation and new love means working with the wound again.. it hurts so the broken will not go for new relation until it is too late. but, all the while the fact is that we can be happy with some one who is very much similar to the ex.
iii. memories : the memories with ex will hurt you even if you are about to start any such new venture ( new relation)....
so all these ways it is really tough to walk away from serious relationship which is more or less like quagmire .

further perfectionists and people who were gifted and rarely faced failures are more prone to be victims of true love when their love story fails. some people can not accept failures and they can never accept the biggest failure of their life ( its not true love, its their inability to accept...)

above all supply demand theory:
when we can never get back someone or something our urge( demand) towards them becomes quite low(good number of people) or becomes maximum ( true lovers).

all the great love stories ( true lovers) are the tragic love stories
devdas does not get paru
romeo juliet , saleem anarkali....

the rule for true love is we have to lose ( supply- demand)....

further there is no place for agony in true love. if we love some one with true love and they happen to leave us ....: no crying but only wishing that he/she be happy wherever.
but, our truelover saabs they will be drinking, crying.... screwing their lie!
for them the ex is necessity not true love.

so overall true love is a beautiful pseudo feeling with which we cheat ourselves ( make ourselves stupids) and the artists, films eulogize it so much . thats why i said [color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]true love is the stupidity praised to the max! [/font][/color]
[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]all the while i am trying to say one thing: if we can get some one very much same like our ex we[/font][/color]
[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]can be happy, the world is big enough if we explore. but, we do not explore and shut ourselves in a room and keep crying for the " TRUE LOVE" that we " LOST" [/font][/color]

[Steelers]

[quote name='vikramII' timestamp='1328812515' post='1301394873']


true love means loving someone irrespective of whatever. take a mother she will love her kid from the birth whatever the looks....whatever the kid becomes. that is true love.

whereas many people who happen to be in a relationship and when it breaks naturally get depressed and comes out of it. but some people can not come out of it and they assume it to be TRUE LOVE. But, it is not the case.

1. some unfortunates lose their mother with birth or very early. though they are infants they live without mother and grow up to be successful. when an infant can live with out mother why not a grown up can not live without ex-love?

2. the reason why they can not live without the ex

a. they are in emotional need (subconsciously)! they can not afford to lose someone at any cost who ( ex-love)came close to or even fulfilled their emotional need. the emotional need (psychological dependency) is the main problem not the ex lover.

b. the perfect one: we all have some subconscious and conscious requirements and expectations... when we see someone like that, as i said above we feel love...and if it becomes reality and we take it for granted that we are going to marry and after a while (say 1,2 years or more) if it breaks it can cause devastated feeling which we are confusing to be true love.

i. we know that this ( ex-love the perfect match) works perfect so we try to get that back - we confuse that yearning to be true love while it is just about getting the right one. i guess you know about homeostasis
ii. if we happen to meet someone who is very much the same or roughly the same physically and mentally ( to the ex) we can feel the love again. wait, love means a wound for the broken, new relation and new love means working with the wound again.. it hurts so the broken will not go for new relation until it is too late. but, all the while the fact is that we can be happy with some one who is very much similar to the ex.
iii. memories : the memories with ex will hurt you even if you are about to start any such new venture ( new relation)....
so all these ways it is really tough to walk away from serious relationship which is more or less like quagmire .

further perfectionists and people who were gifted and rarely faced failures are more prone to be victims of true love when their love story fails. some people can not accept failures and they can never accept the biggest failure of their life ( its not true love, its their inability to accept...)

above all supply demand theory:
when we can never get back someone or something our urge( demand) towards them becomes quite low(good number of people) or becomes maximum ( true lovers).

all the great love stories ( true lovers) are the tragic love stories
devdas does not get paru
romeo juliet , saleem anarkali....

the rule for true love is we have to lose ( supply- demand)....

further there is no place for agony in true love. if we love some one with true love and they happen to leave us ....: no crying but only wishing that he/she be happy wherever.
but, our truelover saabs they will be drinking, crying.... screwing their lie!
for them the ex is necessity not true love.

so overall true love is a beautiful pseudo feeling with which we cheat ourselves ( make ourselves stupids) and the artists, films eulogize it so much . thats why i said [color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]true love is the stupidity praised to the max! [/font][/color]
[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]all the while i am trying to say one thing: if we can get some one very much same like our ex we[/font][/color]
[color=#282828][font=helvetica, arial, sans-serif]can be happy, the world is big enough if we explore. but, we do not explore and shut ourselves in a room and keep crying for the " TRUE LOVE" that we " LOST" [/font][/color]
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inko sari clear ga cheppu anadhu....

[happyprince]

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