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[color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]My parents have started seeing alliance for me. I personally don't prefer joint family and have been upfront about it to them. After getting the horoscopes matched and exchanging photos, the boy's side wanted to come and see me. My parents told them that they would like to meet them first and then they can come and see me on the next day. We are upper middle class family, but they are nowhere close to us in status, my parents realized only after visiting their house (Very small flat. He did not even have a two wheeler let alone car) But it was too late. My parents did not know how to avoid them. So they told let them come and see. Later, we will give some excuse. I told them firmly I will not talk to him. Not because of the status alone, there were so many other reasons for us(mainly the guy's attitude from what he has spoken to my parents) I tried explaining them. My parents agreed with my point of view. my mom had foolishly invited all her sisters and brother(this was before visiting the boy's parents), again felt awkward to tell them the truth. But she was frank to her sisters though and told them clearly we are not going to consider the alliance and also the fact I don't wish to even talk to him. The guy is currently working in Cochin, though my parents did not discuss whether I would be reqd to live in joint family. They themselves(boy's parents) told they wish to keep their son separate after marriage. The next day the boy and his parents came to our house. Even though my stupid Aunt(mom's sister) knew very well that I was not interested in talking to him. She asked the guy to talk with me. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/rant.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I really hate her attitude. I talked to him normally because I did not want to humiliate my parents. He lectured me how he considers his brother as his god and will not do anything against his wish.... blah blah. I listened to everything patiently and was nodding my head. He told he will be expecting me to live in joint family and I have to be comfortable with that. I just did not know what to tell him. I told him we will discuss and let you know. Why did he or his parents not disclose that to my parents when they went to his house or in any of their phone convos? I don't understand why his parents have to act ! He apparently hates shopping. When he asked me whether I like shopping, I told him I guess all girls like shopping. His expression was unintentionally funny. He did not like it and was shocked!!!! He must be really stingy. He said he wants his wife to be a home maker and the reason he gave for it was he wants his food to be served hot.[/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/wow.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]lol. It made no sense to me! He said he plans to open a business after ten yrs and I have to manage it along with his SIL. After the business gets stabilized he and his brother would quit their job and join. idk, why he has to tell me all that? Didn't he find anything else to talk? I mean what he is planning to do after ten years. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_spin.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I told him I would prefer if the decision to work/not work after marriage is left to me. I asked him whether he would support me if I prefer to work after marriage, his answer was neither yes nor no.... he tried avoiding the question and divert the topic. Even though I wanted to leave and expressed it diplomatically he continued talking and talking..... I had to put up with all his crap just because of my stupid Aunt. After coming out of the room also the family did not leave even though they were clearly seeing that my dad was busy attending calls from office. My dad had to leave for an important meeting. But they were still sitting indecently.(He felt helpless) They left after only one hour.[/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/witsend.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] My annoying Aunt asked the guy whether he likes me. Grrrrr. Again she didn't really have to especially when she knows we are not interested in proceeding with the alliance. He just told 'Solren Aunty' and laughed. If he didn't really like me they could have just told we will let you know and left. Why should they sit for one hour after talking to me? They came to our house around 11'o clock and spent nearly two hours totally at our house. Anyways, they came by Auto to our house and had to walk to main road to catch auto again. So my mom's brother asked his driver to drop them in the main road. But they shamelessly asked the driver to drop them in their house. Does this family have any decency??? After all this they never bothered to even give a courtesy call and inform us the result. May be they expected us to call them? I just hate their ego. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/rant.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Anyways, my parents did not call them. I yelled at my mom because I didn't really have to go through all this and she didn't really have to invite all the relatives. She also realized her mistake and has decided not to call anyone next time to avoid trouble.[/size][/font][/color]

[color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]As I said I don't prefer joint family because of various reasons. I have to adjust from food to dress, which is not possible for me and there would be no privacy. What if the guy discloses it in last minute like him? How could I make him understand in a polite way? Please give me some suggestions.[/size][/font][/color]

[color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I do respect elders and will try to be a good dil as much as possible. But I don't think you have to live under one roof if u have to give them emotional or financial support, you can do that by even living somewhere nearby indeed.[/size][/font][/color]

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sadavandi vay...... mee blood udukuddi..... okko okka sentence thoti...
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chadivaani chaala chiraaku ga vundhi... nakendhuko vallu reject chesthey thana frustration ila chupinchindhi anipisthondhi.. any way change the title baa...

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hmm maree ekkuva tittesav emo ba...

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[color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Thank you everyone. Inviting relatives is inviting trouble, all the unwanted interference and advises really pisses you off! After he left everyone started pestering me what did you guys talk for that long? I just told what the boy spoke to me and my maami was defending him like crazy. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/rotfl.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I did not even criticize or complain anything about his demands. Because I know their mentality and will be ready to label me arrogant. My uncle got his daughter married to a family with a similar background. Because of it she is suffering to date. Yet he was brainwashing my mom to fix this alliance. He was like so what if the family is not well-off.... you can help her all the property is only for her!![/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_rolleyes.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] How ridiculous does that sound? Which gal in her right mind would like to take money from her parents after marriage? When I met the boy's side parents my uncle asked to do namaskaram to them. I wished them with hands. I never touch strangers feet, because I really don't think you have to do it just because they are elders. In fact only in India we have such weird customs. I think thats something to be done only to god. But he told me in a clear tone again to fall in their feet. I could not say anything and he made me do it. In front of them he boasted look how I made you do, I know you wouldn't! I have to pretend like, "no I always respect elders"(it is not like I don't!). He told in front of them, yes, "I heard you have changed a lot". What will they think of me? [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/rant.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]The boy is so narrow-minded. He doesn't want his wife to be a stay-at-home-wife because he wants his food to be served hot. I simply have no words. Everyone was like you MUST say YES, don't say no, that I must not turn down him at any cost. It was funny because I did not even say I don't like him. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/hide.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] They kept bugging me. I finally told I have to discuss with amma and appa. It offended them. How could they force me into something? What right do they have? Marriage is not a joke, it is a life time decision!! They kept calling my mom to know the happenings and were influencing her in a bad way. Thank god it didn't work.[/size][/font][/color]

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chadivaani chaala chiraaku ga vundhi... nakendhuko vallu reject chesthey thana frustration ila chupinchindhi anipisthondhi.. any way change the title baa...
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hmm maree ekkuva tittesav emo ba...
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Girl 2 : [color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]But be careful...some guys might quickly come to a conclusion that you will not be good with their parents[/i][/size][/font][/color]

[color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]Girl 1: [/i][/size][/font][/color][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Yeah, thats exactly what I worry too. He should not mistake me. Please I hope you people help me by giving some more suggestions. How can it be conveyed in better ways?[/size][/font][/color]

[color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Girl 3: [/size][/font][/color][color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]Asking the driver to drop at home?how funny...they didn't make their travel arrangements even? [/i][/size][/font][/color]

[color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]Girl 1: [/i][/size][/font][/color][color=#333333][size=3]I know. what a bunch of misers!

They could have easily hired a call taxi or at least asked the auto they came to wait!! It is really cheap to ask the driver to drop them at home.

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