Sastrygaru Posted January 27, 2012 Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 Dinamma.. eee ammayi ki intha balupaaa.. donga ***** kallaku dannam peddataaniki em maayaroogam? .. vaadi sanghathi emo kaani idimatram pakka narrow minded.. chala aroogant woman.. ila unte relationsships lo chala kastham.. diiniki unna cholostrol ki she will [url="http://www.bewarsetalk.net/cgi-bin/discus/board-image-lister.cgi?popup=1&tagname=movieart&dir=movieanimated9#"][img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated9/die.gif[/img][/url][url="http://www.bewarsetalk.net/cgi-bin/discus/board-image-lister.cgi?popup=1&tagname=movieart&dir=movieanimated9#"][img]http://www.bewarsetalk.net/discus/movieanimated9/die.gif[/img][/url] NO DOUBT about it.. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2s Posted January 27, 2012 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 Girl 3: [color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]welcome to the circus of arranged marriage.[/i][/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]You'll meet tons of such idiots before you loose all energy and then pick up the best available.[/i][/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]Girl 1: [/i][/size][/font][/color][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] you're spot on. After reading your response I guess now I get a better understanding. I felt better after reading your post. Thank you for enlightening me. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] [/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I guess I'm not alone. I don't know how to say all these talks has started to take a toll on my self-esteem. People ask all sort of weird questions. Example: Does the gal wear eyeglasses? (I don't) Questions related to weight etc. I mean how could people be so narrow minded. Say tomorrow if we get married and gain five pounds or suppose necessity to wear glasses arise in future will they send the gal back home. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/bonk.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] Even yesterday there was a fight at home. We got this alliance thro bharatmatrimony, it was them who contacted us. They expressed interest and sent their contact details afterwards by becoming paid member. They and my parents have been talking for about a month. After matching horoscopes my parents sent my photo and they immediately sent their son's photo and it appeared that they were eager to proceed further. They told their son is not in India and said will meet my parents once he is back. Yesterday when my dad spoke to the boy's father. He sounded interested, but told he would like to know my weight. I found it demeaning and ridiculous. It is very indecent. What angered me was my dad was answering him patiently... I'm definitely not overweight. I'm conscious abt my weight myself and seriously don't look fat from any angle. Also they have seen my photo. If they did not like me they need not have sent their son's photo indeed. Why would a gal want to tell her weight to someone who is still virtually a stranger?! It is still uncertain, there is no guarantee I will enter into this family. Are they going to send their DIL to MRS. CHENNAI after marriage really? [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]At least if he had asked it thro his wife to my mom it would have been somewhat ok! How could a man ask such sensitive questions and expect us to take it in the right sense? To my dismay my parents did not find anything wrong abt it. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_tdown.gif[/img] cheppu ichhu kottali...... deenini...... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2s Posted January 27, 2012 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 [quote name='Maximus' timestamp='1327700534' post='1301355189'] Spamming Not Allowed[img]http://i52.tinypic.com/34s4i6w.gif[/img]modern ladies..vayya...gatlaney vuntaru... [/quote]ayitey... velli......modern ga bathamanu...... pelli enduku anta ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maximus Posted January 27, 2012 Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 [img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_tdown.gif[/img][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_tdown.gif[/img][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_tdown.gif[/img] [img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_tdown.gif[/img][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_tdown.gif[/img] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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k2s Posted January 27, 2012 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 [quote name='k2s' timestamp='1327700724' post='1301355200'] Girl 3: [color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]welcome to the circus of arranged marriage.[/i][/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]You'll meet tons of such idiots before you loose all energy and then pick up the best available.[/i][/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Tahoma, Calibri, Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3][i]Girl 1: [/i][/size][/font][/color][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] you're spot on. After reading your response I guess now I get a better understanding. I felt better after reading your post. Thank you for enlightening me. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif[/img] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]I guess I'm not alone. I don't know how to say all these talks has started to take a toll on my self-esteem. People ask all sort of weird questions. Example: Does the gal wear eyeglasses? (I don't) Questions related to weight etc. I mean how could people be so narrow minded. Say tomorrow if we get married and gain five pounds or suppose necessity to wear glasses arise in future will they send the gal back home. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/bonk.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3] Even yesterday there was a fight at home. We got this alliance thro bharatmatrimony, it was them who contacted us. They expressed interest and sent their contact details afterwards by becoming paid member. They and my parents have been talking for about a month. After matching horoscopes my parents sent my photo and they immediately sent their son's photo and it appeared that they were eager to proceed further. They told their son is not in India and said will meet my parents once he is back. Yesterday when my dad spoke to the boy's father. He sounded interested, but told he would like to know my weight. I found it demeaning and ridiculous. It is very indecent. What angered me was my dad was answering him patiently... I'm definitely not overweight. I'm conscious abt my weight myself and seriously don't look fat from any angle. Also they have seen my photo. If they did not like me they need not have sent their son's photo indeed. Why would a gal want to tell her weight to someone who is still virtually a stranger?! It is still uncertain, there is no guarantee I will enter into this family. Are they going to send their DIL to MRS. CHENNAI after marriage really? [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/biglaugh.gif[/img][color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]At least if he had asked it thro his wife to my mom it would have been somewhat ok! How could a man ask such sensitive questions and expect us to take it in the right sense? To my dismay my parents did not find anything wrong abt it. [/size][/font][/color][img]http://www.indusladies.com/forums/images/smilies/icon_tdown.gif[/img] cheppu ichhu kottali...... deenini...... [/quote] Girl 4 response to Girl 1 : [color=#333333][size=3]There is nothing wrong in that, thats why your parents did not find anything wrong abt it. You are trying your hand in "Arranged Marriage" market. The other side (boy's side) are strangers to you. If they dont want an overweight girl, then that's their preference. As long as they are not making comments about you and only want to know your weight there is nothing wrong in it. Ofcourse if they have opportunity to "see you", then they dont need to ask it over the phone. But this is "Arranged Marriage" market, and might as well, they be upfront on their requirements, and you can be upfront about yours such as nuclear family etc etc. If you fall in love with someone and he with you, then different story all together. It is [b]hypocritical[/b] to go through Arranged Marriage process and then cringe at the barter system. There is no pre-existing love&affection in Arranged marriage. One first has to do a successful arrangement in fixing up based on mutual requirements, and then later on all that lovey-dovey stuff may happen. Of course decency has to be maintained both before and after the "transaction process". In this case, I dont see any decency being violated by the boy's side.[/indent] Girl 1: I beg to differ. Firstly, he should have let his wife handle the whole thing. Secondly, he has seen my photo and has a clear idea about me. I reiterate I'm seriously not overweight. The boy is apparently 80 Kg. How fair is it for them to expect a slim gal for their son anyway? *shrugs*[/size][/font][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Maximus Posted January 27, 2012 Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 [quote name='k2s' timestamp='1327700782' post='1301355206'] ayitey... velli......modern ga bathamanu...... pelli enduku anta ... [/quote] [img]http://www.desigifs.com/sites/default/files/brahmam_style1_0.gif?1290368402[/img] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
katharnak Posted January 27, 2012 Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 [quote name='k2s' timestamp='1327700724' post='1301355200'] cheppu ichhu kottali...... deenini...... [/quote] enduk ba.. naakem tappu anipinchatlede... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
k2s Posted January 27, 2012 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 [quote name='katharnak' timestamp='1327701071' post='1301355220'] enduk ba.. naakem tappu anipinchatlede... [/quote]k Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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k2s Posted January 27, 2012 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 Girl 5 response to Girl 1: [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]If this thing can set you off this much.. it is not going to be an easy ride post-marriage.. a lot of adjustments await ahead down the line, especially in Arranged Marriage. [/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Either party has every right to expect anything they wish. Demanding is wrong.. expecting is their rights. [/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]Have you not seen a fair girl wanting a dark boy or a dark girl wanting a fair boy? How is it not fair? It is just like that. It is just their preference, honey.. Don't get upset. They have not commented on you, right? [/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]If you are this sensitive, you will be at a loss later.. Don't get me wrong.. It is just a friendly note.[/size][/font][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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k2s Posted January 27, 2012 Author Report Share Posted January 27, 2012 Girl 1 : [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]If I don't have faith in arrange marriage system, I would not have let my parents see a groom for me. I could have easily chosen someone who proposed me in college. Marriage is "meeting of minds" and it is just we have been interacting with wrong people of late.[/size][/font][/color] [color=#333333][font=Verdana, Geneva, sans-serif][size=3]ayitey elli [/size][/font][/color] Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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