dealing

[reality]

12 minutes ago, raccha rambabu said:

Trust me.. neeku ala anipisthundhi ani nuvvu feel avthunnav.. its like inception.. feeling lo feeling adi.. 

Silent ga undatam mamooley.. but that shouldnt last long.. oka day or 2 is normal.. andharu pass ayye phase... but that does not put an end to it.

Since you both are working.. I am sure that you dont get time to spend together much. Try to take a walk every other day with your kid. 

Kopam rakapothey nee uppu karam bills ki artham ledhu.. but you also need to know how to control it or probably put that anger on something else.

THis might sound funny but it worked for me.. I bought a small piece of wood from Home depot.. i file that wood whenever I get out of my senses because of my anger.

It took me almost 6 months to atleast know how long my anger would last. Antha time evvadiki undadhu .. intlo kid unnappudu.. kaani jus saying.

Bro, a bold hilighted enti, artham kaledhu?

[gudboy]

You have a good wife and be a man..nuvvu cheppina dani batti she is doing was has to..working and taking care of home...kid doctor etc anni nuvve chusukovali and kopam thagginchali

[Lukewalker]

I would like to give you one suggestion: neeku kopam ekkuva thittesta annav kadha, please don't do it infront of your kid, meeru entha kottukunna kids mundhu kottukovadhu, it will have a very drastic affect on your kid

you are missing one key point, PATIENCE. late ayite kopam vasthundhi thittesta antunnav, late avvani, nee family kante time ki povatam important kaadhu.

kopam chala dangerous man, it can destroy families. ma dad kopaniki nenu ma thammudu chala affect ayyam man, personal experience tho chepthunna. 

meditation try cheyyi, first lo weird ga untundhi, but eventually it will relax your mind. 

chinna chinna vishyalaki suicide endhi man. you are overthinking it. bayata valaki chinna chinna vishyalu laane untundhi, but barinche vaadiki telusthundhi anukoku, please start meditation.

you are not just a husband, you are a father. nee kid ki nuvve role model, so you better act like one

[samaja_varagamana]

38 minutes ago, TOM_BHAYYA said:

Enti ee pellainolla kastalu

@samaja_varagamana Anna mana bachelors jeevithaaale bindaaas

Amma avakai anushkaaa 

[Peddayana]

ee matram danike extreme thoughts enduku vayya , this is what marriage is about , understanding each others strengths and weakness and trying to live life well , if she is not doing something , take initiative in that , nothing wrong man , anni andaru cheyaleru , looks like you are expecting her to be ideal , no one can be ideal , from what you are saying she seems to be good , control your anger , be positive , shower your love , may be she will take cues from your behavior...you seem to have a good life , silly thoughts tho pichi ga spoil chesukoku..

shopping vishayam vasthe , all women do that bhayya , if you do not like to wait , go and shop in men's area or find any other activity during that time etc..denike irritate aithe ela

[JAMBALHOT_RAJA]

nee problem ki reason OCD. Anni perfect ga undali anukovadam. annitiki picha lite picha lite ani manasulo anuko. 

[RamGopalVarma]

1 hour ago, liteteesko said:

i and my wife have been married for about 5 years and we are not jelling well. I have anger issues. She has time management issues and other absent minded issues. doc deggariki vellam not very much progress. Usually she is a calm person. We have a kid and we both are working.

Na feeling and impression on her is like she is not well managed/organised person. Nene anni initiation teesukovali like kid doc appointment, bill payments, weekend plans etc. No mundu chupu ata all. but other wise family social life bane handle chestadi. so basically very laid back and na true feeling she is more like consumer ....consume the situation at home as it comes and just react to it. but  proactive ga emi cheyadu including showering love.  this is my opinion and she disagrees to this. Probbaly i am not seeing/feeling her efforts what she claims that she is doing.

matter enti ante idi ila undaga.. godavalu aitunayi.. like late chesina, ediana marchipoina, naku picha kopam vachi thidatanu. i should agree that na maatalu koncham rude ga untayi not demeaning or any bad words. naku enti ante tanu nerchukovali  ani but tanu chesina porapatle malli malli chestadi. like making me wait some while doing shopping .... she repeats and repeats same things again again. I scold her and remind her you are not learning from past situations. She has a reason for everything but result matram unadu.  nenu chala hurting ga matladutanu ani, nenu thitidhte eduru inka recha kodatadi inka finally matter racha racha aitadi.

Nenu chala sarlu cheppanu, nenu koncham thidithe nuvvu enduku malli rechagodatavu koncham ice cheste na kopam taagutadi kada ani. but her response is Nenu emi mother teresa ni kadu.. nuvvu matldate mataldki ee manishi aina paurusham vasatdi ani.

Meeku ilanti sutuations vastunaya.. ela deal chestunaruuu? naku chaala heavy ga undi.. depression vastundi. 

Fix yourself first 

[kiladi bullodu]

you also be laid back or one of you resign job and take care of house.

you start doing yoga & meditation

[vankarodu]

3 minutes ago, kiladi bullodu said:

you also be laid back or one of you resign job and take care of house.

you start doing yoga & meditation

and go to sc every friday

[explore]

1 hour ago, liteteesko said:

adi overnight solution kadu bro.. its a characteristic by birth. birth defect. taggichukovadam kuda practice cheyali ...daaniki she also must support and handle well in those situations. I tried and still trying.. but support and help lekunda i am feeling more depressed. depression feelings vastunayi.. mounanga undatam.. suicide contemplate alochaanlu

kopam tagginchukoni...patience pechukoni.....just be yourself...involve in smth u like and be busy...they will understand....

[explore]

14 minutes ago, vankarodu said:

and go to sc every friday

ne peru ku nyayam chesav

[Aakupaccha_caradu]

[samaja_varagamana]

1 hour ago, liteteesko said:

i and my wife have been married for about 5 years and we are not jelling well. I have anger issues. She has time management issues and other absent minded issues. doc deggariki vellam not very much progress. Usually she is a calm person. We have a kid and we both are working.

Na feeling and impression on her is like she is not well managed/organised person. Nene anni initiation teesukovali like kid doc appointment, bill payments, weekend plans etc. No mundu chupu ata all. but other wise family social life bane handle chestadi. so basically very laid back and na true feeling she is more like consumer ....consume the situation at home as it comes and just react to it. but  proactive ga emi cheyadu including showering love.  this is my opinion and she disagrees to this. Probbaly i am not seeing/feeling her efforts what she claims that she is doing.

matter enti ante idi ila undaga.. godavalu aitunayi.. like late chesina, ediana marchipoina, naku picha kopam vachi thidatanu. i should agree that na maatalu koncham rude ga untayi not demeaning or any bad words. naku enti ante tanu nerchukovali  ani but tanu chesina porapatle malli malli chestadi. like making me wait some while doing shopping .... she repeats and repeats same things again again. I scold her and remind her you are not learning from past situations. She has a reason for everything but result matram unadu.  nenu chala hurting ga matladutanu ani, nenu thitidhte eduru inka recha kodatadi inka finally matter racha racha aitadi.

Nenu chala sarlu cheppanu, nenu koncham thidithe nuvvu enduku malli rechagodatavu koncham ice cheste na kopam taagutadi kada ani. but her response is Nenu emi mother teresa ni kadu.. nuvvu matldate mataldki ee manishi aina paurusham vasatdi ani.

Meeku ilanti sutuations vastunaya.. ela deal chestunaruuu? naku chaala heavy ga undi.. depression vastundi. 

Baa  to. Say this neeku chadastham ekva undi prob mee wife lo kadu neelo unatu undi....thanu chill undi undani....antha serious ga life theskoni em peeekestharu 

Nen chusina live case ma dad jill jill jiga antadu ma mummy ma dad ni agam patisthadi but they are good going couple

Jara comedy angle add chesko baaa life lo....enjoy the roller coaster ride

Naku oka relation lo italane unde

[Kalam_Youtheman]

1 hour ago, liteteesko said:

i and my wife have been married for about 5 years and we are not jelling well. I have anger issues. She has time management issues and other absent minded issues. doc deggariki vellam not very much progress. Usually she is a calm person. We have a kid and we both are working.

Na feeling and impression on her is like she is not well managed/organised person. Nene anni initiation teesukovali like kid doc appointment, bill payments, weekend plans etc. No mundu chupu ata all. but other wise family social life bane handle chestadi. so basically very laid back and na true feeling she is more like consumer ....consume the situation at home as it comes and just react to it. but  proactive ga emi cheyadu including showering love.  this is my opinion and she disagrees to this. Probbaly i am not seeing/feeling her efforts what she claims that she is doing.

matter enti ante idi ila undaga.. godavalu aitunayi.. like late chesina, ediana marchipoina, naku picha kopam vachi thidatanu. i should agree that na maatalu koncham rude ga untayi not demeaning or any bad words. naku enti ante tanu nerchukovali  ani but tanu chesina porapatle malli malli chestadi. like making me wait some while doing shopping .... she repeats and repeats same things again again. I scold her and remind her you are not learning from past situations. She has a reason for everything but result matram unadu.  nenu chala hurting ga matladutanu ani, nenu thitidhte eduru inka recha kodatadi inka finally matter racha racha aitadi.

Nenu chala sarlu cheppanu, nenu koncham thidithe nuvvu enduku malli rechagodatavu koncham ice cheste na kopam taagutadi kada ani. but her response is Nenu emi mother teresa ni kadu.. nuvvu matldate mataldki ee manishi aina paurusham vasatdi ani.

Meeku ilanti sutuations vastunaya.. ela deal chestunaruuu? naku chaala heavy ga undi.. depression vastundi. 

meedhi arranged or love ?

 

looks like andhaari married life lo illaaantivi common bro... mee parents tho thana relation ela undhi ?

 

 to ask.. meeeru week lo how many times love make chesthaaaruu ?

[nandananditha]

@ TS   evi ficha common bro , looks like mistake is on your side , kopam taginchuko , try meditation 

time management  aithe its common with ladies , working lady antunav kabati , separate teaching not required 

 

venjoi