Cousin sister marriage in trouble

[pakeer_saab]

16 hours ago, abulu said:

She has aged parents. Been married over a decade.

Found out husband has illegal affair with other married women. He initially denied finally agreed and asking excuse for last time.

 

She called me personally and not informed anyone.

What should be our course of action? Andariki chepthe mari bare tegisthademo ani bayam.

Alagani divorce not a option since kid is there and cousin stay at home mother.

+ pedavallaki chepthe badha tappa emi vundadhu.so ilanti situation lo best way please advice. 🙏. Please no jokes.

its the new norm in india it seems, I have been hearing these a lot, anta gula unte get out of India. laws are nto favorable even for the most ethical and well behaved men, inka langa panulu chesi ela survive avutaaru. its only matter of time that he is led to streets by wife.

ask her to take him to counseling and give one last chance for him to reform.

else, document and file a case for divorce and ask for massive payout (something enough for his husband never to recover again). laws are very favorable to women in India

every person needs to be given second chance to reform. but clearly communicated that its going to be last chance.

proofs should be kept confidential and to be used only in case of divorce.

 

 

[pakeer_saab]

16 hours ago, abulu said:

That lady is married and has Engineering son.

Looks like she did it hidingly. Bil is a Shy guy.

gilladam lo leni shyness character ki enduku?

if the other side (women) has initiated it, its much easier to get rid of

[Vaaampireee]

16 hours ago, abulu said:

She has aged parents. Been married over a decade.

Found out husband has illegal affair with other married women. He initially denied finally agreed and asking excuse for last time.

 

She called me personally and not informed anyone.

What should be our course of action? Andariki chepthe mari bare tegisthademo ani bayam.

Alagani divorce not a option since kid is there and cousin stay at home mother.

+ pedavallaki chepthe badha tappa emi vundadhu.so ilanti situation lo best way please advice. 🙏. Please no jokes.

wife ki divorce ichi happy ga keep tho vundammanu anna

[pakeer_saab]

13 hours ago, DalchanChekka said:

Ask her to go to India for a bit. They need a break from each other. Oka 3 months time theskoni your cousin should analyze how she feels about their marriage and then decide what to do.

why one needs to go to india for every effing thing.

[shaktimaan]

I got involved into something similar a few years ago, close friend ani balavantham ga involve kaavalsi ochindi. Final ga vaallu baane unnaru, bakra ayyindi nenu. Think twice before you give any advise, if something goes wrong it will backfire and everyone will blame you.

Also, if a man is not sexually satisfied at home(for many reasons) he'll look somewhere else. Moral or ethical ane logic appudu chaala mandi chudaru. May be ask and talk to her if that's the issue.

[phatposts]

Nuvvu peddaga emi cheyyalevu - cheyyaku kooda. If you want to do something to your cousin that helps her - explain her what you can do and what you cannot so that she wont be expecting beyond reality. Make it clear whatever decision she takes you are there in her life  to support as a family member - like offering a listening ear and explain whatever she tells you, you will keep it confidential and will never be judgmental about it. There is a subtle way to convey that.

If you are married - give your partner a small headsup (not a detailed one) that your cousin is going through some tough times and you want to be available for her. 

[abulu]

12 hours ago, phatposts said:

Nuvvu peddaga emi cheyyalevu - cheyyaku kooda. If you want to do something to your cousin that helps her - explain her what you can do and what you cannot so that she wont be expecting beyond reality. Make it clear whatever decision she takes you are there in her life  to support as a family member - like offering a listening ear and explain whatever she tells you, you will keep it confidential and will never be judgmental about it. There is a subtle way to convey that.

If you are married - give your partner a small headsup (not a detailed one) that your cousin is going through some tough times and you want to be available for her. 

Yes bro 👍

[baku_keku]

16 hours ago, phatposts said:

Nuvvu peddaga emi cheyyalevu - cheyyaku kooda. If you want to do something to your cousin that helps her - explain her what you can do and what you cannot so that she wont be expecting beyond reality. Make it clear whatever decision she takes you are there in her life  to support as a family member - like offering a listening ear and explain whatever she tells you, you will keep it confidential and will never be judgmental about it. There is a subtle way to convey that.

If you are married - give your partner a small headsup (not a detailed one) that your cousin is going through some tough times and you want to be available for her. 

If you dont give headups , then your story will be posted in other ladies DB(indusladies) in same manner. be careful