Cousin gaadi dilemma - DB experts advise

[reality]

2 minutes ago, Android_Halwa said:

Already Babai inko pelli chesuko ane stage varaku vachindi ante first thing they were never happy with the wedding and they got a chance to persuade to break the marriage. Kids anedi oka bahana matrame...

nailed it… adhi matteruu

[Android_Halwa]

Primary reasons for such discussion are purely psychological reasons than clinical or scientific reasons. 

1. Ammayi brother ki autism vundi ani disclose cheyakapovadam mee babai ki basically nachaledu.

2. Saying so, mee babai concerns kuda kastha genuine concern ae kani the reasons that push him to come to such a conclusion are driven by unnessasary fears. fear mongering seppalante...

3. Preminchi pelli chesukovadam basically istam ledu, andulo thamudi ki autism vundi ani disclose cheyakapovadam anedi is acting like a catalyst, now when they want to have kids..collective ga ie reasons anni kids mida padutayi ane bhayam...babai concern kastha genuine ae kani he shouldn't be taken seriously. Emo ae reasons push chestunayo telvadu...

[Rushabhi]

Since he is probably an US citizen adopt an infant from India. OCI vallaki healthy kids e istharu and no need for parents to stay in India for 2 years like for H1 people. Takes 2-3 years to materialize though 
  If adoption is not possible then get genetic tests done. Autism in males can be caused due to genetic reasons. And if due to genetic reasons go for IVF.If not go for a known egg donor.
 

 

Every family will have some health issues. Ippudu cousin divorce teesukoni inko pelli chesukonesariki if he is above 40, sperm quality will decrease for him as well

[Spartan]

2 hours ago, veerigadu said:

Very unconventional opinion.
 

Ask a healthy woman to donate an egg. Use your cousin sperm. Once the zygote is formed then try to intravenously place this into your cousins wife’s uterus. 
 

She will still be a mother in a way. Since she is a doctor she may understand the rationale of it. 
 

He is a father. The kid will have his genes by all means.
 

And no genetic issues to be worried about. These people can still stay married. no need to divorce. 
 

Happy ending. 

anna e case lo wife is taking anti-depresents kada...

mari carrying appudu continue cheste...bisket chances ekkuva..

anduke adoption or surrogacy is better

[reality]

1 minute ago, Rushabhi said:

Since he is probably an US citizen adopt an infant from India. OCI vallaki healthy kids e istharu and no need for parents to stay in India for 2 years like for H1 people. Takes 2-3 years to materialize though 
  If adoption is not possible then get genetic tests done. Autism in males can be caused due to genetic reasons. And if due to genetic reasons go for IVF.If not go for a known egg donor.
 

 

Every family will have some health issues. Ippudu cousin divorce teesukoni inko pelli chesukonesariki if he is above 40, sperm quality will decrease for him as well

Papam aa ammayi ni stigmatize chesthunnaru over-engineering chesi…  think from her perspective for a minute… 

[Rushabhi]

1 minute ago, Spartan said:

anna e case lo wife is taking anti-depresents kada...

mari carrying appudu continue cheste...bisket chances ekkuva..

anduke adoption or surrogacy is better

Many people carry while using anti depressants

[Spartan]

Just now, Rushabhi said:

Many people carry while using anti depressants

those mess with baby development..

pain killer, fever vaste kuda tablet vaddu antaru..inka anti-depressant lantivi ante kashtame

[Rushabhi]

5 minutes ago, reality said:

Papam aa ammayi ni stigmatize chesthunnaru over-engineering chesi…  think from her perspective for a minute… 

Not stigmatizing. Sorry if I came across that way. Males lo autism ki genetic reasons are common. If genetic reason then there are multiple ways to get around it ani naa bhavam. Ee matram daanike divorce and inkokallani pelli ante, kotha ga chesukune vaalla family lo emi issues undava or eeyana cousin e old ayipoda aa time ki ani. Old ayye koddi even for men reproduction ki complications vasthayi

[Sixers]

Emo evadiki telusu antha lottery. Kontha mandiki raadu konthamandiki vathundii inkonthamandiki suppress ayyi next generation lo vasthundi. Anni lottery ne. 

[Complex]

3 minutes ago, Rushabhi said:

Not stigmatizing. Sorry if I came across that way. Males lo autism ki genetic reasons are common. If genetic reason then there are multiple ways to get around it ani naa bhavam. Ee matram daanike divorce and inkokallani pelli ante, kotha chesukune vaalla family lo emi issues undava or eeyana cousin e old ayipoda aa time ki ani. Old ayye koddi even for men reproduction ki complications vasthayi

late 30's e kadha.. I saw uncles having babies in  their 40's here.

[reality]

3 minutes ago, Rushabhi said:

Not stigmatizing. Sorry if I came across that way. Males lo autism ki genetic reasons are common. If genetic reason then there are multiple ways to get around it ani naa bhavam. Ee matram daanike divorce and inkokallani pelli ante, kotha ga chesukune vaalla family lo emi issues undava or eeyana cousin e old ayipoda aa time ki ani. Old ayye koddi even for men reproduction ki complications vasthayi

Not saying about you… but within the family, proposing another marriage… magnifying the issue will make the things worse.

Practically speaking, how many people weigh all those factors, family/personal history of the partner before going for the kid? Your workaround suggestions are good, but my point is why to even get there if the couple is mentally strong to have their own kid.

[Rushabhi]

9 minutes ago, Complex said:

late 30's e kadha.. I saw uncles having babies in  their 40's here.

In many studies men sperm quality decreased after around 40-45. Although they produce sperm regularly unlike women, the quality decreases. Because of that chances of miscarriages and pregnancy complications will increase. 

[Rushabhi]

1 minute ago, reality said:

Not saying about you… but within the family, proposing another marriage… magnifying the issue will make the things worse.

Practically speaking, how many people weigh all those factors, family/personal history of the partner before going for the kid? Your workaround suggestions are good, but my point is why to even get there if the couple is mentally strong to have their own kid.

The cousin also seems to be in dilemma kadha here. Is he mentally strong though 

[Android_Halwa]

Just now, Rushabhi said:

The cousin also seems to be in dilemma kadha here. Is he mentally strong though 

Valla intlollu "The cousin"  ni brainwash chesi roju ki oka new paint coating estunaru...inkemi strong akada..

[reality]

Just now, Rushabhi said:

The cousin also seems to be in dilemma kadha here. Is he mentally strong though 

Valid point…. result of becoming a doctor himself, irony! They should rather go for some counseling and stay away from family pressure.