Cousin gaadi dilemma - DB experts advise

[tennisluvrredux]

Maa Babai koduku, second cousin India lo medicine chadivadu, puttindi India lo but grew up in US in middle school and high school, after bachelor's medical school ki India velladu, came back did his residency here and now started practicing since 3 years. As you know he was already into his 30s by the time all this is done, he met a fellow indian doctor during residency and intlo decide ayipoyaru set le ika Ani and they got married shortly after their residency.

Pelliki mundu teliyadu kaani he got to know over the years that she has bipolar tendencies, adi sure ga telavaka poina she takes anti depressants for her depression which is diagnosed clinically. Now this is having some effect negatively on his relationship. But he has a bigger concern. 

 

To be contd...

[dewarist]

DB ki friday traffic boost arrived early on wednesday

[tennisluvrredux]

Cousin wife ki oka tammudunnadu, vaadu konchem shy type peddaga kalavadu annaru pelliki mundu, sare that's fine ani he didn't care much. But then he got to know after marriage that he was diagnosed with both ADHD and autism spectrum disorder growing up as a child, and he didn't know this prior to marriage.

Now maa odi dilemma entante time is running out for kids, his wife is the same age as him(mid 30s) and if they have a child together which they are trying to, he is worried about the kid being autistic due to the uncle having autism from the mom's side. 

Maa Babai inko Pelli chesuko mani antunnadu cousin doesn't want to but he wants to have kids so he's conflicted, what's the risk of a child having autism due to the mom's bipolar/depression issues and the uncle being autistic.

Emanna info unte share.

[tennisluvrredux]

Kid being autistic is 3 times more likely if a maternal uncle has the condition ani proved from a research article. 

https://www.additudemag.com/asd-autism-rates-higher-autistic-aunt-uncle/

I am trying to help my Babai as he asked me for advise so finding out all info I can. 

Vuuu

[megadheera]

Indulo dilemma emundi. Pelli aindi kada..he wants to end marriage? It can be treated clinically antunnavu kada inka problem enti?

[tennisluvrredux]

1 minute ago, megadheera said:

Indulo dilemma emundi. Pelli aindi kada..he wants to end marriage? It can be treated clinically antunnavu kada inka problem enti?

Cousin doesn't want to but Babai thinks his kid will turn out to be autistic so cousin is conflicted. Autism ki treatment ante doubt it, I heard kids will be dependent on parents their entire life. 

[Vaampire]

Mee cousin ey medicine chadivadu. Athanikantey ee db members ki ekkuva telusthada?

[kittaya]

4 minutes ago, tennisluvrredux said:

Cousin wife ki oka tammudunnadu, vaadu konchem shy type peddaga kalavadu annaru pelliki mundu, sare that's fine ani he didn't care much. But then he got to know after marriage that he was diagnosed with both ADHD and autism spectrum disorder growing up as a child, and he didn't know this prior to marriage.

Now maa odi dilemma entante time is running out for kids, his wife is the same age as him(mid 30s) and if they have a child together which they are trying to, he is worried about the kid being autistic due to the uncle having autism from the mom's side. 

Maa Babai inko Pelli chesuko mani antunnadu cousin doesn't want to but he wants to have kids so he's conflicted, what's the risk of a child having autism due to the mom's bipolar/depression issues and the uncle being autistic.

Emanna info unte share.

Effect of uncle is very very very less .... It's the dad  and mom who is responsible for the kid... Mostly dad I say.. that decided on gender ... 

 

Don't think of getting kids in pressure... It will lead to psychological problems... 

 

Get kids when they were happy and atleast ok... And dad accepts the current situation.... 

 

While planning... leave the outside world .. and live in their world.. until she is 5 months pregnant.... 

 

 

 

 

 

[dewarist]

Better check with doctor's to determine the how much of a probability would be there of having a autistic kid since there is something like that in family history.

Raising an autistic kid is not easy even for normal people and moreover based on what you described , your cousin's wife is also having some psychological issues. I would strongly suggest to not have kids if she is taking anti depressants now too. Mee vaadu kooda picchodu aipothadu aa environment lo. Having a kid is a long term commitment and having a autistic kid is a bigger commitment.

Check the odds with a specialist and seek their recommendation.

[Vaampire]

Google search results: roughly 1.5% is the probability of autism.

3-5% when maternal uncle or aunt had it.

 

[tennisluvrredux]

3 minutes ago, Vaampire said:

Mee cousin ey medicine chadivadu. Athanikantey ee db members ki ekkuva telusthada?

Internal medicine baa. Cousin knows the risks and he's aware, but Babai kastha ekkuva digulu ga unnadu basic ga love marriage they didn't know about bammardis autism issue before they got married 

[tennisluvrredux]

2 minutes ago, dewarist said:

Better check with doctor's to determine the how much of a probability would be there of having a autistic kid since there is something like that in family history.

Raising an autistic kid is not easy even for normal people and moreover based on what you described , your cousin's wife is also having some psychological issues. I would strongly suggest to not have kids if she is taking anti depressants now too. Mee vaadu kooda picchodu aipothadu aa environment lo. Having a kid is a long term commitment and having a autistic kid is a bigger commitment.

Check the odds with a specialist and seek their recommendation.

This is good advise, will tell my Babai to find out on these lines 

[kittaya]

3 minutes ago, tennisluvrredux said:

Cousin doesn't want to but Babai thinks his kid will turn out to be autistic so cousin is conflicted. Autism ki treatment ante doubt it, I heard kids will be dependent on parents their entire life. 

That's very worst situation.... Alantidi mana Indian kids lo...  Very minimal.... When they are happy get the kids... That's the best solution... If dad's side alantidi emi lekapothe... Mostly raadhu vayya... 

 

I know a family maternal and paternal side.... Asalu evariki ae problem ledhu.... But this family got autistic kid... 

[tennisluvrredux]

Just now, kittaya said:

That's very worst situation.... Alantidi mana Indian kids lo...  Very minimal.... When they are happy get the kids... That's the best solution... If dad's side alantidi emi lekapothe... Mostly raadhu vayya... 

 

I know a family maternal and paternal side.... Asalu evariki ae problem ledhu.... But this family got autistic kid... 

Oh okay wow

[tennisluvrredux]

2 minutes ago, Vaampire said:

Google search results: roughly 1.5% is the probability of autism.

3-5% when maternal uncle or aunt had it.

 

3 times higher ante ekkuve ga Mari, that's what I found out as well.