pellam tho situation bad pls help..

[nenu_meeku_telusa]

I’m not opposing anything you said. But we need other side of story as well. May be there are points from her perspective that is an issue for her. First you need to sit with your wife and clear things out. Db can’t give a suggestion. Bringing any third person into relation just makes things worse unless you are going for divorce. 

[pushparaj]

2 hours ago, BejawadaChow said:

Madi kind of love&arrange marriage, basically she is dominating character and right from marraige next day ma cousins and akka tho godava ( godava ante dominating in all discussions and complaining about them to me so on ) and from that day ma akka tho matladadu never call/message her and madyalo chala pedda godava kuda ayyinid akka ki and wife ki about some stupid reasons that's different story.

we had 2 girls btw,  and almost na wife valla cousins tho and ma fnds and fnds wife's tho kuda godavalu padindi because of that stupid behaviour and she never talks to them and they also do the same.

Ekkada problem enti ante, tanaki gurthu vachinappudalla me akka nannu tittindi ani 4 years back topic testundi and ma fnds/fnds wife's tho aina discussions testundi nenu ma fnds tho matladoddu anta , hangout avvoddu anta,  ado stupid reasons cheppi na tho almost week lo 3 days godava padatadi every week

she is house wife , tana tho discussions valla asal work concentrate cheyaleka potunna, em cheyalo ardam kavatledu.. appudappudu agree to her and keep life simple anipistundi ,kani i can't , how many times should i compromise my life and decisions.

Godva okate kadu, intlo furniture nunchi groceries daka tanaki nachinde kontundi, naku nachi emaina furniture or grocery item konte adi return eche daka urukodu, basical ga aa item enduku konnano dani importance ento cheppina vinadu.

so , i started losing my self in life, babies mokam chusi undali kani tana tho asal undali ani pinchatledu.

em cheyali pls help..fnds and family tho discuss cheyalenu..they thinks we are happy.

 

How old is your kids? Are you guys in 20s or late 30s ? 

[Tellugodu]

4 hours ago, BejawadaChow said:

Madi kind of love&arrange marriage, basically she is dominating character and right from marraige next day ma cousins and akka tho godava ( godava ante dominating in all discussions and complaining about them to me so on ) and from that day ma akka tho matladadu never call/message her and madyalo chala pedda godava kuda ayyinid akka ki and wife ki about some stupid reasons that's different story.

we had 2 girls btw,  and almost na wife valla cousins tho and ma fnds and fnds wife's tho kuda godavalu padindi because of that stupid behaviour and she never talks to them and they also do the same.

Ekkada problem enti ante, tanaki gurthu vachinappudalla me akka nannu tittindi ani 4 years back topic testundi and ma fnds/fnds wife's tho aina discussions testundi nenu ma fnds tho matladoddu anta , hangout avvoddu anta,  ado stupid reasons cheppi na tho almost week lo 3 days godava padatadi every week

she is house wife , tana tho discussions valla asal work concentrate cheyaleka potunna, em cheyalo ardam kavatledu.. appudappudu agree to her and keep life simple anipistundi ,kani i can't , how many times should i compromise my life and decisions.

Godva okate kadu, intlo furniture nunchi groceries daka tanaki nachinde kontundi, naku nachi emaina furniture or grocery item konte adi return eche daka urukodu, basical ga aa item enduku konnano dani importance ento cheppina vinadu.

so , i started losing my self in life, babies mokam chusi undali kani tana tho asal undali ani pinchatledu.

em cheyali pls help..fnds and family tho discuss cheyalenu..they thinks we are happy.

 

Job cheyadu + no katnam, how you loved that girl man, considering you wanted to live in US ? very bad choice/decision . 

[CanadianMalodu]

2 hours ago, noface_god said:

Brother, I felt like I am reading my own story. Here are my suggestions: 

1. Take care of your mom, father and keep good relation with your sis but reduce your communication. 

2. Make sure your wife is busy with kids and house hold chores. If she can work, that is even better. 

3. Don't focus too much on fighting, if she says something which spooking just don't take it to heart. 

4. A bad wife is a gate way to spirituality, explore spiritual world and your wife will not bother you at all

Bad wife means a choice went bad. No need to stick to her. Let go and live your life. Vairagyaniki spirituality ki chala teda undhi

[anteNaa]

I've heard similar problems in other families as well. My intuition tells me that WFH is contributing lot of insensitive issues in couples which i believe is due to the couple becoming over accustomed to each other thus potentially leading to strained relationships. While this observation may vary based on individuals, my general thoguht is, husbands should spend less time at home and engage in frequent outdoor activities. Mostly work-related commitments, social gatherings, and meetups with friends. The reason i say work-related outing is again to get into her good books and she doesn't feel left out when her spouse is having fun. I feel this could help maintain a healthy balance in relationships by making a gap between each other life and creating curiosity(spark) of what is happening in each other life. 

But, Whatever the case is please dont take it to your heart and try your best to have little effect with other people words. Let it be your wife, your mother or your sister, Keep in mind that everyone has their personal life and are occupied with their own matters. As you age, you may find yourself alone with the life you've chosen. It doesn't mean you have to ignore your mother or sisters comments but choose the opinions that resonate best with you and your future self. I hope this helps !!

[Aquaman]

me wife ki kuda baga thelusu that you don't have guts to initiate divorce... so you are stuck.. she will dominate lifelong... thapadhu accept cheyali mari dharyam lekapothe...

 

You can leave her ani thanaki thelisi nappudu.. bhayapadi.. she will bend..

 

better india poyinapudu valla parents mundhu conditions pettu ila undali ani...apude neku ok ani

 

ledha..

 

worst case lo divorce  ki po... kids unnaru kabbati..koncham kastame...atla ani me mental peace lekunda bhatakatam kastam

 

 

 

 

[Aquaman]

2 hours ago, Tellugodu said:

Job cheyadu + no katnam, how you loved that girl man, considering you wanted to live in US ? very bad choice/decision . 

beautiful emo..most boys beauty ki bend ayipotharu em lekunna

[Aquaman]

3 hours ago, nenu_meeku_telusa said:

I’m not opposing anything you said. But we need other side of story as well. May be there are points from her perspective that is an issue for her. First you need to sit with your wife and clear things out. Db can’t give a suggestion. Bringing any third person into relation just makes things worse unless you are going for divorce. 

right... thrid person ki sagam sagm chepthe.... recha gotti.. relationship kampu kampu chestharu

[Aquaman]

4 hours ago, Spartan said:

divorce kuda mamul ga ivvaru ilantollu

you make them feel your importance in their life and need ... appude line lo ki vastaru

saw live close situation in our circle

i saw one couple..

psycho type untaru..

i suffer.. you also suffer .. no escape laga

[Aquaman]

6 hours ago, csrcsr said:

Rofl chinna chinna problems bro you will over come

pillodu suffering anna..y laughing .. give him tips

[csrcsr]

3 minutes ago, Aquaman said:

pillodu suffering anna..y laughing .. give him tips

Mogudu pellala godvallo durodu repu valu honey honey anukuntunu baane ubtaru manalani vp chetsaru in most cases

[shaktimaan]

31 minutes ago, csrcsr said:

Mogudu pellala godvallo durodu repu valu honey honey anukuntunu baane ubtaru manalani vp chetsaru in most cases

naaku manchi experience undi…comedy piece chesaru nannu 

[BejawadaChow]

6 hours ago, Pahelwan2 said:

Going by your situation best thing is to talk to girl parents tell them what you are going through. Also sex life kuda fasak anukuntuna which will add more frustration. I don’t recommend taking divorce. Just let them time answer it. Many people will change as time goes. 

in my situation wife parents are worst than her, my wife and her sister learnt all the qualities from her mom.

valla amma kuda relatives andari tho ela ne godavalu padutundi ani ma co-brother tolded.

btw, same situation with my co-brother as well.

so wife parents are useless and vallani aath care chestadi.

[JavaBava]

8 hours ago, BejawadaChow said:

Madi kind of love&arrange marriage, basically she is dominating character and right from marraige next day ma cousins and akka tho godava ( godava ante dominating in all discussions and complaining about them to me so on ) and from that day ma akka tho matladadu never call/message her and madyalo chala pedda godava kuda ayyinid akka ki and wife ki about some stupid reasons that's different story.

we had 2 girls btw,  and almost na wife valla cousins tho and ma fnds and fnds wife's tho kuda godavalu padindi because of that stupid behaviour and she never talks to them and they also do the same.

Ekkada problem enti ante, tanaki gurthu vachinappudalla me akka nannu tittindi ani 4 years back topic testundi and ma fnds/fnds wife's tho aina discussions testundi nenu ma fnds tho matladoddu anta , hangout avvoddu anta,  ado stupid reasons cheppi na tho almost week lo 3 days godava padatadi every week

she is house wife , tana tho discussions valla asal work concentrate cheyaleka potunna, em cheyalo ardam kavatledu.. appudappudu agree to her and keep life simple anipistundi ,kani i can't , how many times should i compromise my life and decisions.

Godva okate kadu, intlo furniture nunchi groceries daka tanaki nachinde kontundi, naku nachi emaina furniture or grocery item konte adi return eche daka urukodu, basical ga aa item enduku konnano dani importance ento cheppina vinadu.

so , i started losing my self in life, babies mokam chusi undali kani tana tho asal undali ani pinchatledu.

em cheyali pls help..fnds and family tho discuss cheyalenu..they thinks we are happy.

 

vadili paradobbu alamti waste narcissistic candidate ni 

[JavaBava]

1 minute ago, JavaBava said:

vadili paradobbu alamti waste narcissistic candidate ni 

asalu vinaku .. atu side story ledu time ledu .. you will suffer for the rest of the life .. asalu amta torture candidate ani telsi kuda kids daaka enduku potaro nakardam kadu bro .. first 1-2 yrs lo ardam ayinapude vadileyyali ilanti vallani