Arranged marriage market lo unna poragallara

[tennisluvr]

14 minutes ago, Amrita said:

I don’t agree with you completely . Generalizations are not good whether it is about men or women . 

I told yes to a guy and within 2 weeks I got to know he is living with a woman in his apartment for years . I was very much hurt and he talked with so much interest all the time . I was very hurt he came back too but I told chachina nenu accept cheyanu and that I don’t have big heart . Ma intlo kuda they were extremely hurt and family friends kuda since 20 years . Now tell me should I judge every guy is a idiot ? This is not first experience .

Inko abbayi I was talking on phone we didn’t meet but his wedding registry chusa online and that girl was on my cousins face book I enquired through cousin and caught him on call . All he did was to apologize. 

Ippduu Andaru guys idiots ani generalize cheyala? Ok I do then what ? Still I need a guy in my life . Rather I would be hopeful that I would get a good guy . I would always think when I have good guys in family and friends why can’t I get one in my life . Negative ga approach avvadam kanna I feel positive ga should get into a relationship but yes should be careful and observe their conversations and if they are really interested in this relationship or alliance . Inka if we land with wrong person it’s our kharma and we have no choice but to accept it . 

Same hold for girls too .

Don't mind me saying this but why does it seem like you constantly run into the bottom of the pile guys like this, one guy who's too rigid and traditional who expects you to cook at 5 am, one who wants to make you walk in PF Chang's, now this guy who's in a live in relationship and another one who is already married and looking for a second marriage without telling you about the first one. 

Like why would you attract such guys, are you telling me there's not a single guy who didn't have all the above baggage that you couldn't talk to? Not knocking on you, just curious because none of the people I know have encountered these kind of extremely weird people. 

[kevinUsa]

10 minutes ago, Amrita said:

I don’t agree with you completely . Generalizations are not good whether it is about men or women . 

I told yes to a guy and within 2 weeks I got to know he is living with a woman in his apartment for years . I was very much hurt and he talked with so much interest all the time . I was very hurt he came back too but I told chachina nenu accept cheyanu and that I don’t have big heart . Ma intlo kuda they were extremely hurt and family friends kuda since 20 years . Now tell me should I judge every guy is a idiot ? This is not first experience .

Inko abbayi I was talking on phone we didn’t meet but his wedding registry chusa online and that girl was on my cousins face book I enquired through cousin and caught him on call . All he did was to apologize. 

Ippduu Andaru guys idiots ani generalize cheyala? Ok I do then what ? Still I need a guy in my life . Rather I would be hopeful that I would get a good guy . I would always think when I have good guys in family and friends why can’t I get one in my life . Negative ga approach avvadam kanna I feel positive ga should get into a relationship but yes should be careful and observe their conversations and if they are really interested in this relationship or alliance . Inka if we land with wrong person it’s our kharma and we have no choice but to accept it . 

Same hold for girls too .

akka same situation with me in girls 

dont gneralise me nenu edo pedda criminal annadu family mottam interview chesindi 

i dont blame you both of us have extremes.   

EOD we need someone to share our feelings too kada 

[nearachakam]

Just now, kevinUsa said:

akka same situation with me in girls 

dont gneralise me nenu edo pedda criminal annadu family mottam interview chesindi 

i dont blame you both of us have extremes.   

EOD we need someone to share our feelings too kada 

DB undi ga @kevinUsa uncle.

[Amrita]

4 minutes ago, tennisluvr said:

 So you are saying he's already married to someone but was talking to you for another arranged marriage? Polygamy? 

He was about to get married in a month and half and that girl had a wedding registry online . He is talking to me as he is forced by parents . He could have told me that but was talking as if he is interested in this alliance . Valla parents desperation fast ga cheseddam andi ani . He had amazing profile Akkade naku doubt vachindi why are they behind my parents and begging ani . She was American girl valla parents don’t like him marrying that girl . Their mess . But parents kuda ala unnaru telustondi did they at least think from human perspective that my life would have been in mess if he unfortunately marries me in pressure ? Would he stop going to her and wouldn’t my dreams be shattered ? Pedda Vallu kuda takkuva em unnaru ? 

[MagaMaharaju]

1 minute ago, Amrita said:

He was about to get married in a month and half and that girl had a wedding registry online . He is talking to me as he is forced by parents . He could have told me that but was talking as if he is interested in this alliance . Valla parents desperation fast ga cheseddam andi ani . He had amazing profile Akkade naku doubt vachindi why are they behind my parents and begging ani . She was American girl valla parents don’t like him marrying that girl . Their mess . But parents kuda ala unnaru telustondi did they at least think from human perspective that my life would have been in mess if he unfortunately marries me in pressure ? Would he stop going to her and wouldn’t my dreams be shattered ? Pedda Vallu kuda takkuva em unnaru ? 

Good that you could save yourself. Sounds like a night mare.

[kevinUsa]

2 minutes ago, Amrita said:

wedding registry online

ante enti ?

 

[papampasivadu]

7 minutes ago, Amrita said:

I agree with this but can’t be this way . I think one girl with one guy concept to Pelli vachi undachu for health reasons . Kids need parents must be another reason . Accountability and security so they just don’t leave relationship when they want and leave other person broken . Other than these emaina unnayemo I don’t know . 

one-guy girl concept : how does the paper affect the loyality to guy/girl?...cheating chese vadu elaagu chestadu

kids need parents. I agree. both parents can live in the same house and raise their kids without getting married. who's stopping you from doing that???

Accountability and security??? are you kidding me...do you really think those two will come thru marriage? married people can and are leaving left and right thru divorce...

 

brings us back to the same question, what diff will that paper make?

[Run]

9 minutes ago, papampasivadu said:

Society gurinchi mana baasha lo cheptaa vinuko baa:

Society is like audience watching seenu vytla's movie...hero gadu brahmanandam ni eedchi eedchi kodatha unte vellu pagalabadi navvutha untaaru...

Nee pelli lo kuda society role adhe...valla kosam nuvvu brahmi vi avtha ante go ahead...ninnu evvadu aapaledu 

.india lo telusu ga...pakintlo em jaruguthundho important... me abbayi pelli eppudu? parents emo arey answer cheyalekapothunam ani...

[tennisluvr]

Just now, kevinUsa said:

ante enti ?

 

People register their wedding on some websites so that guests could buy and donate items they would need after the wedding to start a new home. You can buy items like for kitchen, bathroom etc or give them a gift card as well. 

[MagaMaharaju]

1 minute ago, kevinUsa said:

ante enti ?

 

naku telidhu

[bcomlophysics]

1 hour ago, SeemaLekka said:

avna aithe @karthikn anna chudalsinde

Karthik anna samaja anna radar lo leru 

[Run]

5 minutes ago, Amrita said:

He was about to get married in a month and half and that girl had a wedding registry online . He is talking to me as he is forced by parents . He could have told me that but was talking as if he is interested in this alliance . Valla parents desperation fast ga cheseddam andi ani . He had amazing profile Akkade naku doubt vachindi why are they behind my parents and begging ani . She was American girl valla parents don’t like him marrying that girl . Their mess . But parents kuda ala unnaru telustondi did they at least think from human perspective that my life would have been in mess if he unfortunately marries me in pressure ? Would he stop going to her and wouldn’t my dreams be shattered ? Pedda Vallu kuda takkuva em unnaru ? 

ala oka site undhi ani kuda thelvadh...me a tought ela vachindhi..check cheyalani?

[kevinUsa]

2 minutes ago, MagaMaharaju said:

naku telidhu

pm ku reply ivvu ?

[kevinUsa]

Just now, Run said:

ala oka site undhi ani kuda thelvadh...me a tought ela vachindhi..check cheyalani?

avunu baa 

jai db 

[tennisluvr]

3 minutes ago, Amrita said:

He was about to get married in a month and half and that girl had a wedding registry online . He is talking to me as he is forced by parents . He could have told me that but was talking as if he is interested in this alliance . Valla parents desperation fast ga cheseddam andi ani . He had amazing profile Akkade naku doubt vachindi why are they behind my parents and begging ani . She was American girl valla parents don’t like him marrying that girl . Their mess . But parents kuda ala unnaru telustondi did they at least think from human perspective that my life would have been in mess if he unfortunately marries me in pressure ? Would he stop going to her and wouldn’t my dreams be shattered ? Pedda Vallu kuda takkuva em unnaru ? 

So you are saying he was marrying a local American girl as in White/Black/Asian etc and although his parents knew that they still "forced" him to talk to you, with what? With an intent to marry him to you knowing that he's committed to marrying his fiance in a month and half. That makes absolutely ZERO sense to me, why would the girl he's getting married to be okay with such an arrangement even if he and you both were to marry each other. It sounds like you are very interested in him based on your description about his "amazing" profile, but realizing he won't be as he's not serious about marriage feel you were cheated. 

Hmm idk, I find this really really really weird. For one thing, any Indian guy that's prepared to marry a non Indian girl would hardly be that indecisive to get "pressurized" by his parents to talk to an Indian girl esp for marriage purposes. So I don't know, the pieces aren't fitting in here.